I just wanna cry

[maxxsmommy]

We just found out yesterday that my husband is losing his job and that we are getting kicked out of our home, I now have to get rid of all my animals! I just started getting eggs from all my girls and now I need to find them homes. *tear* All I can say is life is very unfair!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Thank you for being so kind, I'm sorry I'm positing my issues on here, but i seriously need some people to talk to! Its eating me up inside knowing I can't provide for my children. Here is a little background info .. My husbands mother and family live here in Minnesota, They wont help us because they have before and they are tired of trying to help us.. My family lives in Utah. I have no family here in Minnesota... We have an option but my husband wont do it. My cousin lives in Texas and is offering her home to us till we can get back on our feet. My husband will not move away from his family... so that option is out. We have no where to go, no money saved up (we were barely living off what he was making). People like his boss make me sick! Right when we get things put back together from the last time this happened, he tells my husband that they are letting him go and that we need to be out of the house by the 3rd of December... I honestly feel like I am the worst parent alive right now. My poor kids always having to deal with this crap! Thank you all for your kind words!

As I mentioned before I have been through this, I have no family really here in except for my husbands family. When we were faced with this situation his family would not help us, even though they could very well do so. In the end I had a friend help me, but the catch was that she lived all the way in the west coast. My husband did not want to leave his family either, but I told him that I refused to be homeless with a baby, I love my husband and I respect him, but sometimes their pride and brains are not in the right spot. I told him, he could come with me or stay, but that either way I was going for the sake of my daughter. I didn't budge with my decision, and in the end he realized a warm place to sleep and a safe environment for our daughter was most important. I know its hard to make these decisions. especially when your better half does not agree with them. but to be honest, your children come first. It doesn't mean you have to leave forever, just until things begin to look up. If your sister is willing to help, take the help. In the meantime he can still look for a job and other opportunities, but at least if things do not pan out you have a place to go, instead of being left out in the cold, with a suitcase and 2 young precious children wondering how things like this could ever happen to you guys. Children are resilient, but they will be scared, do what is best for them and for yourself. This way this Christmas when it comes they will be surrounded by family, not strangers, its only temporary, does not mean you have to live in texas from here on. and your dh can still look for a job in Minnesota.

Don't beat yourself up for circumstances you cannot foresee. I know the feeling you describe well. but you can and have the ability to make a very wise decision. no matter how hard it is, the most important thing right now, no matter what else is going on in your life, is your children, nothing more, nothing less. And don't worry about posting here on BYC, that is why we are here, so you can reach out when you need the help the most, when you need to vent and when you need the moral support the most, or prayers.

thinking of you guys,

Ema

Husband doesn't want to move away from his family, but they are tired of helping out? Tough; you have a place to go that will give you breathing space. THe move does not have to be permanent, but is a no-brainer until one of you gets a job.

I think what you really need to ask yourself is whether your husband is really pulling his weight.

ok--I can see your post where he has damaged equipment and does not follow rules. Quite frankly, it sounds like y'all are lucky that he is not being sued for the cost of repairs. Who says the other people working there make as many mistakes? And if they really do, are they truly as costly to the business owner as damaged equipment? I do feel a huge amount of sympathy for you and the situation in which you have been placed, but I think that faulting the boss is placing the blame in the wrong place. He is operating a business, not a charity, and employees should be earning money for the company, not creating losses.

 

[annie3001]

so sorry your going thru this. be strong for your daughter, sounds like you are.... you can get thru this. It might take sometime and some changes. just be strong. and have a cry, its okay.

and it will be ok.

 

[Rte.66_chicks]

I am so sorry. What a horrible thing to happen!

 

[ChickenCanoe]

Believe me, I feel your pain.

The only consolation is that I know I'm not the Lone Ranger in this economy. It's happening all over the world.

 

[chicmom]

Oh I am SO SORRY! Lots of people are in this same situation. Yesterday, my husband, who has had bronchitis lately, coughed so hard that he dislocated a rib at work. His boss had to drive him to the ER, and then brought him home. My husband doesn't get sick time, so if he's not at work he doesn't get paid.

In the meantime, I work, but we still have too many bills for my salary alone to make ends meet. So I feel ya! Believe me! And I'm wishing you the best.

Take care and hang in there,
Sharon

 

[artsy1]

Will It Ever Change??????????
Things Are So Bad In This Country..........
Everyone In My Family Is Struggling.....my Adult Child Had To Move Back In With Us.cost Of Everything Is So High.......esspecially Food


I Will Say A Prayer For You

 

[Gypsi]

I will say a prayer for you too. These are very difficult times. I count myself blessed each day just to have a place to live and an old truck.

 

[Avalon1984]

So sorry to hear about that

I hope your hubby will be able to find employment soon and maybe there is hope to keep the animals.

 

[muddyhorse]