Ok I am not a girlie girl now, nor was I ever BUT my daughter is BIG TIME. She is 9 and is hitting the age where all heck breaks lose. She is trying all sorts of styles now, and wants to wear heals, colored hair streaks, and feathers, and make up. ( it was a heck no to make up btw) At her age I was climbing trees and shooting guns. This is not going to go well for me. She is maturing a bit early. I was hoping the fact that she was a skinny minny for so long she would not but the poor child is getting curves already. I feel bad for her because none of her friends are but this is genetic. We were all the same way. Its life. She has barbie unrealities about clothing and looks. So whats the secret to guiding them through all this. How much do I let her figure out for herself and where can I help without pushing in where angels fear to tread. Advice now before I mess up would be great. Advice before she tries to starve her hips away would be good too. I already have to watch her carefully to make sure she eats. My mom just let me figure it all out on my own. After my 2nd child she did mention maybe having that talk someday. ummm think I have it all figured out now but thanks. sigh I am at a loss. One second she is admiring herself the next she is trying to squish her hips back into the right shape ( flat). Its not going to help that my mom mentions she is getting a bit chubby. She isn't but she is curving out and its not an easy time for either of us. So.... new clothes? movies to watch? books to read? convents to send her too? I am up for someone else handling this part of child raising. Maybe having girls was not such a great idea for me and I still have another one to go.