I need to vent and my DH won't listen to me :( SORRY LONG

[paganfish]

I stand by what I said but, I didn't say it had to be a stand. I just said that if the parties involved were miserable (which I read it to be the case) then something needed to be done...boundaries set. There is NOTHING wrong with that...in my book.

-Sometimes people are being helpful and that is always welcome!

-Sometimes people are being controlling and DON'T know it! In this case, they need to be made aware of it before it gets too out of hand.

HOWEVER, there is a difference between being helpful and being controlling. I have dealt with both people...

Peace-

Pedro

PS If I was wrong about the person being miserable and they can grin and bare it...I am all for that.

 

[eggcetra_farms]

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Oooooooh yeah, just wait.......

If people who DON'T have babies think they're smarter than you, just wait for any old person to get in your business. I love older people, but they get set in their ways about things. Like telling you to rub rum or whiskey on a toothing baby's gums and outdated things like that. There is NO way you can convince them otherwise. Good luck to you my friend....I feel your pain.

 

[gritsar]

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It's for this reason and many more that I'm glad my family is back east and far far away from me here in Arkansas! I can sympathize with you because I dealt with that lots of times back when I rented; not from family, but from well-meaning elderly landlords. It really is something that you have to kinda grin and bear when dealing with the elderly. Most of them lived thru the depression and have totally different financial values than the younger generations do.
I totally agree with Trout. When you are renting a home and making your rent payments on time that home is YOUR property for all intents and purposes. No one, including the landlord, has the right to come there without your permission, except in the case of extreme emergencies, such as a water line break, etc. They have to give you notice before coming in to do repairs. You have to abide by any rules and regulations set down in a lease, but I'm guessing since she's a relative you don't have a lease?
Other than that, all I can say is I feel bad for you. If it makes you feel any better, my 85 year old Dad called me last week to criticize me for not doing better in gym class in high school, note: I'm 45 years old now!!

 

[TransplantedTexan]

I don't know about your state but I believe in Wi a landlord must give written notice prior to entering the premises with out you being present. You pay rent, you can lock up your things. I would slap a lock on the chicken run door. Don't ask, just do it. This puts the onus on here. She would have to make a stink about it, and demand you take it off. Then you have a reason to pipe up and ask why she should be able to enter your coop/run at will.

 

[ozark hen]

my 85 year old Dad called me last week to criticize me for not doing better in gym class in high school, note: I'm 45 years old now!!
oh that is soooo funny

 

[BerdooFarm]

Ozark, I bet your dad was breaking some harassment law- MOVE! Change your number and sue him for the cost!

 

[paganfish]

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OK this makes the most sense to me. I agree!

 

[Reinbeau]

Can we keep something in mind here? She's her mother in law, not some stranger who happens to be her landlord. She's indicated she's not a horrible person. Some of the advice here is so confrontational I can truly say I'm glad I'm not related to you.

 

[paganfish]

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I can truly say, I for one, was a bit offended by this but...whatever!

Everyone's entitled to their OWN opinion.

By that same token, she did ASK what we all thought.

A hard thing for some people to accept is that different folks have different opinions. I won't attack your opinion if it differs from mine. I ask the same of you!

Perhaps I should have kept my DIFFERENT opinion to myself and let ones like YOURS apply. Would that work for you?

Peace-

Pedro

 

[Southern28Chick]

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That's exactly what I was going to say. Old folks are set in their ways. They lived longer so they no better is what they believe BUT it's not always right.

I know it's hard to sit down with someone and tell them that they're driving you insane. I can't do it. I just grin and bare it.

It's hard to say what you should do. I'll just say that I hope everything gets better for you.