I'm a new mother and going out of my mind! help!

[Wildsky]

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I seriously had someone tell me my daughter would NEVER stop on her own - granted she DID go for a long time.

My reply to them was: Well if I have to go with her to PROM because she still wants to nurse, then I'll have an excuse to buy a pretty dress!

(that shut em up)

 

[Katy]

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yes the H stands for Hubby...the D is whatever you need to make it that day.....

 

[arlee453]

Yep...usually DEAR husband.... as in "My DH says I can have more chickens"

Once in a while, it means 'dang hubby' as in: "My DH says I can't buy those hatching eggs"

 

[Frozen Feathers]

Sarah!! My little girl who just turned 3 was a handful, so I can relate. Very colicky baby, no matter what I did or didn't eat. Of course the DR was of really no help. Amazing how little they know about a babies digestion.

What worked for us is we found gas drops made specifically for babies/toddlers. We found it near the Malox and such. Perfectly safe. I would give her a drop before bed and no more fussing. One thing to consider. Some babies are just gassy I think. My DD probably inherited her gassy-ness from my Dh.

She also slept with us and now sleeps soundly in her own bed in her own room. No need to worry about your 12 year old in bed with you (as long as you discipline when they get older) unlike some people are suggesting.

Taking breaks. If you have a Mom or MIL or relative you trust invite them over for some baby time. Let them play with baby and go take a nap or shower. My MIL was wonderful about doing this, she loves DD so she was more then happy to come over. I said to heck with the house, too...lol. If Dh even dared say one thing about the uncleanliness about the house he would not exist today.

And remember if it gets too much...even if you have to put baby in her crib and lock yourself in the bathroom for a while....Baby will be fine and it will give a chance to de-stress.

 

[s6bee]

Well, after reading most of the posts here I have to agree with most everything.
One bit of advice though, if you start making changes either to your diet, or hers, do one thing at a time so you know what, if anything makes her better.
I would also reccomend looking into this http://www.coliccalm.com/
There are other things on the market that can help if this is not available to you.
There is so much that can overload a new mother, and the biggest thing she needs is the support of her friends and family. Reach out to them. The housework can wait ( mine still is on hold and my kids are 18, 13, and 11 ). It's just not important. I would still consider speaking with your Dr. He/she should know what is going on. Listen to what they say, and make a judgment call. If this behavior continues with her months down the road, it might be more than colic, and the Dr. will need to have that on record. He's not going to want to hear about it when she's 1 for the first time....

Anyway, keep us posted, good luck and if you ever get to your breaking point, walk away and call someone to give you a break, we have ALL been there, trust me on that. I'm not saying you would ever hurt your baby, it's just a very tough thing to deal with, and we all break down somehow or another.

 

[menageriemama]

Everybody has posted great stuff. I just want to say hang in there, it WILL get better.

 

[chickenannie]

When my nephew was a little older than your baby, his mom put him in a back sling when she did any kitchen work. He likes to peek over her shoulder and watch everything she does and for some reason he's calm like that most of the time. She puts him in the back carrier and then quickly does dishes and cooks something for dinner. It doesn't always last long, but at least it gave her 30 or 40 minutes of kitchen time with her hands free.

 

[chicamama]

Have not read all the posts, but any chance she has reflux?

All good suggestions.

 

[seminolewind]

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Well with the gas I would think it's lactose intolerance. I would try her on Lactofree or a soy formula. That usually helps.
With reflux, you will probably see quite a bit of barfing, esp when they are laying down.
If your breast milk is not holding her till the next feeding, try to give her some rice cereal mixed with a bit of water. Rice cereal is great for making them a bit more full, and also great for reflux, if that's the case.
I work with babies, and this is what I usually see.

 

[asher]

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Well with the gas I would think it's lactose intolerance. I would try her on Lactofree or a soy formula. That usually helps.
With reflux, you will probably see quite a bit of barfing, esp when they are laying down.
I work with babies, and this is what I usually see.

Is there not an alternative for a mom that is breastfeeding if a baby is lactose intolerant? I know some moms cut out dairy completely. Is that enough or no since...well...it's still milk? hehe I honestly know nothing about that (my first three were very high needs and low sleep ;-), but overall we were very lucky without any serious issues) so genuinely asking out of curiousity.