I'm a new mother and going out of my mind! help!

[seminolewind]

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Well with the gas I would think it's lactose intolerance. I would try her on Lactofree or a soy formula. That usually helps.
With reflux, you will probably see quite a bit of barfing, esp when they are laying down.
I work with babies, and this is what I usually see.

Is there not an alternative for a mom that is breastfeeding if a baby is lactose intolerant? I know some moms cut out dairy completely. Is that enough or no since...well...it's still milk? hehe I honestly know nothing about that (my first three were very high needs and low sleep ;-), but overall we were very lucky without any serious issues) so genuinely asking out of curiousity.

Not really. BM has lactose in it. A mom may want to freeze her BM (up to 6 mos.), and try again every month cause sometimes the lactose intolerance clears up.

 

[cajunlizz]

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Well , I do have to agree with you on that NOTE . I had my son at 3 months old that had pneumonia and fever of 104 and I called the dr. to tell him I was bringing the baby to ER for him to meet us there to ADMIT my baby . His 1st. question to me was , what makes you think he has pneumonia and next question was , have you been covering him with that fever ? I said YES , he has chills so bad he is cold and shiffering like its the north Pole . He said the more you cover anyone with fever the higher their fever goes , I TOLD HIM , this is NOT my 1st. merry Go Round , you meeting me and the baby in ER or WHAT ?

Baby DID have pneumonia and the croup , he was admitted and stayed 9 days in a croup tent , was discharged , and less than 24 hrs. later he had to be re admitted . SO , yes I agree several mothers KNOW more than Dr.'s .


ALOT of times what the mother is eating will drastically effect the baby . Tummy will be very sore and gassy if mother is not eating correct foods to be nursing .

 

[cajunlizz]

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Is there not an alternative for a mom that is breastfeeding if a baby is lactose intolerant? I know some moms cut out dairy completely. Is that enough or no since...well...it's still milk? hehe I honestly know nothing about that (my first three were very high needs and low sleep ;-), but overall we were very lucky without any serious issues) so genuinely asking out of curiousity.

Not really. BM has lactose in it. A mom may want to freeze her BM (up to 6 mos.), and try again every month cause sometimes the lactose intolerance clears up.

Problem is probably coming from the diet she is on and creating GAS for the baby . She needs to call a dietician and get the list of foods to avoid while breast feeding . Make sure to tell the dr. or dietician what baby is suffering from .

USUALLY A baby at 5 months old SHOULD be sleeping all night . ALL 3 of mine were sleeping all night long at 3 and 4 weeks old .

Something is disturbing this baby .

 

[cajunlizz]

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Is there not an alternative for a mom that is breastfeeding if a baby is lactose intolerant? I know some moms cut out dairy completely. Is that enough or no since...well...it's still milk? hehe I honestly know nothing about that (my first three were very high needs and low sleep ;-), but overall we were very lucky without any serious issues) so genuinely asking out of curiousity.

Not really. BM has lactose in it. A mom may want to freeze her BM (up to 6 mos.), and try again every month cause sometimes the lactose intolerance clears up.

2 of my grand children had severe acid reflux and they made daughter put them on cereal and less milk . they started barfing ALOT less and less gas .

 

[asher]

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All babies are different. Just because yours slept through the night at 3-4 weeks old, doesn't mean hers should be.

Mine didn't sleep through the night for...well, I honestly don't remember, but it was a long time. Then I know others (even who parented the exact same way as me) that slept through the first week.

Unfortunately, with children, there's no hard and fast rule that fits them all. Many days, I sure wish there was! hehe

 

[FloridaChickenChick]

You poor thing. A new baby is SO overwhelming even when s/he is the perfect baby...having a fussy baby and being sleep deprived yourself can seriously make you nuts.

Please see the lactation specialist. Please keep your baby in bed with you if it's helping both of you sleep. Your baby will NOT be sleeping in your bed forever. YOU and YOUR BABY are the only ones who can say what a normal sleeping pattern is.

Most of the advice you've been given here is great...trust your gut.

When I used to get very sleepy and worn out, I'd start to doubt my abilities as a mother (this still happens...when I get tired I doubt my abilities about whatever I'm responsible for!). I am so grateful for my mother-in-law who basically told my husband to do whatever it took to get me feeling something like normal again. I hope she knew what a gift she gave me.

You will all get through this even though it doesn't feel like it today.

 

[arlee453]

Cajunlizz, how long did you breast feed each of your babies?

 

[cajunlizz]

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I seriously had someone tell me my daughter would NEVER stop on her own - granted she DID go for a long time.

My reply to them was: Well if I have to go with her to PROM because she still wants to nurse, then I'll have an excuse to buy a pretty dress!

(that shut em up)

NOW that reminded me when I weaned my oldest and potty trained her completely at 13 months old , EX Mother in law had a FIT and said i was not letting her be a baby . HELL , she weaned her own self off the bottle and everytime I would go to the bathroom she would follow and try pulling her diaper off . WHAT WOULD YOU DO ? LESS than a week , she was fully potty trained and off the bottle .

and at a year old weighing 32 pounds , I don't think she was unnurished . LOL

I well told her , WELL at least my daughter or son will NOT get off the BUS at 7 years old and RUN in the house and jump in my lap and SUCK ON ME like and OLD COW as your son does to you . Geeezzzzzzzzzz

 

[eggchel]

When I had my first child, my sister presented me with a hand stitched picture of a woman in a rocking chair holding a baby. The poem stitched underneath it said:

Cleaning and scrubbing
can wait til tomorrow
For babies grow up
we've learned to our sorrow
So quiet down cobwebs
and dust go to sleep
Im rocking my baby
and babies dont keep

Relax, enjoy your baby, forget the cleaning.

chel​

 

[cajunlizz]

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I was VERY young when I had my 1st. child and she was born by emergency C-section , and dr. did NOT advise me to nurse with the c-section . I was NOT cut in a bikini Cut like they do now , SO I nursed her for 3 days and , I was contracting from the sucking just like I was in labor all over again. So dr. put her on a bottle .... when SON was born I had double pneumonia when he was born and with the c-section , plus all the high fever and strong antibotics I COULD NOT nurse him . My youngest I nursed her for a year .