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This post covers my concern about applying the money to the other child, and not usurping THEIR role as his parents.
One question I would ask is when the full amount is due, and when is the cutoff for the decision to go. Since the trip is next year (do you mean this coming spring, or next school year or this summer or...), I would wait until the last opportunity to watch your daughter's behavior and balance the entire span from when she was told that going depended on her behavior until you MUST make a decision. One small infraction should not weigh much if her overall behavior is good; one huge infraction might need to. I don't feel like you gave us enough information about her lying--small white lie that was very obvious or huge falsehood that injured someone; or something in between. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that some lying is okay. I am simply saying that the magnitude, the reason and the damage (even potential damage) need to be taken into consideration. Think about how you are likely to feel about your decision in ten years--will you feel that you made the right one? Do you think your daughter will feel that your decxision was fair?
Most of the punishments I was given as a child and teenager were fair IMO, but there were two or three that to this day I feel were unjustified, and make me angry if I think about them.
This post covers my concern about applying the money to the other child, and not usurping THEIR role as his parents.
One question I would ask is when the full amount is due, and when is the cutoff for the decision to go. Since the trip is next year (do you mean this coming spring, or next school year or this summer or...), I would wait until the last opportunity to watch your daughter's behavior and balance the entire span from when she was told that going depended on her behavior until you MUST make a decision. One small infraction should not weigh much if her overall behavior is good; one huge infraction might need to. I don't feel like you gave us enough information about her lying--small white lie that was very obvious or huge falsehood that injured someone; or something in between. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that some lying is okay. I am simply saying that the magnitude, the reason and the damage (even potential damage) need to be taken into consideration. Think about how you are likely to feel about your decision in ten years--will you feel that you made the right one? Do you think your daughter will feel that your decxision was fair?
Most of the punishments I was given as a child and teenager were fair IMO, but there were two or three that to this day I feel were unjustified, and make me angry if I think about them.
