Maybe I just have different standards

MONTHS ago a friend I had a play date with our kids at a park. My SO got off work and I went to pick him up at his parents and the guy followed because we were all going to the laser show that night.

I pulled down the driveway, put it in park, and got out to talk to him about something when I noticed my car started to roll back..
Turns out my youngest son got out of his car seat and put it in netural.
Our cars were only a few feet a part and it was the slightest incline so it did no cosmetic damage to his car except make the light point down at the road (he didnt know it till he drove at night)
As soon as he got out of the car he said... Youre going to fix whatever just happend.
That was totally fine with me. We told him to go get an estimate and well fix it.

Cheap lesson learned and thank goodness that is all that happend as it could have been WAY worse.


ANYWAYS..
Its now months later and a few weeks ago he gets drunk over at my sisters house and leaves early in the morning (6-7 am after staying up till midnight - 1 am drinking)
My sister gets a call later and hes trying to say someone back down his car at her house because his the passenger fender is gone or crumpled (cant remember), the hood is messed up, and the side view mirror is gone. When my sister started questioning where he parked he couldnt remember if it was in the driveway or the street.. The suddnely his story changed and it must have happend in a parking lot!
Everyone seems to think he left my sisters still drunk and hit a mail box.


What makes me mad is he told my sister ALL the damage (even the one my car caused) is going on one claim. He called me up today saying he still going to get an estimate for the damage my car caused.




What makes me mad is that the damage my car caused happend MONTHS ago and everytime I would see him would say 'I still need to go get an estimate'. Now that his car is REALLY messed up he has to turn it into insurance.. I feel like hes using me to pay his deductible or pocket the money.
SO is mad because he says any estimate he gets is going to be tainted due to the new damage.





What really gets my goat is a week or so after my car bumped his, his GSD came ran up to my car and jumped on it leaving 3 HUGE scratches down my drivers door. Someone was stading out there and said 'CALL YOUR DOG! IT JUST LEFT HUGE SCRATCHES ON HER CAR!'
He nonchalantly called his dog and it was I who grabbed his dog and drug it to put it up. When I reached him he said 'Sorry, but this doesnt make us even'
!




IDK maybe I just have different standards on how things should go. If the rolls were reversed I would have never even of asked for money to fix it unless there was a substantial amount of damage to the car.
Now its MONTHS later and there is TONS of damage to the car that hes putting on one claim and he still expects me to pay him??





Am I wrong for thinking of tell him to bug off and he can stick that estimate where the sun dont shine?

 

Quote:An estimate on the scratches?


I thought about doing that and telling him Ill pay the difference (but that was even before the new damage happend)

 

No no no...
My SO isnt the one with the wrecked car. That is a friend.
My SO is upset that FRIEND is taking the the car to get estimated AFTER its been wrecked in fear it will taint the outcome.