MJ's little flock

[MaryJanet]

We have been having this conversation with my DIL ~ who is stressing about the daily ferry ride if she finds work on the mainland but every islander knows you use the ferry ride to destress from the mainland. You can read, knit [crochet if you're me], FB, play games on your phone, do the crossword...And unlike @Kris5902, it's only 20 minutes. I use the barge if I'm transporting chooks & it's the same deal. It's lovely in summer when you can sit outside! OD & I used to get the sunsets over the water after rehearsals when she was smallish & it was quite wonderful. All a matter of perspective.

I've been talking to a friend of mine about perspective. She thinks I'm deluded for finding my work satisfying and rewarding and I think she's deluded for staying in a job that makes her unhappy. Although work isn't optional, the type of work and the workplace is a matter of choice. No one is obliged to remain in unpleasant work - especially with her experience and education. Still, I think her workplace has taken such a toll on her autonomy that she can no longer perceive her own freedom to make changes.

 

[Kris5902]

I'm sceptical about microwaved tea, but I'm willing to try it. I wonder how it will turn out.

Lol, “I will try anything once” and in desperation yes I have made tea with a microwave... it bears a bit better resemblance to the real thing than say a microwave lasagna dinner does to a proper one.

 

[Kris5902]

We have been having this conversation with my DIL ~ who is stressing about the daily ferry ride if she finds work on the mainland but every islander knows you use the ferry ride to destress from the mainland. You can read, knit [crochet if you're me], FB, play games on your phone, do the crossword...And unlike @Kris5902, it's only 20 minutes. I use the barge if I'm transporting chooks & it's the same deal. It's lovely in summer when you can sit outside! OD & I used to get the sunsets over the water after rehearsals when she was smallish & it was quite wonderful. All a matter of perspective.

I quite don’t mind the ferry trips... they can be super productive, or relaxing. Just the occasional change to the schedule would be nice... and not being on the “milk run”. The Covid 19 changes were awful and even created some inter island drama on the Facebook forums with one island suggesting they limit the number of people allowed On from the smaller islands to make more room for their vehicles on the last stop (this same island has more than double the service levels!) granted I wouldn’t want to do it as
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Daily commute

 

[Shadrach]

I really like that hardware. I've never seen that before. It must make for a fast install and easy replacements

It's very common here. For most fences it isn't necessary and you can notch the uprights and nail the rails into the uprights. What the bracket system is good for is adding strength to the fence if you know which is the hostile side. I'll try and find a picture later, but that fence took the weight of a bobcat which slid in the mud and would otherwise have tumbled down the bank.

 

[rjohns39]

Good evening folks

Mind you that I drink Iced (actually room temp) tea, but I just made a picture. Toss the tea bag in and fill with water an set it on the counter. It'll be ready in a couple hours.

 

[CrazyChookChookLady]

I've been talking to a friend of mine about perspective. She thinks I'm deluded for finding my work satisfying and rewarding and I think she's deluded for staying in a job that makes her unhappy. Although work isn't optional, the type of work and the workplace is a matter of choice. No one is obliged to remain in unpleasant work - especially with her experience and education. Still, I think her workplace has taken such a toll on her autonomy that she can no longer perceive her own freedom to make changes.

That is a terrible shame to stay anywhere, if it makes you unhappy.

My current job is as a technician to an Optometrist. The office I work for is very small, 1 doctor, 1 tech (me), 1 receptionist, and 1 optician for glasses.

The receptionist is miserable ALL OF THE TIME! She has said how much she hates this job and it's beneath her, she used to be a bank manager, yet she won't leave here and just brings everybody down.

The optician isn't much better, she has a very boring life where her husband tells her everything to do and how to do it. She comes to work and just complains about him and her son, who only wants to play video games in his room all day.

The 2 of them will sit at lunch and just bad mouth every patient of the day. They talk about me and my life. They think it's ridiculous that I have the chickens and a blended family. I try to not let it get to me, because I know the problem is them and not me, yet it's harder some days than others.

Thankfully my boss and I are very close and he has told me that he is aware of their behavior. He has assured me my job is secure. The receptionist tried to get me fired when we both started.

Bottom line, no one is responsible for your happiness but yourself. If you don't like where you are change it!

 

[MaryJanet]

That is a terrible shame to stay anywhere, if it makes you unhappy.

My current job is as a technician to an Optometrist. The office I work for is very small, 1 doctor, 1 tech (me), 1 receptionist, and 1 optician for glasses.

The receptionist is miserable ALL OF THE TIME! She has said how much she hates this job and it's beneath her, she used to be a bank manager, yet she won't leave here and just brings everybody down.

The optician isn't much better, she has a very boring life where her husband tells her everything to do and how to do it. She comes to work and just complains about him and her son, who only wants to play video games in his room all day.

The 2 of them will sit at lunch and just bad mouth every patient of the day. They talk about me and my life. They think it's ridiculous that I have the chickens and a blended family. I try to not let it get to me, because I know the problem is them and not me, yet it's harder some days than others.

Thankfully my boss and I are very close and he has told me that he is aware of their behavior. He has assured me my job is secure. The receptionist tried to get me fired when we both started.

Bottom line, no one is responsible for your happiness but yourself. If you don't like where you are change it!

A habit of victim mentality with respect to work is childish, tiresome and disrespectful of people who are coping with genuine tragedy. I don't mind if my friend slips into a victim narrative every now and then, but when it's habitual I simply can't take her seriously.

On a personal level, I'm so glad you view their criticisms of your choices in a healthy and constructive light. If the worst they can say is that you have a mixed family and chickens, then you can take comfort in the certainty that you've lived a good life.

 

[MaryJanet]

I tried to have my toast in the chicken's yard this morning because there was no dew and my seat was dry.

Big mistake.

Mary stole my toast! A whole slice! Then she kept it secret for about five minutes! It was when Peggy got hold of it I realised what had happened.

I need to put a sign up: "If it's on a plate, it hasn't been tidbitted to you!"

Here's Peggy laughing all the way to the toast.

Brightside: I know what to give them for Christmas. They were so happy!

 

[MaryJanet]

Here's the guilty party, putting on her "butter wouldn't melt in my mouth" act, which is true by the way, she's got butter smeared on her beak!

 

[CrazyChookChookLady]

A habit of victim mentality with respect to work is childish, tiresome and disrespectful of people who are coping with genuine tragedy. I don't mind if my friend slips into a victim narrative every now and then, but when it's habitual I simply can't take her seriously.

On a personal level, I'm so glad you view their criticisms of your choices in a healthy and constructive light. If the worst they can say is that you have a mixed family and chickens, then you can take comfort in the certainty that you've lived a good life.

Thank you MJ!!