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lol.....lol...
I am happy to be producing giggles! Learning is more fun that way. (and I thought I'd only be learning about chickens on this site!)
Literally speaking backwards? That is AWSOME! are you able to understand recordings of the spoken word backwards? Can you speak it on purpose when you want to? You could send secret messages to people!
(the only thing pseudo-similar that I can do is write mirror image with my left hand)
He he.. Here in south Georgia (where I am a transplant) one of my ex-boyfriends would sometimes slip into a VERY deep southern drawl that was difficult to understand. So, even though people may not be able to understand what you said, I dont think it's uncommon for your mind to slip your speech patturn when it's tired. SO - you should not be embarrased of such a neat talent!
What I am hoping to get out of this discussion is that if/when I ever meet someone who is Autistic I can be aware of and sensitive to your unique comunication style. I want to make the other person feel comfortable when I talk to them so everybody wins.
Hints for me:
Avoid group conversations, there is too much going on.
Don't force the eye contact.
Remember that you may need a little extra time to process what I said and make your reply.
Don't use subtle hints, just be direct and say what I mean.
It's ok for me to ask what you meant if I did not understand.
Encourage you to ask me to clarify myself if you did not understand me or my current emotion.
Anything else?
hi Naria,
Lol... my son came back to me later and had found peeping into this thread really useful.
He came back with a scenario of meeting a number of us here at a function. He said he would be exhausted. I asked him about the hints. he agreed, but added:
Don't be put off if I do make very direct eye contact with you. (I may not be seeing you)
Also yes I do sometimes need longer to process what you have said.
I am also a great frowner. It does not mean I am angry of upset it is the level of concentration I am giving to something that TO ME is worthy of a lot of thought. I may also mutter or pull faces.
If I say something that sounds flippant and dismissive, ignore it, it could have touched a nerve, or I may not be able to process it in the current environment. Too much going on.
Ask the question again broken down a bit, dig and if coaxed I will do my utmost to give you an answer or a lead to another conversation.
Sometimes something randon will spark an intrusion into my mind map, and I may say something that sounds like an aside or is disconnected with the theme. My sister has taught me now to cross my fingers and file it for later.
I can only describe it by saying I have about 12 speech bubbles containing topics, floating around above my head at any given time, and they are all important things I am working on, but on a cue I will pull them down into the moment but sometimes they will share a cue, and an interjection will result. That is why I have to concentrate so much, and if required to do something I function much better if I am allowed some time to immerse myself in the task, so that all of the current speech bubbles relate to the task in some way. Tangents are a part of everyday life and while they may not be logical to anyone else they are a part of my own pattern of things.
back to my son again..... if I am deeply involved in doing something, he has been known to walk in the door and ask me a simple question and my answer bears no relation to what he is asking but relates to what I am doing or thinking about. he has to "Break through " to get an answer. My other son just huffs and walks away.... lol.
It has led to me telling him the keys are in the oven, under the pork chops.
Recently when they were both in the same room at the same time, which does not happen often they told me it had been a unique experience being brought up by a "Mad Woman", but they were glad that they had, and felt that as a result of me being a One off, I had encouraged them to be confident to be different too.
One is a musician, and the other is a male nurse. In our family of heavy industry working class background, it is different, I was the first to go to university in the family, albeit at age 43.
The one who was givin
g the tips, my youngest, also said don't ever think I am being nasty.....it is very rare. If I close down it is because I have hit a wall somewhere.
Your son's insights are definitely useful. Nicely said.
