My nephew and his wife had preemie twin boys this last week. Unknown to anyone they ended up telling her she was being released today after 1. So of course no one was available. We dropped everything. Loaded up 3 of the kids and hightailed it an hour away to help them. They needed to be moved to a ronald mcdonald house. Her husband is recovering from a traumatic injury and has brain damage and cannot lift more than 5 lbs on either arm due to injuries. So we get there. Bring their van, more meds, and mail. I also brought them money so they could pay for their room, get food ect. Well they didn't release her until well after 4. We waited. Went on walk with her hubby and the kids so she could pump. Loaded all their stuff in their van, ect. Anywho just got a call from my SIL that his wife had called her mother and she was upset. Her mom called and chewed us out. Wants the entire family, including the dad/husband to stay away. I am sitting here feeling a tad lost. She asked for help, I gave help and as much encouragement as I could. I got her hubby out as much as I could so she could relax because he was driving her up the wall. I know we were there a long time but it wasn't for our benefit or anything. We waited because they said they needed help. Was I wrong? I haven't heard any of these complaints from the new mom, the only one who has said anything is her mom. Apparently as a screaming cussing yell. Not really sure what to think. I sent her an email appologizing for being there so long. Just not sure what I really am appologizing for so its not sounding to great still. I'm not sure what to say. I am sorry the hospital gave them a bad time and told them they had to be out whether a place was ready for them to go to or not, or even if no one was there to get them. I'm sorry her mom was busy because I know she wanted her there to help her. Should I be sorry we hung around so long trying to help them and doing what they asked? Not sure how i feel. I think I sorta regret being nice and helpful. I spent my entire weekend doing running and cleaning and providing funds. Sorta kills the desire to help when you know all you will see in the end is not happy family but people mad at you. I guess at this point I finish my freezer meals, my scrubbing and laundry and grocery shopping and then be done with it. I know that sounds sorta spiteful. Just, if I am just giving what help she asked for and all it did is upset her....well there seems to be no point. All I wanted was to make things easier because things have been so hard for them. I feel a tad burned right now.