People are so ungrateful

[heather112588]

i hate that...how people feel that they are in-titled to everything for free! The nerve of her to complain out of something that was done by kindness. i just want to smack people sometimes!

 

[desertdarlene]

I would skip her house, then. The thing is, she sounds like someone who might try to sue your husband for some little thing later on. She really sounds like trouble.

 

[A Dunne]

That's sad that there are people who cant appreciate good will.

If someone was helping me clear out snow, I sure wouldnt complain! When kids lived at home we took turns shoveling/clearing snow. They are grown now and a person sure doesnt realize a good thing until its gone!

That said, I agree with a lot of the people here, best to skip her house, at least for now. It wouldnt have to be permanently, just until she possibly comes around to her senses?

 

[seedcorn]

She didn't handle it well. She may have a legitimate reason to not wanting him to plow her out as he's doing it.

My neighbor use to do the same thing (plow out neighborhood for free). When the snow piled up, he plowed not knowing what may or may not be under it. I bought a snow blower & do my own now. I never complained to him. Just explained I didn't want him to plow me out. Sad part is, I had to explain it to 2 other neighbors as they thought he was mad at me and skipping me. So they plowed me out. I hate friendly neighbors who are looking out for my best interests......

Yes, we all get along very well. Neighbor lady is handicapped mother of one of them. When storms hit, we have race to see who plows out lane first. Dang g'son of neighbor usually wins........

My advice is wave, be friendly and don't plow her drive. If she asks, politely tell her that you can't plow it to her satisfaction.

 

[darkmatter]

I plow my drive and the neighbors when I can. I refused any compensation when offered with the phrase: "I'm sure you would do the same if needed" so far my neighbors haven't complained.

 

[OHGrandma]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

.... So this one woman stops him one day and tells him that last year he damaged her trees by piling too much snow too close to the bases of them and would he not do that again. He shrugged and moved on and kept plowing her out. 3 feet of snow has to be put some where!

Today she left a note in our mailbox saying she didn't like the way he plowed this last time either!! It was ice - hello! It was a miserable plow job the snow was very heavy and icy and she was blaming him for the fact that her garage door was frozen shut!

I am tempted to tell him to just tell her to hire some one and drive right past her drive. His feelings are actually hurt.

Keep plowing her out or blow her off?

Tell hubby to get over feeling hurt. The woman wants things a certain way, she's entitled to that. Since your husband is not hired by her, he's not obligated to do it that way. But since he can't do it her way, he shouldn't do it at all! Let her find a way to clear it herself, and if she calls and asks your husband to do it then make sure she knows that he will do it to the best of his ability and it probably won't be as she wants done.​

 

[Catstar68]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

Then he found out that the one person called everyone else and told them that DH was Charging $100 per plow out! He's not charging anything!

So he just keeps plowing. So this one woman stops him one day and tells him that last year he damaged her trees by piling too much snow too close to the bases of them and would he not do that again. He shrugged and moved on and kept plowing her out. 3 feet of snow has to be put some where!

Today she left a note in our mailbox saying she didn't like the way he plowed this last time either!! It was ice - hello! It was a miserable plow job the snow was very heavy and icy and she was blaming him for the fact that her garage door was frozen shut!

I am tempted to tell him to just tell her to hire some one and drive right past her drive. His feelings are actually hurt.

Keep plowing her out or blow her off?

Does the woman know that your DH is not officially charging anything? I'm thinking, that if this woman thinks she owes money and doesn't want or can't pay it, then she is just setting up a preemptive defense so when the 'bill' for services gets there, she has already complained about the services and can avoid paying or negotiate a discount. Miscommunication?
Just my thoughts...I'd skip her drive too, at this point. However, perhaps a little clarification, such as letting her know your DH does this out of the goodness of his heart and while some neighbors have chipped in for fuel, he never intended to charge anyone. And of course, since your DH does not plow to her specifications, there are plenty of people who she could pay that will do it for her.​

 

[savingdogs]

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Does the woman know that your DH is not officially charging anything? I'm thinking, that if this woman thinks she owes money and doesn't want or can't pay it, then she is just setting up a preemptive defense so when the 'bill' for services gets there, she has already complained about the services and can avoid paying or negotiate a discount. Miscommunication?
Just my thoughts...I'd skip her drive too, at this point. However, perhaps a little clarification, such as letting her know your DH does this out of the goodness of his heart and while some neighbors have chipped in for fuel, he never intended to charge anyone. And of course, since your DH does not plow to her specifications, there are plenty of people who she could pay that will do it for her.

I have to say I agree with Catstar.

We have a neighbor who has helped us out and we felt compelled to offer her cash to cover the fuel costs (if not her time). She did accidentely ripped out a border log that lines our driveway on accident. I never would have complained as it was obvious she could never have seen it in the snow. Even if I had hired someone, there was no way through the snow for anyone to get here except someone on our road, so I really appreciate that someone here owns her equipment! Now while I'd never dream of suing, I would always be worried that someone who has already proved herself to be difficult would continue to be that way in the future.

 

[noodleroo]

People that seem to be difficult act that way on purpose. Who knows what her problem really is. She may have a really low sense of self esteem (over reacting to show that his service is not good enough for HER to show the neighborhood how important she is). Or she may not want to feel obligated to return a favor or contribute a donation just because she can't stand to be obligated (even though she is not).

Putting a note in your mailbox wasn't very smart; its not really legal. It tells me she wants to have power over you without confrontation. Maybe she sees your husband plowing her drive as having some sort of power over her. What ever the problem is, I would have to discuss this with her for my own piece of mind.

 

[PineappleMama]

Blow her off. The harpy can PAY someone else to put up with her harping...

"Terribly sorry you're unsatisfied with the free services provided. Here's a list *have a few names and numbers below* of professionals in the area who'll be happy to handle your property from now on.