Please, people... just be NICE.

[thaiturkey]

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Good suggestion.

But I'd like the OP to define 'mean'. For example, if someone writes something that offends, provokes or insults you (trolls and flamers, for example), is it mean to respond to make your own feelings known? If someone writes a pile of badly thought through rubbish, thereby showing a lack of respect for readers, is it mean to challenge their thinking? Is it mean to encourage them to get their brains into gear? Are they mean when they respond defensively with a personal remark?


So, does the OP refer to the first poster or the respondent when writing about meanness?

I don't follow the primitive 'eye for an eye' rule but do we always have to turn the other cheek?

If not being mean means never responding sharply to offence, then I too may get a few PM's.

 

[ChooksChick]

I started a thread like this while back, and I steadfastly agree!

Be nice! Be to each other as you would have people be to someone you deeply love- that's the test of whether you're being kind and respectful. Check yourself!

 

[Whispering Winds]

My dear ole' dad always said, "you can tell someone whatever you want, its HOW you tell them that counts." So true.

 

[redhen]

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Good suggestion.

But I'd like the OP to define 'mean'. For example, if someone writes something that offends, provokes or insults you (trolls and flamers, for example), is it mean to respond to make your own feelings known? If someone writes a pile of badly thought through rubbish, thereby showing a lack of respect for readers, is it mean to challenge their thinking? Is it mean to encourage them to get their brains into gear? Are they mean when they respond defensively with a personal remark?



So, does the OP refer to the first poster or the respondent when writing about meanness?

I don't follow the primitive 'eye for an eye' rule but do we always have to turn the other cheek?

If not being mean means never responding sharply to offence, then I too may get a few PM's.

I agree..

 

[Whispering Winds]

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What is the old saying~treat your company like family and your family like company!!!

 

[debilorrah]

Remember this: If you cannot post something nice, or helpful, close the thread and move on. If you see something offensive, hit the report button. Believe it or not, our mods DO know what they are doing. Pobodys Nerfect people.

 

[Germaine_11.20]

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You said what I have been thinking and thank you. People like you are what makes BYC the place most of us like to hang out. Thank you!

 

[Beekissed]

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I agree with this....respect I can dish out, but sometimes tolerance is hard to have.



RED! I really DID get a PM!

It was just someone poking fun at me.......

 

[bburn]

....all very well said

 

[dacjohns]

I was going to stay out of this but . . .

Sometimes how we say something doesn't translate well in a post. Sometimes the "mean" person isn't wearing kid gloves and is taken wrong. Sometimes people are mean.

Debi I'm reporting you.