Prayers for a homeless woman....*Update/ long RANT pg 3**

[chickeypoo]

wow, you are a wonderful person. I seen a woman one time out in the cold snow.. in a snowmobile suit.. not sure what she was asking for but the people ahead of us had stopped at her and out of their window came one of the bigger bags from MC donalds, and a nice big cup of hot coffee.. they handed it to her and off they went. she waved and had the biggest smile on her face. had they not done that. i would have.. but seeing that she was sitting there happily with that full bag of food(she could barely old on to it.. it was so full) and the hot coffee. i almost wish i had room in the car. id have taken her into it so she'd have a warm place to eat. thankfully i don't see many homeless people but it does make me think of what i do have when i do see them.

i had problems(not drugs or alcohol.. but a stupid ex b/f that wouldn't leave) when i was about 19 and i had gotten kicked out of my mom's rental house for not paying, i ended up living with my daughter at a friends house.. she kicked me out a month later, saying that she was afraid id take her b/f(i was in no way interested in her b/f or her husbad.. yes, that's right she had both yuck) anyway, i had no place to go and my ex b/f wouldnt even let me stay the night till the next am to find a place to go . i ended up calling my dad to let me stay there.. he had no other rooms.. i ended sleeping in the top bunk of his bed with my 4 year old) so.. yeah. it wasn't easy. but i got through it. I hope for this womans sake things look up and soon.

i was goign to say check the salvage yards as well. but someone beat me to it. i'm so glad you were there for this woman.

Sue

 

[joebryant]

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Wow, Sue, you HAVE been through the wringer.
I was glad to read your description of your present situation at the bottom of your page. CONGRATULATIONS on making it as well as you did.
"livin in Boring Galesville, with Lovin hubby, three DD's(age 10,5,15months) 13 hens(some pure, some not), 1 rooster(of mixed breeds LOL) a Bull Terrier Dog, a chinese Crested dog, a black indoor/outdoor cat. fish, chicks, tortoise and turtle."

 

[Cetawin]

That is an awesome and admirable thing to do. I must say that we would have done the same. In fact I currently have a air mattress in my livingroom which is temporary home to a friend who lost his home also.

 

[MagsC]

Its great to see someone have compassion for another human being and giving her a hand up. There is not much of that around these days it seems.

Sending best of luck wishes on finding that starter!

 

[chickeypoo]

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joebryant,

I have been, but you know what.. i haven't been as badly off as some. and i am grateful for what i have.. and even for what i had when i wasn't living in a loving place. i had issues with my step dad but i was happy i had my real dad. i had my first DD when i was 16(yeah.. bad step back but i live with her every day and im glad i made the decision to have and keep her) I still have issues with step dad.. and my own family. but i am glad where i am. to some extent it could be better(but whose situation couldn't use a bit more?) I love my husband.. and i may get angry with him or the children but i couldn't see my life without one of them.. i love my in laws, and how many people could really say that? i have chickens and a place to call my own.. maybe not the nicest (or cleanest at this point) but it's mine. a rinky dink little trailer that can barely hold the five of us lol.. with two brooders of chicks in my kitchen, along with two dog kennels. LMAO.

Oh, and i have been married for 6 years. we only knew each other 6 months before we got married

and he's the love of my life. my first DD's dad is not a good father, but my hubby loves her like his own.. i had to snag him up and fast before anyone else did. and besides, he doesn't complain when i get more chickens.

so, yeah i may have had some issues in the past, but i have made up for it. and im glad i have found what makes me happy. i try to help people out, i give at x-mas time, i help out friends who need clothes and other things. i help out a lady who takes old prom dresses and makes them new again, restyles them and gives them to girls who have no money to afford prom. i gave a bunch of jewelry to her to help as well as some hair "pretties" lol. so i try to help when i can. i also have "gifted" my eggs to a couple people on here who have had their own problems and only ask that they pay it forward. that's all life should be about anyway. not all about "me, me, me" as it has come to be with so many people.

Sue
ps im only 27 but have been like this since i was about 22. grew up fast

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[chickeypoo]

boy, i must be a threadkiller

 

[sundance]

Have you tried calling Catholic Services, when my DH was burned, I could not get any help anywhere and the meds for his burns were EXPENSIVE, and they came thru twice when no one else would. best wishes for everything your doing marrie

 

[scbatz33]

A quick update for all of you who were so kind and sent such warm wishes, I wish I had better news. We have been allowing her to stay at our home and use our resources while we worked on finding a low priced starter.

So, I came home last night, knowing my Dh had already bought the starter. He got it for $40 at a local recycling lot. Of course, he used $40 of our grocery money to do this for this woman. But we were happy to do it because we thought we were helping someone who really needed it.

Anyway, so I come home last night from work. I work out of town so I was gone literally all day. i got in about 1130 last night to find her in the house, on the phone with her "pseudo" boyfriend(more on him in a minute) and watching a movie. I wasn't too perturbed about it since we have no tv in the "apartment". So I was exhausted but need to check my emails. As I'm at the computer, she gets off the phone and continues to watch the movie. At 1205 her "boyfriend" calls my house...My two phones are very shrill and I jumped to shut them up before they woke my husband who gets up for work at 5am.

She asks me if I'm "mad at her" and I told her it wasn't me she needed to worry about. It would be my Dh who would be angry if he was woken up by a stupid phone at 12 in the morning. She then tells me that her "boyfriend" is coming to pick her up and is it ok for him to call if he gets lost. I was shocked! It's after midnight and some man is driving to my home to pick her up to "go out" when she can't even afford to buy cigarettes??? Not to mention, what about fixing her car? I said to her, "you're going out for the weekend when we are working hard to get you car fixed for you??"

I tell you, this set me off. First the disrespectful behavior with the phone calls and then to just run off for a weekend with some guy she met not but 2 weeks prior when we were sacrificing to help her!!! I was so mad, I went to bed. Well about 445 this morning my dog got sick and totally woke me up. So i got up to clean the mess and I go down stairs to find her sitting at my table in the relative dark. The "boyfriend" still hadn't shown up and was apparently lost. OH my, I was livid!!! So about fifteen minutes later he shows up. He doesn't even have the decency to pull into the drive or come to the door. It was like he was picking up a hooker on the side of the road.

So, I'm angry and sleepy and just all around irritated. I try to go back to bed and get up about 730. This is when I discover that I am totally out of toilet paper. I just bought a pack on tuesday, plus I had some still in the bathroom. Where did it all go???? 7 rolls in 3 days!!! The I have no more paper towels and all the soda is gone too.

That's it, I said, I 'm not gonna be eaten out of house and home and disrespected. So, i go to work and I'm stewing something awful all the way down to VA. Then, I remember her "friend" (who is caring for the daughter) was called from my cell. So, I call her. Well I'll tell you what, I got an earful!

Seems this lady has been living like this for 10+ years. She apperently had a home and a career and custody of all 3 of her kids. Now she has none of that. Her DD has been living with the friend for 3 months(not 1 like she told me) and she HAS NOT paid a dime of the $1000 a month that child recieves from the state for her care. The friend informed me that the lady used to live with them for over a year before they too got tired of being used and disrespected.

The friend was given temp custody because the state was threatening to intercede and thus take her money and put the child in foster care. The child is 15 and according to the friend, is 5'9" and 95 lbs. This is after gaining 15 lbs in the past 3 months. The child has NOTHING. The freind told me the girl had no shoes and only two changes of clothes when she came to live with her again.

The woman goes home with any man that looks side ways at her. According to the friend, she would disappear for days even weeks with no calls or anything. The friend demanded the temp custody so she could at least care for the girl if she had to go to the doctor or ER. The friend told me, "we don't need the money. We have been very blessed. The money is for the child's care and it isn't to spend on boyfriends and parties." Which seems to be what she spend the money on. The friend says that the woman will get the money and by the following Monday all of it is gone. She said she can't even fathom what it's being spent on , but it's not the child.

Oh, and the "disability" check the girl gets is supposedly because she has severe ADHD. The friend told me that she and the girl's counselor think this is a load of garbage. The girl is the "calmest sweetest and most patient child" plus, she's a straight A student.

So now, the "boyfriend" is some guy from Trenton NJ who drove to Allentown PA to troll for a "hooker"(friend's word). He picked her up at a laundry mat. "But he's nice and he bought me dinner" she told me. He's supposedly 35 and lives with his mother. He drives his mother's BMW. She says he has a job....I'm not optimistic on that one. The friend told me that there is a rash of men who drive from NJ to PA to pick up girls to take them to places like Atlantic City to pimp them out. "But he's a nice guy". Right! She told me on Monday that his "suggestion" to make money was for her to "date" and take money from the "dates" to help pay her bills. Further, when he called the other night and I knew who he was, he asked her how I knew it was him. Umm, caller ID genius! Seems he was none too happy that I could recognize him on the phone.

I am amazed by this whole turn of events. Maybe I'm too gullible IDK. I thought we were helping this down and out lady. It seems we were only helping her to keep living a lifestyle she seems to like. Picking up strange men and going on weekend "booty calls" is NOT what we agreed to help with. My Dh drove up to Allentown today and put the starter in her car. I got home tonight and I packed her belongings up. So when she bothers to return, her "boyfriend"/pimp can just take her back up there - since he has to drive right past the car to go back to his mommy's house in NJ!!!

 

[scbatz33]

Now, I put this in it's own block because I don't want this to get lost in my anger of being played.


This little girl has been treated so badly that I can't even begin to explain. I was told she said she has lived in 20 different places in the last year alone! I was also told that the girl told the friend that at one of the places her mother set them up in, the girl was forced to sleep in bed with a 50 year old man as "payment" for living there. The friend told me the girl has not said if anything "happened" but she (as was I) is mortified by this whole thing. She has told me she is trying to get the girl in treatment to help her deal with this mess her mother has made of her life.

The friend has told me that she will be filing for permanent custody so the mother can't take her out of this nice home where she is getting to eat and sleep and be a kid in peace.

So, those prayers, well the little girl is the one person in this whole mess who really needs them. I thank you all for keeping her in your minds and on your hearts.

Sarah

 

[Sillystunt]

LOL, i am sorry for this so forgive me!
As i am reading these pages i am thinking...WHAT ARE U CRAZY! LOL
How i knew page 3 i would read this, must be silvia browm.

They are homeless for a reason! next time give her a dollar and be on your way! I am not trying to be cruel cause you seem like a wonderful and kind person! That's why she scammed you! Your lucky she didn't rob you or attack you.

Seriously, i have dealt with the homeless for many years in Philly and san diego. It's tragic but most are there cause they are lazy, drug addicts, mentally ill or teens who run away.
Homeless families seek shelter differently and i don't put them in this class of people......
I am sorry she played you but Karma has a way of giving everyone what they deserve!