Questions for Setter4 - Cremation - You MUST be respectful!!!

[ruth]

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Ruth - I have to disagree with you on this. Just because one chooses to be buried vs. cremated does not mean one cannot donate organs, thats a pretty bold statement you're making - or at least it reads that way in how you've written it. Organ donation is made prior to being buried or embalmed or the organs are not viable....

I am an organ donor - and they would take all organs (including skin should I so choose) prior to embalming should I chose to be buried vs. cremated.

Oh dear, the organ donation was just a sidebar - didn't mean to infer in any way, shape or form that you couldn't be an organ donor and be buried - of course you can. I was trying to point out to those who think being cremated is "painful" that they should read up on what takes place during embalming.

My point was that I don't need anything after I'm gone so if it can be used to serve others and the rest burned - that works for me.

 

[EweSheep]

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I see why NOT! You can be buried with anything but maybe with an exeption with a beloved pet (some folks DO put their old friends down at the time of death and they would be buried together but this is rare).

My aunt was buried with a photo, some jewelry and another photo of altrasound of her first grandchild. It was so sweet!

 

[HennysMom]

I gotcha sweetie...nuthin but a thing - dont sweat it! I was pretty sure thats what you were meaning but the way you wrote it could be construed as something entirely different.

I still want to know if you need a permit to spread ashes like ..say...up on Skyline Drive or say...the Outer Banks... ..

*please say no someone...*

 

[Mrs MIA]

Wow... we didn't even thing of that when we scattered our grandmother's ashes a couple of weeks ago. We just picked a knoll overlooking the old homestead where she grew up and scattered away. It was odd... it was the first time I had done this... and it was weird dipping a cup into the ashes knowing they were her remains. There were small bits of bones and things in the ashes, but it was like sand. We threw it up in the air, and let the breeze carry it, then scattered wildflowers around the area.

But we never thought to ask permission... the ashes are sterile, so it's not an issue of biosecurity or anything, right?

 

[ruth]

As far as scattering ashes - I think most people adopt the Army's motto:

"Don't ask, Don't tell"

 

[HennysMom]

I'm hoping thats the case and I believe it is in most instances..but I'm curious to know how it works if its a National Park or Seashore ?

 

[Harley's girl]

WOW!
This is the most interesting thread ever!

I plan to be cremated. After organ donations. I feel that there is no need for my family to have to come up with that amount of money in such a short amount of time. And as other people stated. We will eventually run out of room. Then my family can either keep me or scatter me.

My question is.

Is it legal to scatter?

I had a friend who lost her brother and his wishes were to be cremated. They told the funeral director that he would be scattered back home on the farm. And he told her, Absolutely not!!!! That would be contaminating the fields. And the crops that would grow there. Was he just telling her that? I live in a small town and the nearest crematory is over an hour away. Not many folks around here get cremated. I am the "odd" one in my family so to say. All of my family has been buried in one cemetery. And we expected to all be buried there. Weird huh? I said no way. They have already added on to Killbuck's cemetery 3 times in my life and I am only 28! It will only be a matter of time till there is no more room there. Then what? That's why I am getting cremated.

Thank you for being so informative!

 

[Sequin]

My grandmother recently passed away, and if I understand correctly, she was cremated and then the cremanes(sp?) ... her ashes... were shipped to Michigan where she was buried in the same urn(?) as my grandfather. How is shipping of the ashes taken care of?

 

[2468Chickensrgr8]

a little off topic....very interesting topic......

We had a big loveable black Lab ...named Black "Bear" .....he loved to lay on the kitchen floor ...for the coolness of the floor and the food crumbs he could find....he would lay in a spot that I always had to step over him ...It became the normal thing for me to step over him in his old age....he's been gone over a year and a half now and I have his urn tucked away on the kitchen floor somewhere....when people ask ......"whats that"..."oh that ... I reply thats Bear"

 

[wegotchickens]

A close friend lost his dad in the late 80's and the family wanted to scatter the ashes in the Smoky Mountains. They had to get permission and use a certain area in the park.

Another friend lost a sister and used the 'don't ask, don't tell' method for tossing them off a cliff in the Smoky Mtns... And then he and the friends got to cough and wheeze his 'sister' after she blew back in their faces!

Weird question: Can you mix the cremains with cement and make a stepping stone or memorial? Would that violate any rules?