Smuvers Farm
Melvin Up the Taterhole
Its called freedom of speech
I may have started the off topic posts and for that I apologize to the OP but you must realize this whole thread has been off topic including the bickering you spoke of.
Sometimes people miss posts as in Casprtponys case where she is on a small phone. I have missed whole pages by hitting the wrong button. Its human nature to want to help. Well, for most of us anyway. As pack animals, we want to belong and for myself being made to feel like what I said was blather really hurts.
I egged you on though (see what I did there? heh). Sorry as well. HOWEVER, as that is said, when someone signs up here, there is an Introductions page, with 10 social questions they can answer (meaning this is a social site), not *who are you and what's your problem* question.
As an aside, 90% of the time, you don't NEED to sign up to BYC to get an answer from BYC. MOST OF THE TIME, when I see a new member, they signed up for meeting and talking to other BYC people... not to just have a question answered. And the ones who sign up JUST to have a question answered, are usually emergency type questions... and they post maybe 1-4 times and don't post again until they need help... again.
Honestly, I would rather see the *Off Topic* emoji posted, rather than be *brought to task* by another member under the guise of trying to *be helpful*.