*Sigh* Week old baby and possibly a divorce. *Warning: RANT!!!*

[robyncorrine]

No one can decide what is right for you and your family but you (and hubby)
Being married is not easy on ANYONE especially when you have young children. I personally have a daughter almost two and another on the way in addition to working full time, a small hobby farm a 200 year old house.... and a husband who I love but is a huge pain in my a** most of the time.
Lol. At this point in my life I NEVER have enough sleep or time in the day and alot of the time I say screw the chores......
I think the most important thing you should do is get rid of the video games. We all like them but they are truely the destroyer of marriage.
Mindless drones and no communication......
Do what makes you happy and is best for your kids......but DO try to work it out if you love each other....

 

[pamperedpoultry]

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Ok lets get off kirk and back to this ladies life.. I see this goin sour.. LOL

 

[Crazy4cochins]

Are you a young couple? My and my ex were young when we had our son and It's even tougher when you have two young babies. but it sounds like he's using his stupid games as away to cope with this stress,guys like to do things like that. When we think they should be more involved. I know it's irritating but guys are not mothers for a reason
If he wants to leave then say fine, I bet he will start to miss you guys immediatly and want to try to work things out.
I did the whole fuss and fight and even went on wife strike(ladies you know what I mean) and it really will not get either of you anywhere. Then you just get resentful towards him.
It really is ALL ABOUT COMMUNICATION..
Belive me I know, I am from a broken home and I have also created one for my oldest. I know some of these people will say to try and work it out but you know it takes 2 willing persons.
Couseling is great if you are both serious about it. They gave us some great advise but my ex was too concerned with whose fault what was and he has a very big issue with denial of problems...
Still does.lol from his new wife mouth.
Anyways those baby's are what comes first. I know he should help but if he's not going to then make him leave, the kids feel and feed off your stress. you can do it alone if you have to, God gives us women unbelievable strength in the most toughest times.
I was also very scared and did not think I could be on my own but you know once you have to and you see you can ,even thrive as a mother and independent woman it's a real confidence booster.
Plus it's sounds like your family is supportive, that's a great thing right now for you. See if your sis will move in with you.
All I am saying is sounds like he doesn't know how to deal with this stress. Dosen't seem like he can talk about it either.
And I was raised in a home where they stayed together for the kids,That's a bunch of crap. You cannot be the best mother or partner to someone if your not happy.
Good luck and I will pray for you and your babies.
P.S. I am now married to the bestest hubby in the whole world and he's a great father to all three of our kids. I am happier than I have ever been.

 

[Wifezilla]

I did the whole fuss and fight and even went on wife strike(ladies you know what I mean) and it really will not get either of you anywhere.

I never got that. My thinking is why should I deprive myself of a perfectly good time because my husband is being an idiot. He will STILL be an idiot afterward, but I will be in a much better mood to put up with his "maleness".

 

[warmfuzzies]

 

[Boyd]

and it puts us in the "maleness" persuasion in a more receptive mood

 

[agnes_day]

 

[warmfuzzies]

Yeah, the controlling stuff would never work here. If I tried to make him do something, he would set his mind against it and it would never happen.

Honey catches more flies then vinegar, you know! And, like motherof5boys said, hubbies like to be treated special. They do work herd, and we do to. We should appreciate each other. We will be appreciated more, if we act gracious and sweet, and do helpful things.

But, I also have the most awesome husband ever, (NO he is not up for rent!!) so I am speaking from a slightly biased point of veiw! I have seen a lot of women treat their men like dirt, and then expect them to do a bunch of stuff for them when they get home. No wonder they want to go out with the guys! (Not that anyone here is doing that, just my personal off-the-wall rant...

)

 

[Bettacreek]

If you want to watch a girl trample all over her "partner", you should see hubby's sister. She's NASTY. She even gets violent, and if she doesn't get her way, the boyfriend gets to hear about her "physical relations" with some other guy afterwards.

Sadly, they've been together for about four years now. Plus, if she doesn't want him to do something, he WILL NOT do it, whether it's something as stupid as smoking a cigarette (they both smoke) or something bigger, like going out with friends one night (he literally never goes out with his friends, if he even has friends anymore

). Now THAT is a creepy "relationship".

 

[warmfuzzies]

That is totally creepy. It is no fun to be around someone like that.

We went over for supper to these people's house, and the wife is in the kitchen. Suddenly she yells out, "Bobby!! What did I ask you to do earlier???" And he hops up, runs in there, Gives her a big hug, answers her, and then runs to do it. "Sorry, honey!"

HELLO!!!