*Sigh* Week old baby and possibly a divorce. *Warning: RANT!!!*

[Hens_And_Chicks]

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And women everywhere are clapping and thanking you

No one should ever get involved with another person when their ability to be compassionate and caring does not exist. Bacherlor life is the life for you

 

[Bettacreek]

I just joined up in January... Lol. Maybe someone else was having the same problems? Sadly, it wouldn't surprise me.

 

[DarkWingDuck]

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And women everywhere are clapping and thanking you

No one should ever get involved with another person when their ability to be compassionate and caring does not exist. Bacherlor life is the life for you

Thanks for the support. It's good to know that people are so understanding these days. More money, more freedom and peace of mind. A lot of middle aged men congratulate me and say they wish they would have done the same.

And I still enjoy having girlfriends, I'm just realistic in knowing not to place a legal noose around my neck. When one starts to annoy me -- usually around 6 months or so -- I move on to the next.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

You sound like quite the dashing guy

 

[jonathansenn]

I just happened to see this thread and thought I would see what was going on. After reading it, I was shaking cause it sounded like me and my wife. Your comments about your husband had me looking at the location wondering if my wife had found this site. I get fussed at for "playing computer games" and not helping with the boys. My wife and I sat down and discussed the issues. She's not one for talking about problems, she'd rather just go to bed and forget it. I need resolution (do you see the storm that follows). We talked about separation at one time, but never took it that far.

My dad always told me that if I ask a girl to marry me I should be ready to commit 100% whether she is or not. I imagine its the same for women. When I married my wife I was totally committed. There are many days when I feel like I'm giving 110% and receiving 0% (there are days she probably feels the same).

For instance, with everything I do I don't get a lot of free time. We are on spring break now at my school. Instead of getting to sleep late for a change; I have to wake up at the same time (5:45am), make her coffee, and take Peanut (youngest son) all the way across town to day care. I don't like it but I do it. why?

One, because I love her (just like you said you love your husband).

Two I made a promise to her and the man upstairs to take care of her no matter what.

Three, as a school teacher I see the effects of split homes everyday. Many people don't think that it bothers the kids. I can give examples that would flood this forum that it does, they just don't let the parents know.

If the relationship is not abusive (physically or verbally) then it is worth saving. I'm sure someone has told you to watch the movie fireproof. If not, you should. It will help a lot because it is about what you are going through. Good luck. I will pray for you.


I didn't read all of the post so someone may have given you the same advise. If not, please take this post as a "been there ,done that, on the other side". Your family is worth it.

 

[PoultryScienceAggie]

Hope things are working out better with you and your hubby.

 

[goobhen]

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And women everywhere are clapping and thanking you

No one should ever get involved with another person when their ability to be compassionate and caring does not exist. Bacherlor life is the life for you

Thanks for the support. It's good to know that people are so understanding these days. More money, more freedom and peace of mind. A lot of middle aged men congratulate me and say they wish they would have done the same.

And I still enjoy having girlfriends, I'm just realistic in knowing not to place a legal noose around my neck. When one starts to annoy me -- usually around 6 months or so -- I move on to the next.

okay Darkwing, you almost had me agreeing with you, until I read your retort~~then you just lost!! 6 ~ 8 months then a new girl? That's okay if your in high school!
Bettacreek, I am sorry you are having problems, for the sake of everyone in your family, I hope and pray that things start getting better for your family. If things don't seem to get better soon, I would try counseling. It will help, even if it only helps you and the boys. I went through the same things. God bless, Theresa

 

[Boyd]

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Betta, for what it's worth I am sorry to hear this. Being I guy I can maybe shed a little light on the subject, or just muddy the waters

Guys have WAY weird ways of dealing with things. Most of the time it is because we are too scared to face it head on so we ignore it, or make ourselves busy elsewhere (like video games?)

I know it was selfish of me, but when my kids were born I was jealous that I was now in last place. Stop, do not pass go do not collect 200$. For a while I didn't know how to handle it, and eventually it caused a divorce. For me, I had a lot of growing up to do, but I also had no way of expressing my feelings to my wife. Guys are not equipped to do a lot of talking, soul searching, or (gasp) crying ... at least out of the box. If I could have told my X, I guess I would of told her I needed to feel important too. Anyway, I got a whole lot more to say if you want to hear it, but don't want to do any more publicly

 

[Boyd]

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Ooops, wrote a post before I read all of this. Amen girl, I agree 100%

 

[mmtillman]

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Yes....remember your vows and try to remember why you married in the first place?

Get a sitter, and go see the movie Fireproof and I can promise you , your marriage will get a 2nd chance...but you need to see it TOGETHER! Your in my prayers...All of you !!