Stop Dressing Your Daughter Like A...

[chickenfeathers]

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I'll second that!!

Great posts. Thank you all!

 

[LynnGrigg]

My daughter showed up in stuff like that that she purchased herself in her teens. I couldn't believe she had the guts to ask me how she looked. What an opportunity! I told her if she dressed like a slut, she'd be treated like one( and this from personal experience - which I reminded her that I had had plenty.) She told me not too many years later that I was right and she doesn't dress or allow her own daughter to dress that way. There's nothing wrong with being a "nice" girl. I'd prefer to be treated like one.
- in fact there's nothing wrong with being a child. I wish we'd all let them be kids. It passes so quickly.

 

[SeaChick]

Wow... I didn't know it was so bad out there!!!!

Olivia is 11, in the 6th grade, and she dresses very appropriately, thank goodness. Normal-fitting blue jeans, long-sleeved blouses and sweaters, long denim skirts, etc. She's just starting to form her own "style" and get into clothes, and what she likes are plain, preppy classics mixed with a few bohemian or victorian items. Very sweet.

We don't shop at the mall stores, walmart, etc, so I haven't seen the really offensive stuff you guys are talking about all that much. We've been able to find nice normal items (like plain long-sleeve Ts, normal khaki shorts, etc) at Target, the sale rack at GapKids, and the lcoal kids resale store that has lots of LLBean, Gapkids, and -when she was younger- Lily Pulitzer and Hanna Anderson and Gymboree.

I HAVE noticed some of the girls at her school dressed in heels, make-up, and somewhat slutty clothes, but Olivia has no interest in that stuff, thankfully. The school also has a dress code that appears to be enforced, including nothing midriff-baring, and skirts must be longer than fingertip length.

I guess I should count myself lucky that the influences you all are talking about haven't hit so hard here!!! Yikes!!!

 

[arlee453]

OK, one of the clothing 'trends' that annoys me the MOST is writing across the back of pants.

I don't want to know you that well, to know it's 'juicy' or 'sweet' or 'sassy' or whatever...

It must have been so bad that the school dress policy actually mentions specifically that pants with writing on the back side are not allowed. And, no midriffs showing, and no spaghetti straps, etc.

Thank goodness!! It's sad though that the SCHOOL has to make this a policy - no parent should ever send their little kid out the door with 'precious' written on their bottoms!

 

[hsm5grls]

I guess this goes hand in hand with the garbage on T.V. The way women are portrayed as sex objects and the sexier and flutter you are the more you are accepted and liked. I have had many talks with my girls. I tell them that the women's body is beautiful and they have nothing to be ashamed of it is only nasty and dirty if you make it that way.
I tell them that it is a gift to be honored and that they are blessed to be women. I also have told them that by dressing provocatively they are inviting attention that they are not prepared to deal with yet. They are very conservative. although my oldest DD is starting to enjoy fashion and is even designing some of her own cloths (she has this whole weird style going on) I told her I don't mind weird I just want them to be decent. She really likes the victorian style mixed with a little pauper girl.
I want my girls to know that even though they are beautiful they should be respected for who they are not for showing there breasts and tooshes. This has been a hot topioc at our house as we have all girls and they have friends who I don't always agree with. I just hope my girls will continue to respect themselves enough to let the sluty trend pass them by.

 

[country freedom]

When we lived in Norfolk, VA in the very late 90's, we lived in Public Housing. Our next door neighbor's granddaughter had a birthday party there and my oldest girl was told (by the granddaughter) she couldn't attend unless she could dance the same way they were all dancing outside. I watched them dancing, watched the few parents cheering them on, even the Grandmother was telling a few of the girls to get out there and dance. Think of -sexual dancing-

that's what I called it back then. You know why? Our front yards were fenced in, their fence was lined with grown men and older teenage boys WATCHING these little girls. these men and boys were neighborhood people- not all of them were the little girl's family!

These little girls were between 7 and 10 years old at the time! These girls were dancing so seductively-sexual-thats all you saw! They were trying to outdance everyone else at the party. I showed my daughter the men and told her-That's Trouble-she didn't want to go to the party then.

When I was with my childrens father in Norfolk (most of his family lives there), we would go to neices and nephews birthday parties and most danced like that. I constantly told my daughter not to dance like that- thats inviting trouble- she would see most of her cousins and aunts and uncles dance that way. Thankfully her dad had some sense, he even told her not to dance that way, but he would cheer everyone else on! un

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[Frozen Feathers]

I can't imagine what it's going to be like when DD hits HS!!

What's left? Are girls going to start wearing French bikinis to school?? It's bad enough already with shirts that just fall under their breast and daisy dukes with their butt cheeks falling out! Then the g-string wedgie wear underwear sticking up above the low cut jeans, how is that even comfortable?? How can you learn history while you are trying remove a piece of thread from your butt?

If you're an adult and want to dress like that, fine. It's okay if you want to look slutty and leave nothing to imagination. But if you're an adult and dressing your young daughter like that, you need to be seriously slapped. How can you teach your kid that looks aren't everything when you're putting so much emphasis on looking good??!!

 

[Pinenot]

If a parent can't control what a child is wearing, there not controling anything else. I don't want to know what else they're doing that isn't being controled. We wonder why the kids are turning out the way they are. Most likely the parent is acting the same way!

I have 3 children and I buy all their cloths. To bad if it covers your privates! No one is seeing it! Period! End of discusion!! They may end up hating me while their growning up but they will thank me!

I only get one chance to raise them and I will have to answer for it in the end.

 

[hollyclyff]

Wow, none of this stuff is allowed at my daughter's school. The dress code is more strict than ours was when I was in school in the 70's and 80's. And it's just a regular public school. No tank tops, no shorts or skirts shorter than finger tip length, stomachs and backs must be covered at all times (including when the arms are raised over the head), no flip-flops, no overly tight or overly baggy clothes, no offensive graphics, no words on the butt, etc. From what I've seen it is enforced. Our home rule is - with the exception of tank tops and flip-flops for summer - if you can't wear it to school, we don't buy it.

 

[Reinbeau]

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OMG, this makes my blood boil. What is wrong with those people!

There isn't a smiley here nasty enough to convey how I feel. :::shaking head::: and those poor little girls with grow up with such a warped sense of themselves and what is is to be a woman.