The Book On How To Understand Women

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Screaming? Who? No, not here, ever! Angry outbursts, lashing out, cursing, well mayyyyybeee.... but only when he causes it!

Oh and al6517, my husband wants to know how you got woman figured out. We've been married, lets see, 22 years and he hasn't a clue, still! Told me that just the other day.

DH also agree's, that book is only volume one of many and the last one refer's back to volume one!
 
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Honest thoughts?

The men I've met that were completely understandable were a total bore...

Food... *gulp*... beer... *scratch*... romp... *readjust* is just NOT stimulating enough conversation for me...

Perhaps you fellas should think...

...If a woman was totally understandable... something along the lines of...

Chocolate *gulp* Money *snatch* Sex *eyeroll*

wouldn't life be a bit boring?

I personally like a little variety in my day... well so long as it doesn't involve losing a body part.
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Perhaps the males find females so incredibly hard to understand because they simply lack the brain power to understand an advanced & complicated subject. Females are wired to not "dumb down" just to be understood by the male species.
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Man was created first....and then realizing how inept it was, woman was created!
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Of course there are special cases in both sexes that will never be understood by anyone!!
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We are often hard for you to understand,
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just as you are for us for the simple reason that we are different. (
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Thank God!!) If we were the same as you we would all be men (or women) and not only would that be boring!
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but we would not even be able to have this discussion because the species would have died out long ago
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viva la difference, yeah?!!
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A very average, regular type man once told me that women aren't at all difficult to understand.

What he said was, 'All you gotta do is be nice to them'.

He had no idea why other men had such a big problem with that. He had a very happy wife.

So, evidently, it worked very well for him.

The other guy with us said, alright give us an example.

He said he told her he'd pick up something at the store, and he forgot it. She got mad at him. He said, 'I'm sorry'. He went and picked up the item, and he brought her back one red rose and a lottery ticket, LOL. He said, 'too bad the ticket didn't hit, but the rose sure did'.

The other guy said, 'I'd tell her to go pick it up her own self'.

And the guy said, 'I'm sure that's workin' real good for you' and then LHAO.

He said, 'when you say you're gonna do somethin' for her, you do it. When she talks, listen, and she will talk a whole lot less. She's just talkin' so much 'cause you ain't listenin'. Look at her when she's talkin'. Listen. It just ain't that hard'.

He also used a phrase, 'Do your homework'. To him it was just natural. Ask her what is important to her. Ask her what she needs, how she feels. Find out.

Two really important things I learned in doing counseling:

1.) People NEED TO GET MAD. They need to get it out of their system when they are frustrated and hurt. That has to go someplace, and it's better out than in.
2.) Once you let them get it out of their system, most likely, they are going to ask you to do JUST ONE REASONABLE THING. THAT'S ALL. THAT'S IT.

I think that both women and men get picky and hard to please over small things because they are unhappy with the situation in a more general way.

I don't think men realize that what their actions often say to a woman is, 'I don't care about you, you're my servant, who cares how you feel'.

Often women don't know exactly what it is that's wrong, so they couldn't tell you what's wrong. They just know they don't feel right and don't know what to do about it.

Sometimes they realize the relationship is just never going to be what they hope for, but they have to stay because of children, lack of job training, something like that. There is nothing wrong with trying to make things a little bit better. It might help a lot.

I talk to a lot of women and the commonest complaint I hear about their man is he just does not show he cares. They feel taken for granted. I don't think it is words most women want to hear, it's actions. I know some really sweet talking men, but they are just bs artists...their relationships don't go well at all. They have a lot of unhappy people around them. Actions speak louder than words.

AND....the man's reaction to 'he doesn't show he cares', is almost always to rationalize. Rationalize rationalize rationalize. Trot out facts that they feel 'proves' they are 'right'.

You can't apply that sort of thing to feelings. Feelings aren't rational. They were never meant to be; they never will be.

Too, when there's been a problem for a long, long time, one token act isn't going to erase it all. It takes time, and a lot of those acts, to lessen problems. If you hit a horse on the head once, he will flinch every time you raise your hand for years. If you hit him on the head more than once, he is not going to forget it if you pat him once. It's a whole lot better to never hit him on the head, because then you have a lot of work to do to make up for it. People don't forget things so easily either.

The other thing to think about of course is health. Everyone gets overly sensitive and unhappy when they are not healthy. Women have a lot of undiagnosed health problems - their symptoms can be different from men and nowadays, most people get very poor health care. When someone is not acting right, often something is wrong with their health. Often fatigue, insomnia, lead to people being unhappy day to day.
 
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