The new (human) baby thread...

[KellyHM]

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You will have to be firm with her. I am not sure what parenting technique you are going with, but I will tell you honest when my toddler throws something I smack his hands and tell him no. Be firm. You don't have to scream or be overly mean, just smack the hand and firmly say NO. I will spank his butt if he continues after several hand smacks and being told no. Mine is 3, and he just started with this behavior, so I dunno if I would smack an 18 month old's butt.

Honestly, at 18 months talking and trying to reason with them doesn't work. They haven't developed real reasoning skills at that age.

eta: when mine gets into a full blown tantrum I put him to bed and let him scream/cry it out. If he gets out of the bed I put him back in and tell him firmly to stay in bed. He's not allowed up until he's done screaming/crying. Usually he falls asleep.

We have smacked her hand before now you tell her no she throws it then smacks her own hand and throws a fit.. She is very smart I just don't know what to do anymore.

I would be tempted to say a stern "no ma'am" and stick her in a quiet room where she can't hurt herself, but doesn't get any attention from anyone while she's pitching a fit.

 

[GAChknGirl]

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We have smacked her hand before now you tell her no she throws it then smacks her own hand and throws a fit.. She is very smart I just don't know what to do anymore.

I would be tempted to say a stern "no ma'am" and stick her in a quiet room where she can't hurt herself, but doesn't get any attention from anyone while she's pitching a fit.

At this point ill try anything!

 

[ebwy2]

I think it must be their age, Arwyn is 18 months (well, 3 days off... ) and does similar. I dump him on the floor with a firm "no!" and ignore him when he tries to climb up me. I ignore tantrums to get things, because I don't want "throw a fit to get what you want" to be learned! In sheer desperation I've strapped him into his high chair and left the room (could see him, but he didn't know that) to cry myself twice... I'm hoping it's their age!

I also have the rule of "you throw it, you lose it" and after losing several toys for a couple of days he seems to be starting to learn not to throw things at me (or smash them into my face)

 

[Livinzoo]

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Look into Craniosacral therapy for her ears. I have heard really good things about it.

Behavior wise, can you take away the items she can't throw and give her items she can. Maybe the ear ache is bothering her to the point she is acting out. Maybe its a reaction to food items. Is she overtired, overstimulated, bored? It is hard to say what it is since there could be so many causes.

Maybe something like a ball pit where she could throw things.

 

[rcentner]

I have a friend that had tubes put in her toddler and he started talking and you could tell he could hear better. He is 12 yrs old now and he is doing just fine with no tubes. I think he had them replaced once, but I wouldn't hesitate to put them in Shane if need be cause I saw such a difference with my friends kid.

 

[MrsKemmerlin]

Ugh.. I am so stressed/frustrated today. Lylah is just over two months old and my grandmothers on both my mom's side and my dad's side said that they would switch off watching her until she was three months old so she could at least stay out of a day care that long. Knowing that I have been looking into daycares around us as well as hitting anyone up for potential private sitters that they know - or if they know someone that may even consider it. Well, I had a lady that lives like ten minutes from our home, which would have been perfect, and a price that she decides to tell me!? I might as well take her to a daycare and be done with it! What part of "helping someone out" is costing us the same a daycare would charge us!?

And a little more in some cases!!! I wish I could just quit my job and not have to worry about it...
Sorry for the rant... I don't know what is with me today... I am so upset, frustrated and stressed out about it all I could literally cry

 

[greenfamilyfarms]

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You are not the only one having issues with that. It's amazing to me all of the people that told me that if I "needed anything" or "needed anybody to watch Isabella", to give them a call. I return to work this coming Thursday. Guess what? Those people are suddenly way too busy to help me out just for a few hours every couple of weeks. SOOOO... I had to call and reduce my hours. I'm down to working 2 days a week - the 2 BUSIEST days of the week. Busy is fine, but I'll be beat when I get home those days. Hubby can watch her one of those days and my Grandmother is going to watch her the other day.

I so understand.

 

[MrsKemmerlin]

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That stinks you had to reduce your hours, but at least you have a temp fix!

And to make matters even better... DH was in an accident last night after he got off of work. Both he and the lady he hit were fine, but his poor car is pretty bad. As if we weren't watching $$ to begin with, now we have to shell out for that stinkin' car! Blah. Life goes on, he's just lucky he hadn't gone to get Lylah yet.

Anyone know where to get a SMALL-tipped aspirator!? I have looked at CVS, Walgreens, Target and Walmart! The smallest tipped one I've found is Safety 1st, and it is still too big to get anything out of her poor stuffy nose

I had a super cheap one made by Luvs, and it was perfect, but it didn't have a very long life - hence, super cheap

Duh. And now I can't find another one like it...

 

[Robin'sBrood]

The best aspirators I've ever had were the ones that came from the hospitals. I don't know what brand they are but the tip is small enough to fit inside a newborn's nose. Why those other companies make the tips so big is beyond me. Anyway, maybe you could check with your pediatrician and see if they have any, or even if a hospital will sell you one... they'll probably charge a hundred bucks for one though!

Sorry you ladies are having childcare issues.

 

[rcentner]

I am also frustrated with my "Daycare" situation. I have my mother watching Shane during the week and I hate to say it, but I am not sure she does the best job. Ya, she changes his diaper and feeds and loves him, but I am pretty sure Shane spends most of the day entertaining himself in the exersaucer. My DH says every thursday when he picks Shane up my mom is on the computer paying no mind to Shane. It is free, so I can't complain. I can't afford to work and pay for daycare...they would cancel eachother out making it so I worked for nothing. I wish I didn't have to work too. I would much rather be at home with the love of my life. My friend Shelly was watching him 1 day/week when I 1st went back to work, but she is too busy and doesn't watch him at all now.
I too found that all the folks who couldn't wait to help out disappeared. I do have a few folks who will babysit for free on weekends if we want to go out, but we rarely do that...who can afford to go out to a movie or eat dinner? (not us).
My Dad keeps reminding me how much work it is for mom to watch Shane which is irritating...I know! But then again, how much work is it? And Shane is only good for me, he doesn't nap at her house...yesterday he took a 45 minute nap ALL DAY! I made suggestions to my mom to help him sleep longer and I thought she would be motivated to try them since she would benefit from him napping, but no. Too much work to move the swing upstairs (yes, he still sleeps in his swing during the day) where it is quieter and darker. My family can be pretty darn lazy. It's annoying. Then my DH gets on my case about picking him up 1x/week....1 time a week!!!! OMG
I went out last friday night to my friends house to play some cards, thankfully she is right down the road. I left Shane sleeping in his crib and apparently 10 minutes after I left Shane woke up and I get 4 calls from my DH (oops, didn't hear my phone in my purse) and when I finally hear the phone, my DH is freaking out cause Shane wont stop crying. So I have to run home, calm Shane down (which took 20minutes) and package Shane up to bring with me. I can't even get 1 night out and my DH complains that he is tired.
OK...I guess I will stop venting here....
ON the other hand, I love Shane sooooooooooooooo much that I actually dont mind losing some of my life to him. Knowing that I am the only one who can comfort him at any time makes me feel good and makes me want to be with him all the time. He is spoiled

Sorry about your truck Kemmerlin, I think I got my aspirator from the hospital. I have a cheesy winnie the pooh one that couldn't suck anything from anywhere. It was still really hard to aspirate Shanes nose when he was younger.
You can use vicks vapo rub on them you know....rub it in the bottom of her feet. I found it helpful for Shane, I really love the vaporizer too. I just bought one a few weeks ago and it seems like it shortened the length of his last cold.
Hope y'all are enjoying the new year...strangely warm here, still have not used the sled I bought for Shane

I have never lived through a January this warm, normally we are sub zero in january.