Things you wish you could say

[EmmaRainboe]

I don't even know if I have any friends on BYC either. Most don't really want to talk with me. I'm really avoidant of people, Usually if somebody stops me on the street I try and move along and not get too into conversation. Which really makes making friends really difficult. I need a period of warming up, you know? it really makes me sad when the people who I thought where my friends completely stop talking to me. when I do make friends I get really attached to them and I cannot just move on. I miss them a lot.

I'm sorry you haven't seen your friends in awhile. I know the feeling of thinking somebody will stick around but they don't. really hurts.

I'm your friend, Avary.

And, I feel you, I'm the same way.

 

[EverythingDucks]

If I can talk to people about my dogs, dog grooming, dog training, rabbits, rabbit care, reptiles, chickens or ducks, the I'm good. I could talk for hours. Anything else though and I get super anxious and awkward.

 

[EverythingDucks]

I don't even know if I have any friends on BYC either. Most don't really want to talk with me. I'm really avoidant of people, Usually if somebody stops me on the street I try and move along and not get too into conversation. Which really makes making friends really difficult. I need a period of warming up, you know? it really makes me sad when the people who I thought where my friends completely stop talking to me. when I do make friends I get really attached to them and I cannot just move on. I miss them a lot.

I'm sorry you haven't seen your friends in awhile. I know the feeling of thinking somebody will stick around but they don't. really hurts.

Hey, I'm your friend too!

I'm sorry you've had people leave you like that. I know it hurts.

 

[EmmaRainboe]

I'm super nervous all the time too. I have really bad social anxiety. The only thing I could ever talk about is chickens, unfortunately no one ever knows what I'm talking about. And everytime I find someone with chickens they're all like "Oh yeah, I took care of them when they were babies, now they are just annoying and I never go see them LOL." It's really sad. I feel like those people don't even deserve to have chickens.

 

[chickentrains]

If I can talk to people about my dogs, dog grooming, dog training, rabbits, rabbit care, reptiles, chickens or ducks, the I'm good. I could talk for hours. Anything else though and I get super anxious and awkward.

I can talk about animals forever too. Most people get annoyed and go away. I'm autistic too, so i really don't get it when people are fed up with me. Lol. It ends really badly for me in the friend department

 

[EverythingDucks]

I can talk about animals forever too. Most people get annoyed and go away. I'm autistic too, so i really don't get it when people are fed up with me. Lol. It ends really badly for me in the friend department

If you ever want to chat with me just pm or tag me and we can talk about whatever. I won't get fed up with you

 

[Nabiki]

Both my parents are left handed. They told us kids that when they were in school, the nuns(catholic school) tried to teach them to write with their right hand. The nuns said writing left handed was the work of the devil. Their reasoning was because Jesus sits at the right hand of God. Meanwhile, out of six girls, only one of us is left handed

That too is part of why sinister has taken on its modern meaning.

 

[chickentrains]

If you ever want to chat with me just pm or tag me and we can talk about whatever. I won't get fed up with you

Same goes for you. I'm bad about pming people first LOL

 

[CarpCharacin]

I've always been the complete outcast. Nobody wants to be my friend.

Same. I have also gotten less tolerant of others, so I've always ended up being not-so-nice to the few similar-enough individuals who have shown some interest in being my friend, usually due to "minor" slights. I then alternate between regret and satisfaction. Those "minor" slights obviously don't always seem minor to me, I've felt that some so-called friends have resented me because of my interests, and that they've only interacted with me because they feel sorry for me and / or because they want to remind themselves that they're better than me in one way or another. I also tend to get irritated by people who I perceive as vacuous, and it doesn't take much to trigger that. It's the most upsetting when at the same time I feel like I'm objectively no better, or even worse.

 

[Lemon-Drop]

I feel you. The last time I saw a friend of mine was October 2019. And I haven't seen any the people that I used to hang out with at a homeschool co op since sometime in spring of 2019.
Of course I haven't gotten texts from any of them since around Thanksgiving last year.

When I first met them, now over 5 years ago, I thought maybe I could actually have some friends since I used to move every year. Being homeschooled I never got to even see people at school.

Though I have gotten to hang out with my little brothers friends, who are much younger than me but the girl is more mature. I've gotten her interested in animals too. She went from being terrified of snakes to loving them in the same day after I showed her how sweet they can be.


I've been feeling really lonely the past few months though. The most social interaction I get is from teaching dog training, the occasional errand, and I sometimes get to talk to people while walking the dogs.

The only friends I have now are the people here on BYC. I think they're the reason I'm still able to hold on in life.

I’m sorry. Know that I consider you a friend! Even if you don’t really consider me a friend.