Unacceptable Guest Dog

[NatJ]

he says she doesn’t leave his property without him knowing about it... I have a dog who stays in the backyard and never leaves it unless he’s on a leash.

I have to ask--how sure are you that your dog doesn't leave the property by himself, just like your neighbor's dog does?

For the neighbor's dog that "never" comes over--if it's a big deal maybe you could call Animal Control or catch the dog and take it to the dog pound. Of course, only if it's on your property at the time.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

WELL as a married couple for 16years neither of us would allow our family members to behave this way towards the other. We have enough love & respect in our marriage that we don't let people barge into our homes or their animals to kill or terrorize our pets/livestock.

Marriage is not always about biting your tongue just because it has something to do with conflict with the in-laws. When you marry someone you leave that family and cleave unto your spouse to become one you don't allow the in-laws to dictate your stress level or your own home.

The question was asking what you could do to change the mother but when we give advice you don't like it. I don't mean that to sound rude but seriously the only way you're going to stop her from doing these things is to speak up and explain to her what's going on and take the key back that's all you can do at this point, because it sounds like she's been catered to & allowed to act whatever way she wants towards you.
There doesn't seem to be any sort of boundaries whatsoever.
There can still be love with extended family and still have boundaries in your own home.

The OPs (@MarkJr ) situation is a little different than mine. They lost a bird and I have not. We, my fiancee and I, have tried very hard to place boundaries and have spoken to her about this repeatedly. She refuses to accept the boundaries we are trying to enforce. I am excepting of your advice on the situation

 

[592784]

I have to ask--how sure are you that your dog doesn't leave the property by himself, just like your neighbor's dog does?

For the neighbor's dog that "never" comes over--if it's a big deal maybe you could call Animal Control or catch the dog and take it to the dog pound. Of course, only if it's on your property at the time.

Because we have a 8 foot high fence and he doesn’t dig holes, and he’s 12 years old with arthritis

 

[LaFemmeKatia]

If this makes sense? Get a large dog crate for all unwanted animals visiting you, aka dog. Tell the person your dogs goes in there while there visiting. It's unconditional.

This is a great idea!
i can never understand people who have to bring their dog along to people’s houses. And then not even on a leash!
I would not bring my dogs to other people’s homes!

 

[EverythingDucks]

This is a great idea!
i can never understand people who have to bring their dog along to people’s houses. And then not even on a leash!
I would not bring my dogs to other people’s homes!

I don't get it either. And I love brining my dogs places with me, but they are very well behaved and small. If they were yappy I would teach them not to and I would not bring them.
The only time I've brought a dog to someone else's house was when my Yorkie was a puppy and they wanted to meet her. If someone wants to bring their dog they should first ask of course, but use common sense. If you're coming to have dinner with them don't bring a dog. If your dog has issues don't bring them. Etc.
Sadly though ''common sense'' isn't so common.

 

[rumbleBee_STi]

I’m so sick of other peoples dogs coming into MY yard. All of my chickens stay in their runs until I can be out there with them while they free range, but my 4 ducks free range from morning til night. I,luckily, caught some mutt sniffing around the driveway one morning, had its nose to the ground fixing to head towards the backyard where everyone stays. A few warning shots with my 9 mil & hollering at it sent it running down the mountain. I’ve never seen as many passerby’s when living in town as I do living on a mountain ridge today!

 

[LaFemmeKatia]

But the problem is, she has a key. And she lets herself in.

That’s your first problem. If I were you I would change the locks. (Easier than asking a person like that for the key back).

 

[Chickenlover0810]

we lost half of our flock and one injured from a stray dog a couple of weeks ago. its terible

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

That’s your first problem. If I were you I would change the locks. (Easier than asking a person like that for the key back).

Thats what I consider as "getting mean about it". Id rather it not come to that. But if it does it will have to be a decision between my fiancee and I. I won't go over his head on it. I also think itd be better to tackle that situation once she is "family".

 

[Ab1010]

This is a great idea!
i can never understand people who have to bring their dog along to people’s houses. And then not even on a leash!
I would not bring my dogs to other people’s homes!

I bring my dogs to other peoples homes when they are invited. Some people enjoy other peoples animals. I also refuse to bring one of my dogs because he is a neusance. Its knowing your animals. Some people do not because they can not bear to think their beloved animal would do something bad. My dog has to wear muzzle outside because no matter what he kills my livestock.