I was never taught to write thank you notes and I'm nearly 50. I have written thank you cards after a job interview. That's the only time and that was only because I'd read about it in a book on job strategies.
I was shocked when I got thank you notes from the two little girls next door who gave little gifts to for their birthday. Aside from a couple of wedding thank you cards, I'd never gotten a thank you card in my life. Never expected them either.
If I give a gift, it's nice to know the person received it, but I would never expect them to send me a thank you card, or call me just for that. If they mention it next time we meet, that's cool, but I won't be surprised if they forget, especially people with a new baby.
So, I guess I'm just saying don't expect everyone to have the same views on gift etiquette. That doesn't mean they're "rude", just that they're following different ways of doing things. If you're there to give the gift, I imagine they would say thank you. But if you're not there, then I suspect they thought the thanks would be delivered the same way as the gift - through the people who brought it.
I was shocked when I got thank you notes from the two little girls next door who gave little gifts to for their birthday. Aside from a couple of wedding thank you cards, I'd never gotten a thank you card in my life. Never expected them either.
If I give a gift, it's nice to know the person received it, but I would never expect them to send me a thank you card, or call me just for that. If they mention it next time we meet, that's cool, but I won't be surprised if they forget, especially people with a new baby.
So, I guess I'm just saying don't expect everyone to have the same views on gift etiquette. That doesn't mean they're "rude", just that they're following different ways of doing things. If you're there to give the gift, I imagine they would say thank you. But if you're not there, then I suspect they thought the thanks would be delivered the same way as the gift - through the people who brought it.