This is a hard question to answer. I'm not a big guy, but I've always been strong, so having larger teenagers in the house now doesn't bother me. I just pick them up and pin them if needed. In the case of a single mother.... involve the cops if it's domestic abuse....
Now if I wasn't in foster care and wasn't a mandatory reporter this is what I did waaaaaaaaaaay back in my former life. I had a little brother who was big. He went after my mom. Once.
I was about 20 or so at the time and I took him for a drive and told him we were going hunting. Obviously since I didn't bring a gun or my orange he started to freak out when we got out to the middle of the woods in the middle of nowhere. I explained to him that if he is ever to lay hands on a woman again, or disrespect my mother again, he would live a very long time. And regret every moment of it.
The threat was enough to stop him dead in his tracks. I never had to do anything physical but he respected me, and my mom after that.
Now for a single mother.. She definitely has to break this cycle. She has to become the alpha dog and not the other way around. It's VERY hard to do but they do make quite a number of self protection devices. I'd never advocate using them unless the cops have been involved numerous times otherwise DHS will take all the kids. If there is an uncle, grandpa or another man figure that can step up, it needs to be done.
And that boy needs his hide tanned good.
Now if I wasn't in foster care and wasn't a mandatory reporter this is what I did waaaaaaaaaaay back in my former life. I had a little brother who was big. He went after my mom. Once.
I was about 20 or so at the time and I took him for a drive and told him we were going hunting. Obviously since I didn't bring a gun or my orange he started to freak out when we got out to the middle of the woods in the middle of nowhere. I explained to him that if he is ever to lay hands on a woman again, or disrespect my mother again, he would live a very long time. And regret every moment of it.
The threat was enough to stop him dead in his tracks. I never had to do anything physical but he respected me, and my mom after that.
Now for a single mother.. She definitely has to break this cycle. She has to become the alpha dog and not the other way around. It's VERY hard to do but they do make quite a number of self protection devices. I'd never advocate using them unless the cops have been involved numerous times otherwise DHS will take all the kids. If there is an uncle, grandpa or another man figure that can step up, it needs to be done.
And that boy needs his hide tanned good.