Ahhh, I am steaming mad at my teenage son right now!!!!!

[emvickrey]

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Girls- I will throw in the 3rd for free- mine is 15, smarter than the rest of the world, and found girls. UUUGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!

hey wait... who wants my 12 yr old?

I got a call while i was at the dentist today that my son had ingested an unknown white substance

so with mouth frozen i rush off to the school....

Kid "A" claimed to my son that the substance was drugs, my son thinking he was a smart alec was going to prove him wrong and snorted the substance

when my ds started feeling under the weather he went to school staff and told them what he had done

when kid "A" found out that police were involved he started to panic and fessed up and said it was baking powder

just to be on the safe side we took ds to the hospital for a tox screen which came back neg...

where do some boys put their brains?....

so DS is grounded FOREVER!!!!

Apparently the hospital you had your son in neglected to inform you that boys have 2 brains. One small one located in the groin area and a larger one located in their skull. They tend to use the smaller one. It has testosterone located near it and it makes the smaller brain think differently than the larger one. The larger one is used only for intellegence.

 

[Dar]

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hey wait... who wants my 12 yr old?

I got a call while i was at the dentist today that my son had ingested an unknown white substance

so with mouth frozen i rush off to the school....

Kid "A" claimed to my son that the substance was drugs, my son thinking he was a smart alec was going to prove him wrong and snorted the substance

when my ds started feeling under the weather he went to school staff and told them what he had done

when kid "A" found out that police were involved he started to panic and fessed up and said it was baking powder

just to be on the safe side we took ds to the hospital for a tox screen which came back neg...

where do some boys put their brains?....

so DS is grounded FOREVER!!!!

Apparently the hospital you had your son in neglected to inform you that boys have 2 brains. One small one located in the groin area and a larger one located in their skull. They tend to use the smaller one. It has testosterone located near it and it makes the smaller brain think differently than the larger one. The larger one is used only for intellegence.

and intelligence does not kick in till after 25 right? ..lol

 

[lorrir]

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When my kids were teenagers, we has jsut moved into a new house. Everyone one of them had to pick up a bucket of rocks from the front yard (very rocky area and we had not planted grass yet) every day. I checked the rock buckets every night. Little did I know they just filled their buckets from the big rock pile they were depositing their buckets. It was a silly chore but I thought they needed to do something with themselves every day.


Raising boys seems to be hard then girls. At 16 they think they are adults even though they are not. 15 to 21 be a tough time for everyone.

 

[pokey]

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i like this because my mom did the similar things to us when we were teens. embarrassment doesn't work all the time and sometimes you are more afraid of your friends than your parents, so learning how real life is when you are at rock bottom gives you the guts or sense to get morales.also getting a job after school really busys the mind. a busy mind doesn't turn into a mind that thinks about doing things you should not be doing, or, make him volunteer somewhere.

 

[MissPrissy]

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Ohhhh! I thought I read it happened at school. My bad.

However, if he did it once .... in a year and some he will be legally an adult and the penalty is great.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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IMHO, since you have the option, home schooling would be best since this is the second time. Don't let there be a third. With my son it was drinking. When I found the empty bottles under his bed, I lined them up on the counter and never said a word to him. He grounded himself for 5 weeks before he asked if he could watch the History channel.

Also, telling him how disappointed in him I was made him feel like poop. I also didn't talk to him for quite a few days. He would come to me and I would just turn around and walk away. He never did it again. I also removed the people he was drinking with from his life. Home schooling him was the only way to do that.

Sounds like a very appropriate response for a kid getting into trouble with friends.

Let him know that he has to earn back your trust, and that it will not be easy. Ask him to consider what his "punishment " ought to be. Regardless of his answer, let him know that you and Dad will have to ponder and discuss his input, and that you will get back with him. Let him stew a bit, and feel free to adjust his recommendation or reject it outright and replace it with somthing you think will be more effective. In my opinion, he should lose all freedoms--everything is supervised and monitored for a good long while. Consider whether you want to have him tested for whatever substances you suspect him of abusing, and if necessary enroll him in a treatment program.

 

[Robin'sBrood]

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We have a very large hole at the end of our driveway, caused by all the rain we got this summer & fall. My neighbor has offered us dirt from a mound they have in their yard. Their house is a pretty good little walk from ours... I think a shovel and a wheelbarrow, multiple trips to the dirt mound and filling in our driveway "pond" is in good order. Thanks for the idea!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Robin'sBrood :

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We have a very large hole at the end of our driveway, caused by all the rain we got this summer & fall. My neighbor has offered us dirt from a mound they have in their yard. Their house is a pretty good little walk from ours... I think a shovel and a wheelbarrow, multiple trips to the dirt mound and filling in our driveway "pond" is in good order. Thanks for the idea!

Have him carry a bucket, not use the wheel barrow. It will occupy him longer and be a LOT more effort.​

 

[Robin'sBrood]

Yard full o' rocks :

Robin....you mentioned he is 16 and saving for insurance and a car. Driving is a privilege, not a right. My 14 year old (soon to be 15 in Jan) understands that there are certain ways we expect him to act and "not to act" and he understands that falling short of those expectations will delay his getting a learner's license and/or ultimately his license.

Cars provide "freedoms" for children which are earned. Perhaps "delaying" his ability to get his license (while all of his other friends have theirs) might enlighten him a bit.

He didn't get his driving permit until this past June and he has to drive with us for at least a year before he can get his license. At the rate he is going with saving his money up, we're not going to have to worry about him with a car of his own and being able to afford the insurance for at least another year.

But yes, I agree, driving is a privilege... and if we don't think he is responsible enough to handle it on his own, we certainly won't let him get his license until he is.​

 

[Robin'sBrood]

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Thank goodness it wasn't that that was being smoked at school, it was only cigarettes (as bad as that is.) Their school has a no smoking policy for the whole campus. That includes adult visitors to the school as well. So, for them to be down at the baseball field smoking is breaking a rule.

We did find out that our son was not smoking today. I think the admin was trying to get him to tell who was smoking, which he refused to do. He was suspended for 3 days for breaking the rule of being in an unauthorized place during lunch. So, it wasn't as bad as the assistant principal made it sound on the phone (she was talking to me in front of him... I think she was trying to scare him.) but still, he did break a rule and now has to pay the price for it, both at school and at home.