Ahhh, I am steaming mad at my teenage son right now!!!!!

[Robin'sBrood]

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We have a very large hole at the end of our driveway, caused by all the rain we got this summer & fall. My neighbor has offered us dirt from a mound they have in their yard. Their house is a pretty good little walk from ours... I think a shovel and a wheelbarrow, multiple trips to the dirt mound and filling in our driveway "pond" is in good order. Thanks for the idea!

Have him carry a bucket, not use the wheel barrow. It will occupy him longer and be a LOT more effort.

Oooh, good idea!

 

[emvickrey]

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IMHO, since you have the option, home schooling would be best since this is the second time. Don't let there be a third. With my son it was drinking. When I found the empty bottles under his bed, I lined them up on the counter and never said a word to him. He grounded himself for 5 weeks before he asked if he could watch the History channel.

Also, telling him how disappointed in him I was made him feel like poop. I also didn't talk to him for quite a few days. He would come to me and I would just turn around and walk away. He never did it again. I also removed the people he was drinking with from his life. Home schooling him was the only way to do that.

That happened here also. The satalite installer and I moved her bed so he could do whay he needed to do and found a bottle and a bag of pot. I set them on the coffee table for her to see when she got home. Never said a word about it to her. She came home and saw it and we just ignored her and contnued to watch tv. She went to her room and stayed there. Didn't bother to ask why her TV didn't have satalite. She knew. I flushed it all that night. I found more at a later date but it was a while before she attempted it again. I suspected it so I searched her room and found it that time. She got mad that I went through her room but I told her she has to earn her privacy back. If I suspect it again, i'll search again.

 

[shadowpaints]

if you find smokes again on him.... i would take a needle with a horse hair threaded on it and thread every cig and put them back.. its NASTY BLECH lol that might help. other than that i have no other suggestions just a hug ((HUGS)) and i hope he gets with the program and shapes up soon!

 

[Fancie]

When I was in school they had parent shadow.... Yep my dad had to follow me all around one day from class to class because I got in trouble for something...

My dad came in in a cowboy hat and cowboy boats... the whole get-up... I was embarressed straight.... Out-of-school suspension is a joke.

 

[redhen]

Robin..with the work i do i can tell you that sometimes its VERY important for kids to get AWAY from their peers that could tempt him to keep doing this stuff.
If you homeschool.. i would keep him home. If he wants to see this girl..(after his grounding is over with) then she can come to the house for SUPERVISED visits...etc..
everything supervised for awhile (a LONG while..) and keep him away from those other kids. Or he WILL keep doing what hes doing.. good luck.

 

[CrazyFowlFreak]

I am all about manual labor, too. It benefits everyone involved. I'm thinking of having DS who is 6, start digging now and by the time he's 10 or so, we'll have a big enough hole for one of those pre-formed in-ground pools.

He is driving me crazy! He's been suspended five times this year already! We're having him evaluated, maybe that's an option?

 

[bwebb7]

Also- remove his door from his bedroom. Privacy - none.
ETA: My only child is a 10 year old and I am terrified as to where it goes from here!
I hope y'all can get him under control without allot of anger on either side of this!
Love gets us thru not anger.

 

[gritsar]

All I can offer is a

 

[Sir Birdaholic]

What happened to the good old-fashioned boot up the *#@?

 

[Fancie]

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they made punishment of children illegal.... now when the kids do something wrong you need to punish the parents... cause it is all their fault!!