Hey Sara, just found this post. I am sorry to welcome you to the club. I am a survivor, four years and counting, I had a lumpectomy.
Now my best friend is going through it too, but hers is more advanced and more aggressive, so we will see. But, what I see differently in our approaches is this: I needed help. I knew it and I asked for it. I contacted every breast cancer forum and support group I could find. There are bunches and probably one connected to your local hospital. I don't know about you other ladies, everyone handles these stressors differently, but it really helped me talk to other people who not only knew what I was facing, but weren't afraid to talk about it and even make jokes. There seemed to be an enormous amount to learn and not much time to learn in in order to make decisions. I needed help and I asked for it.
My friend refuses to reach out at all. She says she is not doing any touchy feely group thing with strangers. It isn't like that but there is no convincing her. She is fighting constantly with her BF, she is astonishingly (to me) rude and uncooperative to the people trying to treat her. I am certain it is a fear reaction but wow can you think of a less constructive way to help yourself heal?
You reached out on here, try looking for support groups, there are many in person and on-line. There are even people who will go woth you to your appointments to offer support!
Best of luck to you and keep us all posted!
Now my best friend is going through it too, but hers is more advanced and more aggressive, so we will see. But, what I see differently in our approaches is this: I needed help. I knew it and I asked for it. I contacted every breast cancer forum and support group I could find. There are bunches and probably one connected to your local hospital. I don't know about you other ladies, everyone handles these stressors differently, but it really helped me talk to other people who not only knew what I was facing, but weren't afraid to talk about it and even make jokes. There seemed to be an enormous amount to learn and not much time to learn in in order to make decisions. I needed help and I asked for it.
My friend refuses to reach out at all. She says she is not doing any touchy feely group thing with strangers. It isn't like that but there is no convincing her. She is fighting constantly with her BF, she is astonishingly (to me) rude and uncooperative to the people trying to treat her. I am certain it is a fear reaction but wow can you think of a less constructive way to help yourself heal?
You reached out on here, try looking for support groups, there are many in person and on-line. There are even people who will go woth you to your appointments to offer support!
Best of luck to you and keep us all posted!
