Okay, so I am a fool, but I actually believed he wasn't making much money. Hah! Talk about naive!! We had a bitter divorce 10 years ago this month. It was a total pain, because he did not want me to have my half of anything. FYI, I worked full time during our marriage, and made the same yearly income. When we bought a house together we both put equal amounts of money into it, as well as splitting household bills. All I wanted was my half of the equity in the house, and for him to pay the state mandated child support and split our daughters medical bills. I did not want alimony, or his pension, and I did not want him to try to claim the land my grandfather had given me for my 13th birthday. Seemed fair, but the fool contested everything and dragged it all out. In the end I gave in on medical and his lawyer set it up that he would pay all extrodianary medical and I would pay all regular medical. Since our girl was healthy he thought that would be great for him, as what could happen. That bit him in the butt because no more that two months later my DD almost dies from Lupus Nephrituis, which for a five year old is truly extrodinary. Needless to say he never paid for the medical, and as I was so distraught over my girl I did not do more than send him copies of bills requesting him to pay. When the child support was mandated it was supposed to be 17% of his yearly gross. In 1998, the year of our divorce, he made 40K, and made monthly payments $500. At the end of each year he was supposed to send me whatever difference it was as his salary increased. However, he alwasy claimed he was broke, that he did not get more than 1% raise, etc, etc. So I never saw more than the $500 a month. Meanwhile he went 4 years not seeing our daughter, his choice, he only calls her about two times a year. This summer he finally agreed to have her visit for a week. After three days he sent her to stay with my sister, who lives in NYC also. The killer has been all the medical bills as our DD has Lupus nephrituis, and has battled it on and off for years. One time I asked him to help pay our share ($800) of DD's renal biopsy. He had the nerve to tell me he couldn't pay because he was paying for his girlfriends 14 year old DOG to have chemo. Anyway, I found out through an old friend of his that he not only received large increases in his transit union job, but that he was promoted to a supervisor in the structure dept in 2005. I am livid to find out he has been crying poverty, while neglecting his daughter, supporting his non working girlfriend, all the while making $85K a year. Meanwhile, 10 years ago I made the $42K a year, and due to the downfall of American Manufacturing here I am, 10 year later making $45K. Better than alot of people yes, but no way has it kept up with inflation, and I've got an IE degree! So my lawyer is now demanding all of my ex's income tax records since 1999, while I have been compiling lists of all of DD medical expenses of the last 10 years. Thank goodness I have them all, as I have had to claim it on my taxes and I have kept all my tax records since 1990. (Yeah I know I don't need to, but I'm picky that way.) Looks like the, you know what, owes almost $60K in back child support and that is if the judge only makes him pay half of all our DD medical costs, not all extrodinary! I am usually a very trusting person, not vindictive at all, but this time I want him to pay!!! My girl has gone without a lot of extra's just because her medical bills have been so high. Well no more! She is soon going to college and I want this money from him to help pay for her education. The kid deserves it, but it in no way makes up for all the years he has been a jerk of a father!! Sorry for the long rant. I just don't comprehend not taking care of ones own children!! And I'm really ticked!!!