Expectant parent club! Where the pregnant people hang out.

[Chick_In_The_Burbs]

Ms.FuzzyButts :

I had to go back in to the OB today to have my pap smear and to go over my bloodwork from Thursday... My doc was giving my the lowdown on having a baby after the age of 35 and how the baby has a 1 in 264 chance of having Down Syndrome or a 1 in 100 chance of having some other genetic anomoly because I am 36 and if I want anymore after this, the babys' chances would be slimmer as I got older..... But that there was still a good chance this baby would be normal..... And that I needed to go ahead and have genetic testing so I would know what the baby's odds are in case it isn't good I can abort or decide to go ahead with it... WTH??? I know it's her job to inform me of any and everything... but good grief!!

It's my first baby... Why bring up doom and gloom.. Why not just slip the test in the next time she draws blood and if something is wrong, then drop the bomb.... But did she have to rain on my parade today????

Don't worry too much. Some Dr's just need a slap and a reminder that their every day hum-drum is your little miracle. I hate the ones tht live in a world of statistics and forget the emotional side of thing.

And I don't think there's a really high chance of the genetic issues until you hit 45+. Heck, wasn't there a 60-something in Europe that had a perfectly healthy baby about a year ago? And there was that 53 year old on 'I'm pregnant and...' who's baby was just fine. AND she was thinking about having a second one.

So don't worry.​

 

[Ms.FuzzyButts]

Thanks everyone!!! That's what I was thinking.. A lot of people were quite a bit older than me when they had kids and everything was fine.. It just tends to shock you when a doctor throws something like that out there, then leaves you to stew over it.. And I will stew...........

Let us know about your appointment RareFeathers!!!

 

[ebwy2]

I was nearly 36 when I had Arwyn, and I just refused to have the tests done for down's syndrome etc. And every time I saw a different medic I had to defend that decision. Simply put, there's nothing they can do if the tests show that there is a chance of something wrong anyway, I had to have him in hospital where there was a paediatrician standing by to check him the moment they cut him out anyway, and there is a fairly high number of people who are fine who's parents were told the tests showed they had downs (including my cousin)
besides, I would not abort no matter what as long as the baby was still alive. So all the tests could have done would have been to make me worry for the rest of the pregnancy.

Arwyn is fine, btw.

and 1 in 100 just means there's a 99% chance that the baby will be fine... it sounds less scary that way around, doesn't it?

the smelling thing - before I even knew I was pregnant with Arwyn I noticed I had a REALLY heightened sense of smell, to the point where I couldn't let my partner anywhere near me for at least half an hour after he smoked (he goes outside to do that) because the smell of it made me start to throw up.

 

[babyrnlc]

I am not pg, but I am almost a midwife (take boards next year after 10 more deliveries). I am also a IBCLC. Can I join you? If anyone has any questions, feel free!

 

[suzettex5]

Whats an IBCLC?


Very cool you are working to be a midwife- I think they are undervalued and underappreciated sometimes.

 

[suzettex5]

Anyone tried that At home gender test- Intelligender? I've read so many conflicting opinions, I'm on the fence myself about it. I guess you can pick one up at a Walgreens or CVS for around $30, but that seems pretty spendy to me for something that very easily could be just a guess.

Anyone?

 

[babyrnlc]

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Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultant

 

[KellyHM]

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It worked for me and my friend on our boys. The same friend tried it for her current pregnancy and it said boy again, but she is having a girl this time.

 

[SpringChickens]

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I've heard that they're accurate. Accurate 50% of the time anyway. Seriously, anything like this would be a waste of your money - just wait for your ultrasound, or take an online quiz for results which are just as good. Here's a quote from the company "IntelliGender does not recommend test users to make any financial, emotional or family planning decisions based on the test results."

 

[SpringChickens]

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Welcome! This country needs more midwives!