its so sad to be afraid. I lived like that for a long time . here its not unusual to have boys walk up and help you with the grocerys. they dont want anything. men still open the door and hold it for you. you pump your gas before you pay. the station i go to pumps it for you. It seems to be a dying way of life but i get to enjoy it for a little while longer. I am teaching my son and gs to do the same.