My foster son (whom has been with me for about 1 1/2 years..) had his Bio-parents visit him today at my house...he hasnt seen them since he was about 7 years old..he's 17 now....they had their parental rights taken away for neglect....this child has been in several,several foster homes in his life and even a residental faculity(for his behaviors) at one point...the part that is SO heartbreaking..ALL these years this boy has pined for his "real" parents..and his real brother(who has been adopted)...he remembers everything about them SO clearly...well..he will be 18 in May..so..we all( me,case workers and therapist) decided that they would check in to his parents wearabouts...see how they were living..etc...BECAUSE our fear is..when he turns 18..he can walk out the door and go to them...and his I.Q being only 71..well.....you understand our concern...so, the case worker went a few home visits to the bio-parents home...and they(state) decided that they seem to have "somewhat" gotten their act together..and decided to give this child what he has always wanted..contact with his parents again(of course they can never have their parental rights back...but..)...for a month now..he has been having speaker phone only calls (with his therapist there)..and they all went very well...so, the case worker called a few days ago..and asked my opinion on him bringing the parents to my house for an hour visit...i said its okay with me...i really think this child needs "some" contact with his parents...and if they have changed and are getting better...i saw no problem with it. So, they came over today..and it was so heartbreaking for me!...the mother (who is about 500lbs..and could barely walk up my front ramp..) was crying..the father was also..and i saw real love there(i also found out today that the parents have been bringing david birthday/christmas gifts to the state workers EVERY year..but, david never recieved them..because their rights were termanated....they had ALL those gifts saved for him!!..
..)...and i took to them right away...i mean i can see they DO have some problems....its evident right away...but..their heart is ther for their son(you can honestly just tell...i have dealt with so many parents...these ones DO love their son)...the father seems a bit slow also...so..i'm thinking that may be a BIG reason the state took him away..the parents just didnt know how to parent...the fathers words were barely understandable...etc....so, i brought them in..tried to make them comfortable...i took the dad out back to see the animals....he loved them...i offered him some fresh chicken/duck eggs..you should have seen his face light up..he said he hasnt had them since he was a kid..and was so thankful.....i also made mom some soap for david to give her(for a x-mas gift)...and told her how david picked out the colors/scents just for her..etc..and i also sent them home with a french meat pie(their french canadian also..like my mother)...i dont know...this just touched me so much today...it broke my heart to see them all weeping when they had to leave....and yet..i was SO happy for David..(what a great christmas gift for him!)...and yet..confused..because...this child has had so much pain in his life...
