So my Mother in law has treated my husband like crap his whole life so we don't see her often maybe once every 2 months. She is so screwed up it's beyond me. So she lives with this woman and her three kids (the kids should get taken away it's so bad) the middle one scraps metal and my husband takes his truck over there to go to the metal yard so he doesn't have to walk the 5 miles. While there his mom asked if my DH could shave down her dog (he's little). DH said yes picked her up and brought her and the dog to our house. She gave our 2 year old these old dolls, we don't mind her playing with old toys but these were gross. They were filthy and tattered. Of course our daughter loved them. I smiled and thanked her. She went about her business with the dog. Last time we saw her she talked about how she has to pay the governemtn back because she defrauded them out of $600 last christmas time. She talked about all the nice things she bought the boys (they are all in their teens) and their mom. She didn't buy one thing for her own children or her only grandchild. I know she doesn't have alot of money, she only makes $600 a month. However if you're going to lie to your own government to get extra money wouldn't you buy at least a little gift for your grandchild at christmas. Or when we were going to the zoo with my SIL and my MIL says "watch out for that cop" so my SIL says "why" and she goes "well I have a little something in my pocket". I mean what what passes through your mind when you're invited to a family friendly day at the zoo. Then she wanted to talk about selling while in the parking lot and my DH shot her a look and she shut up. People bring their kids here to have a good time not to learn how to sell pot. I really don't care whether or not people smoke pot. I don't and I don't want my kid around it but if you do fine just don't bring it around my family. Our daughter's birthday was a whole other thing. She actually bought her a gift but she treated it like it was such a big burden. She only bought her a coloring book, a few hot wheels cars, a stuffed doll and a pair of pajamas. All under $30. My husband and I who were in the red on all most all of our bills still managed to treat the other family members to pizza, buy her at least $20 in disney cars die cast cars, a cars rug, wall-e outfit, cars shirts, etc. We spent easily $100+. I know it isn't about the money it's about the thought but when she says things like I would have never let my kids play with that but hands it to my daughter I have a problem. Or when she blows off my child her only grandchild for a holiday to do things for these other boys (who buy the way got everything they wanted on their xmas list from their mom). It makes me mad. She acts like she doesn't want a relationship with our daughter. If that were the case I'd wish she would tell us so that way DH can do what he really wants and cut her out of his life. Sorry for the long rant it's just been bothering me.