Lost and Sad and need any type of answers to what we did wrong

[Cberry169]

Im at a loss right now . We came home on June the 7th to the tiniest baby wood duckling in our yard and we fell in love took care of her as much as we could . We noticed earlier on that she wasn’t walking right after she gotten a little bit bigger took her to the vet to find out that she had to abnormal hips and that’s why she did t walk or stand up right.. But we loved her and decided to try to give her a good life . We all thought she was doing good other then not walking normal.. And here I am crying like a child because all off the sudden this morning she was acting weird.. Picked her up and she was just kinda lethargic and tried to stimulate her some with water but that did very little she kinda leaned and just floated a little and dabbled her beautiful beak in the water so I got her out and dried her off and she started to flail her wings a lil and started to twist her neck and then she just passed away in my arms! I’m s lost on how this happened or what went wrong I’m so lost I really am .. I know most say she was just a duck BUT this baby was my baby since she was a day old … I’m trying my best to figure out what went so wrong would love ideas insight anything at this point she literally was playing and all yesterday talking to us when we came in to the room where she was very active.. eating drinking and I’m just LOST I miss her so she made me so happy when I needed it the most…

 

[casportpony]

Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Cberry169]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Maybe you should get some ducks?
It's hard to know exactly what happened without doing a necropsy and I know you may not want to do that.

No definitely am not going to get more ducks .. She was a one of a kind.. She didn’t know she was a duck.. She loved to sleep on her back with us rubbing her belly and loved to give nibbles and loved to be held and loved on.. She was very much loved in our home and that’s what’s so heart breaking… I just wish I could understand what had happened I mean she seemed healthy as much as she could but this just out the blue happened.. lethargic spasm of the neck and then pass away unexpectedly?? It’s no rhyme or rhythm and the hats what makes it gut wrenching!

 

[Tookie]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Maybe you should get some ducks?
It's hard to know exactly what happened without doing a necropsy and I know you may not want to do that.

 

[Cberry169]

Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss.

Thank you it definitely is a hard loss ! We have taken care of her since she was a day old and to lose her suddenly without any inclination that she was sick is driving me crazy!

 

[Geena]

I just wish I could understand what had happened I mean she seemed healthy as much as she could but this just out the blue happened..

Sorry for your loss.
I don't know anything about ducks, but with chickens, when they are born with visible disabilities, they most often have other deformities going on inside as well. They seldom have a very long time to live. Don't beat yourself up, it's not anything that you did wrong.

 

[Cberry169]

I'm so sorry!

Thank you I was just hoping by some chance someone would have some insight on what could have happened. I mean she was literally wings flapping and happy the following day happy as can be . She had the most beautiful colors coming in

 

[Cberry169]

Sorry for your loss.
I don't know anything about ducks, but with chickens, when they are born with visible disabilities, they most often have other deformities going on inside as well. They seldom have a very long time to live. Don't beat yourself up, it's not anything that you did wrong.

I’m just lost on what happened… She seems fine yesterday we had her in our bathroom and she had her wings outstretched flapping them where her feathers were all coming in and seems so happy other then when we would show her reflection in the mirror.. she didn’t like that at all never had she didn’t know she was a duck and she was a baby to me and I’m heart broken there has to be something we done wrong and missed.. I just wish we could get a do over so I could see her beautiful lil self again she was really the sweetest thing you ever could see!

 

[Cberry169]

I am sorry for your loss. As a duck mama and one who lost a beloved duck on July 21, I know how sad and hurt you are feeling. It's particularly difficult to lose a duck with whom you've had a special relationship. You have to grieve, you may go through denial and certainly anger and frustration about it.

Your little one had abnormal hips and that is probably why s/he was abandoned by its mother. Any animal that has a congenital abnormality has an increased risk of having a second abnormality. Be thankful your little one had a happy wellloved life and didn't suffer for long. Its definitely better to go quickly

We just miss her it’s not the same not hearing her call for us when we left the room.. She was really family to me and my son.. She would always make us both happy with her little side head looks at us like she was trying to figure out a puzzle or where was our feathers… It’s silly I know being sad and heartbroken over a duck but she was just like a baby to me ..

 

[Cberry169]

I'm sooo sorry, she was meant for you to take care of her. She picked you. What a special gift.

She was the special gift.. She would definitely make your bad day better just by cuddling with you and giving you pecks of affection… She showed love and it’s heart breaking for her to pass away like she did I just can’t wrap my mind around it. I mean she seemed fine my 15 year old is a night owl so needless to say they stay up together and he was even holding her and she slept In his lap and he said their didn’t seem like nothing was wrong either before he went to bed so that means from the time he went to sleep to when she got sick and passed it was less then 8 hours , I can’t understand it