Official Pagan Thread!

[Kanchii]

When/If I get married (I find I'm actually happier single

) I would love to have a both a pagan hand fasting, and then a normal wedding in a church to appease my family full of missionaries and pastors

But hey... Double the cake!

 

[sune42]

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My pastor was a Baptist Minister who's wife I went to cosmetology school with. They knew we were "nontraditional" but I am very respectful to other people and I liked Charleen and her husband bunches. I did tell him that obey was not to be in there, we used respect instead and at the beginning it wasn't "who gives this woman to be married" cause I am not something to be given away. We used "Who blesses this union". Mike didn't charge us for his services, but he did want us to attend his church at least once. *darn* they moved away before we could get around to it.

I let all the other stuff go because I didn't want to get into family crap about it. We didn't do it in a church though, it was all done at the reception hall. I used the excuse it was easier on out of town guests, who most of our guests were.

 

[Organics North]

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Yup, I actually got married in my wifes families Catholic church! (The Father was a good man. We talked at length, and explained what my Spirituality was about. Most likely he broke the "rules" preforming the service, as I would not submit to the defined structure of the church.

Well, he left and went to another church and the church did fall down...

(They build one of those new fancy kinds..)


Oh ya, we changed the words of the service, and we released a pair of white doves at the end. The doves have some nice symbolism, and make for good pictures..

ON

 

[ebwy]

I was married to the ex in the chapel I'd attended as a child, by the minister who's family and mine had been friends for about 3 generations... and I told him I was NOT going to swear to obey, and that half the congregation were other religions so to keep the peace could he please keep the major christianity stuff turned down... it worked out well.
but the marriage didn't! ( he seemed to think I would obey anyway... grrr!)

If you live somewhere with good weather, why not have an outdoors ceremony? everywhere in nature is a temple...

 

[Tam'ra of Rainbow Vortex]

Two of my best friends are getting married in August and they have similar issues. His family is Agnostic, Hers is Catholic. Both of them are...very eclectic, I guess you'd say. She is trying to push out of the traditional bubble as much as she can- her dress will have red accents since it is both of their favorite color and they are having the wedding outside. they are already getting raised eyebrows for that... They have yet to find someone to perform the ceremony (though they have discussed asking one of our favorite college proffessors who is Jewish and has all the neccessary legal stuff to marry folks) but it won't be someone overly religious. I am trying to help as I can... mostly with the design aspects. I am making the dress and altering the bride's maids' dresses.
So much fun to try to please everyone!
Glad that if I ever get married (unlikely) my family with only one exception is fairly agnostic and will go along with whatever.

 

[saddina]

My dress was cream with a wine colored underskirt.

 

[sune42]

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Love it!

 

[Chickie'sMoma]

we went pretty much non-traditional. we had ours 2 days before his birthday. we were originally thinking to get married on 6/6/06 but thought better of it since it fell on a tuesday. i still think we should have done it even if we did the formal stuff for the families on the day we did choose!

i wanted to keep things as relaxed as possible and pretty inexpensive too. we decided to do it with a Hawaiian theme & colors, had it in the back yard of our friends' house. we got to place a tye-dyed sheet under the gazebo so my dress wouldn't get dirty. i made my dress from a pattern and modified it to have a slight train. i cared less that my dh and i were living together at the time i was making and and got to see my progress while working on it!

 

[deb1]

What a beautiful dress! You have some mad sewing skills there, girl. I have tried and tried to teach myself to sew without any success. So, I am very jealous of anyone that can sew.

 

[Chickie'sMoma]

i don't do it often. used to do it for barbie dresses when i was a kid, but i would hand stitched that stuff. i tend to stick to other crafts mostly. my sister is the quilter.

i took my mom and grandmother to look at dresses and every one that i liked my mom hated! when i found one i liked online i showed it to my matron of honor and she loved it! i found the fabrics and the pattern just worked to get the exact look of the online dress!

we switched around the words in our ceremony and my dh picked out a couple of Celtic poems to have our friend (JP whose a lawyer) say during it. I entered to the Collective Soul song 'Pretty Donna' since i didn't care for the usual stuff that sounds like a funeral march.

and i know when we ended the ceremony our friend (owner of the property and our DJ too!) played Queen's 'It's a kind of Magic', but it wasn't expected and made my dh grin since he loves Queen.