I do believe that I am in the very tiny minority here, but I disagree with most of these posts.
I understand that most people on here believe in the importance of marriage as an institution over all else. But for pete's sake, consider the repercussions of staying in such a marriage. Even though the children are just babies, they HEAR your fighting and they get a baby's impression that mom and dad are saying things like, "these kids are too hard to take care of!" and "I don't want to take the baby now, you do it!" and that in general your fighting is caused by them. Trust me when I say that that leaves a permanent impression in their little minds. It does a lot of damage. Trying to work it out because of the kids just so rarely works and the poor children suffer because of it. Also, in my opinion, a man who acts like that basically EVER is not worth your time and sounds like an all in all terrible husband with no respect for you whatsoever. Your original post broke my heart and enraged me at the same time. I think that sort of behavior is far too common in today's world, and I for one could never stand for it. I would most seriously consider what sort of positives he brings to your life and your marriage. What does he do for you, besides bring home a paycheck during the time that you are recovering from having and taking care of HIS CHILD? That fact that he had the gall to even ONCE say that you do nothing makes me see red. In my mind, a man who thinks like that could never possibly change enough to be OK. That comes from his raising and must be very deeply ingrained in his being. You simply deserve more. You deserve a man who will care for and respect you and treat you as an equal an be your partner in life and in child-rearing. That doesn't sound like this guy to me.
And, for the record, yes, there are plenty of men out there like that. My mom and dad have been married over 35 years and have even been through losing a child to cancer (my little brother when he was nine), which often tears marriages to shreds. My dad has never been anything but 1000% wonderful to my mom (and that doesn't mean they don't argue. of course they do). They both run a very large company together and they manage to work way more than an average person, and still they both help cook, clean, manage the household and their daily lives, and to raise their kids. I am 27 and long out of the house but my other brother is now 10 and will still be at home for years. They have a loving and supportive relationship that is a true partnership and is based on respect. This is real and can happen... it makes me so sad that there are so many comments on here that say things like "I think all men are like that" and "that sounds just like my life," etc.
Ladies - you deserve more. And you can have it. Be strong and look for it and don't give in and settle for something so horrible.