WHAT THE HECK IS WOMAN'S INTUITION?????????????????????

[yomama]

Uh, because we are super heroes, that's why!

JK. Not sure why, but I think it is along the same lines of "mother's intuition". You just know when something if "off". Something inside. Not always there for me, but anytime I've gone against it, it hasn't turned out good. Guess the best way to describe it for me is a "gut feeling" with a little touch of something extra. Trust me, sometimes I would love to live in ignorant bliss about somethings.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

Women's intuition, to me, is just an overused gender stereotype. That or my husband needs a sex change pronto. He is very good at reading people and situations, and at accurately reading them. As far as what intuition is, there are different definitions used, ranging from mystical psychic powers to having a sound grasp on reality. X)

In this case, the "intuition" may be accurate, or, say, it may be a way to try to make jealousy look instead like a deeply rooted 'knowing'. I'd say solve the problem by simply taking wife along to where ever you end up going with said ex-girlfriend. I'd also take a look at this:

Quote: She's not a girlfriend, or even anyone you've seen recently. Unless we can tell her motives with crystal clarity, we can't say she has given your wife the road with nothing for herself. It shouldn't be about ex-girlfriend versus wife, and I would carefully evaluate that thinking before proceeding.

 

[ChicknThief]

Never in a million years would I be ok with that. Your ex has no business snooping around after 23 years.

I just recently dealt with a very similar situation. My husband's ex girlfriend just cant seem to take a hint. Ever since we first got together, she has continued to call and text him, telling him how much she misses him and how sorry she is. I put up with it for a looong time. We even would occasionally joke about it. But last week, I had finally had enough of her BS. I demanded that she cease and desist. She fought it for a while, claiming that he still cared about her (we are MARRIED for God's sake!) and she didn't believe him when he told her that wasn't the case. "That witch is in the room making you say this isn't she?"

Hubby finally had to get a little mean, but he got the point across and we haven't heard from her since.

My point. Your wife is well within her rights to request that your past REMAIN in your past. No good can come of your ex sniffing around. It will only cause tension between you and your wife. Now go do as we say and wine/dine your wife. Regardless of whether or not she admits it, I am sure that you even asking permission for this has stirred up some insecurity.

 

[Carols Clucks]

Your wife has a good women's intuition tuner, you should trust it.

If you would like to meet up with this old flame my suggestion is:

Tell her that you would love to go to dinner with her husband/partner and that your wife is making reservations for FOUR. If she comes back with, well there is no husband/partner and she was thinking about how much easier just meeting you alone for coffee would be, she is looking for a MAN.

If she really wanted to catch up with you, she would have invited you AND your WIFE to dinner or to some other similar thing, Because catching up with you, means including your wife who is part of who you are.


A little story, my friends husband had a HS reunion coming up, an old flame got his email from the reunion planning committee. Pretty soon she was emailing and calling etc. He was kind of flattered, but thought she just wanted to remember HS days and no big deal. At the reunion, this "lady" would come and stand in between him and his wife and keep her back to the wife while telling him how good he looked, laughed at his stories etc. After the reunion, and my friend was steaming, he figured he would never hear from her again. Oh no, now she was going to travel to his state and wanted to meet for dinner, just him. My friend had had enough at this point, said no more phone calls, she can email BOTH of us instead. Next the old flame starts calling him at work...He finally had to put a stop to it telling her, that his wife of ALMOST 50 Years was the woman in his life and he was not looking for her to replace his wife.


Trust you wife's intuition!

 

[gmendoza]

Update! My wife has talked to my old girlfriend and has become friends with her.
And she is comming over to meet all of us.
And my wife said its ok for me to spend a day or two to get back to knowing her.
and she will come over our house and see me,wife,and kids.

Now for all the naysayers, what was so wrong with this??

I havent even seen,much less live on the same side of the country, let alone breathed in her direction in 23 years.I have been married to my wife for 19 years and a great strong,and not jealous marrage.Isnt that what trust is? or love? or communication?

Maybe like my wife said " we are beyond childish things like jealousy in our 19 years of marrage".

I seriously love my wife for being open, caring,considerate, and very loving.

Now she has a friend and I have an old friend back.

 

[redhen]

If your wife has no.problem with it then its all good.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

Most excellent! That is an excellent way to do things, and sounds like a strong and secure relationship. Exactly what I love to see.

 

[Nitrous]

Women's intuition is to jump to the wrong conclusion and then end up having the guy apologize for it.

 

[Nitrous]

I had a woman I had not seen in 25 years send me a message on Facebook saying "You are going to KILL YOURSELF! We need to talk!"

Well fortunately my "man's intuition" went off.... in the wrong direction. She just wanted to talk about my exercise/diet routine. Believe me, I was counting her kids' ages and deciding there was no way they were mine.

 

[bakerjw]

I had to chuckle at the thought of an ex from 23 years ago stopping by with a 22 year old kid in tow.