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[suzettex5]

I'm thinking I can try to hide it till his B-Day in April. I never even show till I'm 20 weeks anyways, so I'll be about 15 or 16 weeks by then.

Not sure I can do it though..... While he isnt the most observant guy in the world, he has had 6 kids, so he just might put things together before then (depending on how good I am at making up reasons for any symptoms) but I wouldnt count on it. He hasnt noticed my period never came last month, nor my wristbands the few times I forgot to take them off before he got home. Plus he works everyday and half the night, so its not like he's around that much to notice much.


But I really would like to tell him, just so I can quit carrying the burden myself. Its really hard- I'm crazy tired and so stinkin hormonal, I even bug myself! I just dont want him to be stressed out anymore than he already is, I feel selfish for thinking of adding to his load by telling him this soon.

 

[ebwy2]

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it's a bowl with a divide down the middle, for washing baby. one bit holds water to be used for face, hands etc - top. the other bit you use the water for washing baby's bottom!
you probably have a different name for them if you have them over there.

 

[krcote]

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Soooooooooooo tired and soooooooooo stubborn make for a very bad combo. I have a hard time giving in to my body and getting to bed early and/or sleeping in. My husband is always trying to get me to sleep more but I always feel like he is hiding resentment. I certainly have the "queasies" and various other lovely symptoms. I know you can't complain to your husband right now, but last night after my 100th complaint, I realized it must be so annoying to have to listen to me! I mean, no body likes to hear constaint updates on how terrible you feel all the time. I've decided to make a real effort at being more positive by elimitating my griping. We'll see how long that lasts

 

[Robin'sBrood]

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I would think that alone ^ would make you afraid of ever having another home birth. My one and only home birth went fine, thank God, but with my last baby I knew from the get go that I was going to have him in the hospital (with an epidural

) because of my age (almost 43) and I am so glad I did. He wound up being hypoglycemic and had to spend 6 days in the NICU. I shudder just thinking about what could have happened to him if I had had him at home... he would not have been diagnosed and it could have cost him his life.

Best wishes to you! (BTW, my middle name is Suzette.

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[Robin'sBrood]

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I'm not going to have an actual waterbirth, just plan to labor in the water. My Hospital used to do waterbirths, but had problems with infection, because their tubs don't have filters, they were only meant for laboring. So I asked if I could bring a water birth rental tub with filter, she said she would prefer if I just labored in the Big tubs they have, but then gave birth in the Bed, which is fine with me.

Oh, laboring in water is wonderful! That is how I did it with both of my med-free births, labored in the water until it was time to push. GREAT choice, Kelsey!

 

[SpringChickens]

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I'm not going to have an actual waterbirth, just plan to labor in the water. My Hospital used to do waterbirths, but had problems with infection, because their tubs don't have filters, they were only meant for laboring. So I asked if I could bring a water birth rental tub with filter, she said she would prefer if I just labored in the Big tubs they have, but then gave birth in the Bed, which is fine with me.

I would LOVE to labor in the water, but none of the hospitals around here offer laboring tubs, and my dh won't let me even consider a home birth (as much as I would love to). I think we're going to compromise and I'll stay at home until the last possible minute, then we'll head in. I fully intend to run the hot water out of our shower at home lol.

 

[SpringChickens]

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I'll be very impressed if you can hide it for that long! I don't think there would be any way I could hide mine from my husband. Then again, I've had quite a bit of morning sickness with both my pregnancies, and that is not easy to hide. Would he notice your wrist bands and not say anything about them? I know that I thought I was hiding my pregnancy well in my first trimester, until I told one of my friends and she told me she had known for a few months because of the sea bands.

Oh well!

I hope your husband is very excited about this baby and not too stressed. I bet he'll be be thrilled once he gets used to the idea, and you'll feel sooo much better after you tell him. Good luck

 

[kelseygirl707]

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I'm not going to have an actual waterbirth, just plan to labor in the water. My Hospital used to do waterbirths, but had problems with infection, because their tubs don't have filters, they were only meant for laboring. So I asked if I could bring a water birth rental tub with filter, she said she would prefer if I just labored in the Big tubs they have, but then gave birth in the Bed, which is fine with me.

I would LOVE to labor in the water, but none of the hospitals around here offer laboring tubs around here, and my dh won't let me even consider a home birth (as much as I would love to). I think we're going to compromise and I'll stay at home until the last possible minute, then we'll head in. I fully intend to run the hot water out of our shower at home lol.

My DH Wouldn't let me have a home birth either, He's a LVN studying to become an RN, so Hospitals are the best place EVER to him. Plus His Nursing teacher will be one of my OB nurses, and one of his friends in his class will be doing OB rounds the week I'm due, so he will have people he trusts helping me. Also I don't know what to expect, so I will go as long as possible without an Epidural, but have nothing against getting one when I need it, I would just like to be able to walk as long as possible, I get antsy just laying in bed.

 

[SpringChickens]

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I would LOVE to labor in the water, but none of the hospitals around here offer laboring tubs around here, and my dh won't let me even consider a home birth (as much as I would love to). I think we're going to compromise and I'll stay at home until the last possible minute, then we'll head in. I fully intend to run the hot water out of our shower at home lol.

My DH Wouldn't let me have a home birth either, He's a LVN studying to become an RN, so Hospitals are the best place EVER to him. Plus His Nursing teacher will be one of my OB nurses, and one of his friends in his class will be doing OB rounds the week I'm due, so he will have people he trusts helping me. Also I don't know what to expect, so I will go as long as possible without an Epidural, but have nothing against getting one when I need it, I would just like to be able to walk as long as possible, I get antsy just laying in bed.

That sounds like a great situation for you! It must be wonderful to know that you'll be surrounded by people you know and trust during labor.

Good for you for planning to walk and move during labor. That helps so much to reduce the pain and discomfort. I ended up staying in bed for a lot of my labor with my DD because of all the wires/contraptions that I was hooked up to. The worst was an internal contraction monitor, but the main reason that was bad was because of the horrible, horrible tape that they used to tape it to my leg. That stuff was sooo strong that it burned and pinched every time I moved!

I asked for an epidural around 6cm, but they didn't get to me until a few hours later when I was already in transition. Those few hours were actually really surprisingly easy to deal with because I had the mental mindset that the epidural would be here as soon as it would be here and I just had to deal with it until then. I do have to say though, having to be in the fetal position for the epidural during transition is MISERABLE - it made the contractions so much worse. I really wish they had checked me before doing the epidural because I would have refused it if I had known how far along I was. As it was, they checked me right afterward and said I was complete and could start pushing (yeah, thanks... we all know how much epidurals help with pushing!).

This time I am planning on going into labor naturally and not letting the doctor talk me into being induced. (I was induced last time for a "big" baby, which I have since learned is not a medically sound reason for induction). Hopefully I can avoid the tape (!!), IVs and all the medical BS which goes along with it.

The best thing about not having my epidural until the very end last time is that I KNOW I can do it. If I can do it with pitocin induced, stuck in bed contractions, I know I can do it with normal, natural contractions where I can switch positions and move around.

 

[suzettex5]

I WISH I could try a water birth,or at the very least, a water labor. I know when I've been big and preggers before, my absolute favorite thing was that amazing feeling of weightlessness of being submereged in the pool. It was just BLISS. I really believe it must be helpful during labor, if nothing more than to take some of the pressure off your laboring body.

I do remember the shower being my friend in many labors- just the water on my back was helpful- but like many of you guys, it was impossible for me to find a hospital that would let me bring a tub or offer me one for a water birth/labor, so I didnt have the option.


Oh, and I have to ask (because of my own guilty conscience) - Has anyone had, or givin in to any cravings yet? I was hit by a tidalwave craving for fried fish and chips today, and I was 100% positive I was going to die if I didnt get any, so, I hit our local Fish n Chips joint and bought enough for the whole family under the guise of it being todays lunch for everyone!