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[Ms.FuzzyButts]

Hate to break up the singing to baby chatter... ( I sing to the baby too..by the way

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But get this.. Maybe I overreacted, but, get this anyway... LOL My MIL comes to visit today and as they were leaving and giving hugs, she ever so casually asked me if I was going to let her be in the delivery room!!!!!!! Without the blink of an eye, I said NO!! To which she responded, but I was in the delivery room with Mona (my SIL)... I said I guess so, she is your daughter. Now mind you, my mother passed away in July. So I guess she figured that would make room for her to take mom's place by my side. I love my MIL with all of my heart, she is a wonderful lady. But, since my mom is gone, no way this side of haydees is anyone other than my DH going to be by my side... I mean, we were the only ones present during conception, so maybe we should be the only ones present for delivery.. Oh man, I REALLY hope this doesn't hurt her feelings..

 

[kelseygirl707]

Ms.FuzzyButts :

Hate to break up the singing to baby chatter... ( I sing to the baby too..by the way

)
But get this.. Maybe I overreacted, but, get this anyway... LOL My MIL comes to visit today and as they were leaving and giving hugs, she ever so casually asked me if I was going to let her be in the delivery room!!!!!!! Without the blink of an eye, I said NO!! To which she responded, but I was in the delivery room with Mona (my SIL)... I said I guess so, she is your daughter. Now mind you, my mother passed away in July. So I guess she figured that would make room for her to take mom's place by my side. I love my MIL with all of my heart, she is a wonderful lady. But, since my mom is gone, no way this side of haydees is anyone other than my DH going to be by my side... I mean, we were the only ones present during conception, so maybe we should be the only ones present for delivery.. Oh man, I REALLY hope this doesn't hurt her feelings..

It's a matter of personal choice, you have no reason to explain yourself. I plan to have both my mom and my MIL in the room, but my mom is my best friend and if god forbid I lost her, I don't think I would want my MIL in the room. It would just feel wrong without my own mother there. You can alway go with the excuse, my Doc only allows the Father in the room, and if you tell the nurses this is the excuse you are going with, they will back you up.​

 

[Ms.FuzzyButts]

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It's a matter of personal choice, you have no reason to explain yourself. I plan to have both my mom and my MIL in the room, but my mom is my best friend and if god forbid I lost her, I don't think I would want my MIL in the room. It would just feel wrong without my own mother there. You can alway go with the excuse, my Doc only allows the Father in the room, and if you tell the nurses this is the excuse you are going with, they will back you up.

You pretty much hit the nail on the head. I don't think I would have to have an excuse though.. I don't think she would try to weasel her way in..LOL

 

[KellyHM]

When I was 17 my MIL mentioned something about being in the delivery room when DH and I had a baby (no, we weren't married OR engaged then OR pregnant) and I was like "Umm, I don't think so!" She got really PO'ed and complaind about it FOREVER. I guess she had finally gotten the hint by the time we had our first...NINE years later...b/c she didn't even ask. Of course, she lives in another state now and we don't talk often. There's a reason for that...

 

[SpringChickens]

Ms.FuzzyButts :

Hate to break up the singing to baby chatter... ( I sing to the baby too..by the way

)
But get this.. Maybe I overreacted, but, get this anyway... LOL My MIL comes to visit today and as they were leaving and giving hugs, she ever so casually asked me if I was going to let her be in the delivery room!!!!!!! Without the blink of an eye, I said NO!! To which she responded, but I was in the delivery room with Mona (my SIL)... I said I guess so, she is your daughter. Now mind you, my mother passed away in July. So I guess she figured that would make room for her to take mom's place by my side. I love my MIL with all of my heart, she is a wonderful lady. But, since my mom is gone, no way this side of haydees is anyone other than my DH going to be by my side... I mean, we were the only ones present during conception, so maybe we should be the only ones present for delivery.. Oh man, I REALLY hope this doesn't hurt her feelings..

I wouldn't feel bad. I didn't let either my mom or my MIL in the delivery room. Both were at the hospital from the time I got there and in the room before my contractions got too bad. Around 1pm they all went out to get lunch, and were just never invited back in.

I didn't want anyone in there but DH at that time. Now mind you, I didn't want him to touch me or to talk to me, but he sure wasn't allowed to go anywhere!!

I feel a little sorry for the poor guy now! That must have been a miserable day for him.​

 

[Robin'sBrood]

Ms.FuzzyButts :

Hate to break up the singing to baby chatter... ( I sing to the baby too..by the way

)
But get this.. Maybe I overreacted, but, get this anyway... LOL My MIL comes to visit today and as they were leaving and giving hugs, she ever so casually asked me if I was going to let her be in the delivery room!!!!!!! Without the blink of an eye, I said NO!! To which she responded, but I was in the delivery room with Mona (my SIL)... I said I guess so, she is your daughter. Now mind you, my mother passed away in July. So I guess she figured that would make room for her to take mom's place by my side. I love my MIL with all of my heart, she is a wonderful lady. But, since my mom is gone, no way this side of haydees is anyone other than my DH going to be by my side... I mean, we were the only ones present during conception, so maybe we should be the only ones present for delivery.. Oh man, I REALLY hope this doesn't hurt her feelings..

I had my mother, MIL, FIL, cousin, and what seemed like half of the world around me when I was in labor with my 1st baby. It was awful. For the next 4 births it was just my DH and the nurses/midwife/doctors. I had much better experiences with those labor and deliveries because I didn't feel pressured to hurry up and have a baby. You need to stick to your guns about this, it's your baby and your labor/delivery! Since when did childbirth become a spectator sport, anyway?

 

[debilorrah]

Fuzzy, when I had my son, my own mother was outside trying to get in and I hollered NO!!!!! It is what it is. It is your baby, your delivery, your choice who is in there with you.

 

[rcentner]

I hope my MIL doesn't think she will be in delivery, especially since she is so passive aggressive.I do want my mom and my DH only. I think my sister is a little upset not to be there, but I dont need a crowd. The only reason I want my mom in there is cause she knows how to calm me, when I fall off a horse and knock the wind out, my mom will take my hand and suddenly I can breathe again. No one else has that effect on me and I think this may be more scary than knocking the wind out of myself. (or falling from horseback) maybe more like the time I sprained my back and got a concussion (thought I was paralyzed for a minute that day)..

I digress, In any event I figure most people expect you to be a total B**$& when in labor so I will use that to my advantage to keep unwanted relatives out of delivery.

Had my shower yesterday! Holy cow, did we get a lot of stuff. I have to post a photo cause a friend of mine got me the coolest purse ever....a chicken purse! Got a boatload of diapers and clothes, but need more newborn clothes and now I am on the search for the perfect bring home outfit...thinking chicken or tractor related

Still need some major items and will pick those up in the next few weeks. What a fun party and somehow I managed to put out just enough food that it was all gone at the end of the night.
Played price is right with baby items...that was cool. After all that is my fav game show of all time and have watched it since I was little (someday I hope to be on the show)

gotta go let the chickens out...have a good day everyone!

 

[krcote]

I made the decision a long time ago that I would like my DH and sister only in the delivery room. That means Mom is kicked to the curb along with MIL. I have not told them this yet. They also still don't know that I am even pregnant. I'm sure there will be hard feelings...

 

[algopurple]

With a c-section, they only allow one person to be in the room with you so last time it was DH. Total mistake. This time he is being kicked to the curb with the excuse that someone has to stay with our first son lol. My mother is going to be there with me and possibly my sister who just finished training with the same Dr that is going to deliver my baby. Going to leave that up to her to ask but she has known him long enough that she thinks he will say yes. I was in the room when she had all 4 of her babies and no c-sections with the same DR. He is a really layed back guy who with my sisters births, said he didn't care how many people were in the room as long as they stayed away from the sterile table. I think there were almost 10 people in the room with my last niece but that was my sisters call.