Kristen’s Chickens and Farming Ventures

[BY Bob]

It is so exhausting... I get home after the 1 1/2 drive and I'm toast. But she's getting better every day. Today they gave her a walker and she took a spin around the room. Today marks day 16 that she's been on the ICU floor. Hopefully sometime tomorrow she'll move to rehab.

ETA: Maybe I should just start cooking for her and bringing it in. Then she can have good food.

I think you should cook for her. I'm sure with 3 hours of driving and work you have plenty of extra time to whip up some good food for her.

What I'm trying to say is don't over commit, even in your own head, you can run yourself ragged trying to meet your own commitments. I do think an occasional treat of home cooking would be nice. Just remember to take care of yourself too.

 

[Ribh]

Listen to Bob, Bob.

 

[Kris5902]

I think you should cook for her. I'm sure with 3 hours of driving and work you have plenty of extra time to whip up some good food for her.

What I'm trying to say is don't over commit, even in your own head, you can run yourself ragged trying to meet your own commitments. I do think an occasional treat of home cooking would be nice. Just remember to take care of yourself too.

^^^X2
Even if you just bring the occasional decent food in... she will appreciate it. When Andrew was in for his last big surgery he was in the cardiac ward for quite a long time. His best friends would “sneak in” McDonalds (like the smell of fries wasn’t wafting through the unit tantalizing all the other patients!). drive safely and remember you have to take care of you first to take care of her. I’m so glad she is doing better...

 

[rjohns39]

Good morning Kris

 

[RoyalChick]

I think you should cook for her. I'm sure with 3 hours of driving and work you have plenty of extra time to whip up some good food for her.

What I'm trying to say is don't over commit, even in your own head, you can run yourself ragged trying to meet your own commitments. I do think an occasional treat of home cooking would be nice. Just remember to take care of yourself too.

Totally agree, you need to look after yourself as well @rjohns39. What I did when my Dad was in hospital was once a week I made sure someone else was available to visit and I cooked something for myself. I cooked extra and froze it in little pots to smuggle into the hospital.
It worked well because it forced me to take a mental break and it forced me to eat properly at least once a week and it created a week's worth of yummy home cooking to smuggle in to Dad.
Not sure that would work for you, but just want to reinforce you need to look after yourself and not over-commit.

 

[BY Bob]

Good morning Kris

Good morning Bob

 

[BY Bob]

Totally agree, you need to look after yourself as well @rjohns39. What I did when my Dad was in hospital was once a week I made sure someone else was available to visit and I cooked something for myself. I cooked extra and froze it in little pots to smuggle into the hospital.
It worked well because it forced me to take a mental break and it forced me to eat properly at least once a week and it created a week's worth of yummy home cooking to smuggle in to Dad.
Not sure that would work for you, but just want to reinforce you need to look after your self and not over-commit.

I like the way you worked this out. A good solution for you. Maybe this would work for Bob. I know when Rose was in the hospital nothing could keep me from spending every free moment I had with her. I literally lived blocks from the hospital. I burned myself out. One of her friends was also a nurse at the hospital and she had to intervene to save me from myself. I worry about what I would have done if you added in 3 hours of driving every day.

I know @rjohns39 is not me. My concern comes from my experiences. I think I come by it honestly. I hope that he understands the spirit in which I am offering it.

Be well Bob.

 

[rjohns39]

Totally agree, you need to look after yourself as well @rjohns39. What I did when my Dad was in hospital was once a week I made sure someone else was available to visit and I cooked something for myself. I cooked extra and froze it in little pots to smuggle into the hospital.
It worked well because it forced me to take a mental break and it forced me to eat properly at least once a week and it created a week's worth of yummy home cooking to smuggle in to Dad.
Not sure that would work for you, but just want to reinforce you need to look after yourself and not over-commit.

Thank you, that's a wonderful Idea.

I like the way you worked this out. A good solution for you. Maybe this would work for Bob. I know when Rose was in the hospital nothing could keep me from spending every free moment I had with her. I literally lived blocks from the hospital. I burned myself out. One of her friends was also a nurse at the hospital and she had to intervene to save me from myself. I worry about what I would have done if you added in 3 hours of driving every day.

I know @rjohns39 is not me. My concern comes from my experiences. I think I come by it honestly. I hope that he understands the spirit in which I am offering it.

Be well Bob.

I do understand. I'm trying to work something out with my son so he or DIL can take some days to visit with her.

 

[Wee Farmer Sarah]

Good morning Bob. (@rjohns39 ) Sorry I totally missed that your wife had a stroke. I'm glad she is improving. Best wishes for her recovery.

 

[rjohns39]

Good morning Bob. (@rjohns39 ) Sorry I totally missed that your wife had a stroke. I'm glad she is improving. Best wishes for her recovery.

Thanks