Official Squatch Watchers

[staceyj]

I think that is way too much to ask of anyone. The responsibility of taking care of a baby and aging parents is too much for any 1 person

I agree with you.
Maybe this woman is just completely naive. Or maybe not.
they’ve only been together a short time.
Everything is new to them.
Being married. Having this baby. So she hasn’t know the inlaws even a year.
I think they’re under pressure from the inlaws to allow them to watch the grandbaby they thought they’d never have.
I’m guessing the husband doesn’t have the stones to tell them they are not in shape for this kind of huge responsibility.

I think the mommy thinks if she can get my daughter on board, the baby will be safe from the bumbling of the grandparents, and to convince the cranky grandmother of it, she’s telling her they’ve hired Cinderella for her.

 

[staceyj]

My dad tells me I'm always making excited for why other people act the way they do. Nope, just giving reasons, never said I agreed with them acting that way. So I tell him I'm not making excuses, just giving possible reasons for it. And reasons do not always justify the means or the end result. I can give reasons without condoning the actions.

Which I just did....

 

[Chickassan]

I'm sorry this is going to sound rude as half Pat's crow but all that mess is lady's problem not your daughter's
And newness and grans and pepaws aside your girl is 21 years old!
That amount of responsibility would break my 43 year old self! Won't even get into the time your girl does not have or the piddly sum she's offering.
I bet you're almost mad at the thought of it , i'm a little mad and she's not my kid.
I just find it all rude.

I agree with you.
Maybe this woman is just completely naive. Or maybe not.
they’ve only been together a short time.
Everything is new to them.
Being married. Having this baby. So she hasn’t know the inlaws even a year.
I think they’re under pressure from the inlaws to allow them to watch the grandbaby they thought they’d never have.
I’m guessing the husband doesn’t have the stones to tell them they are not in shape for this kind of huge responsibility.

I think the mommy thinks if she can get my daughter on board, the baby will be safe from the bumbling of the grandparents, and to convince the cranky grandmother of it, she’s telling her they’ve hired Cinderella for her.

 

[staceyj]

I'm sorry this is going to sound rude as half Pat's crow but all that mess is lady's problem not your daughter's
And newness and grans and pepaws aside your girl is 21 years old!
That amount of responsibility would break my 43 year old self! Won't even get into the time your girl does not have or the piddly sum she's offering.
I bet you're almost mad at the thought of it , i'm a little mad and she's not my kid.
I just find it all rude.

You bet yer boobies I’m mad about this. Because she’s damned if she does and she’s damned if she doesn’t. This woman is partially responsible for my kids review and determining if she’ll get a raise or not.
I’m already worried that if she says no, or heck, if she says yes, suddenly she might not get as many hours as she needs at work to make her rent.
...know what I mean?...

 

[Chickassan]

Why is it when I do something slightly nice i'm up to something? And why does hubs ask me man questions?
I sent a yogurt cup in hub's lunch even gave the man a spoon! We were out of cheese so his sandwich was sad. The yogurt was because I felt BAD about it! I got 20 questions over a yogurt.
Then he proceeds to ask if iv'e ever heard of a battery reversing polarity...um yeah. Well what causes it? OMG! I explained it asked who killed a battery and haven't heard a peep since.
Man just used me for my knowledge and left me hanging.

 

[FlyingNunFarm]

You bet yer boobies I’m mad about this. Because she’s damned if she does and she’s damned if she doesn’t. This woman is partially responsible for my kids review and determining if she’ll get a raise or not.
I’m already worried that if she says no, or heck, if she says yes, suddenly she might not get as many hours as she needs at work to make her rent.
...know what I mean?...

I would suggest your DD go to HR. It's all confidential.
Just say she wants it on record what her and her boss originally talked about and how she now sprung this new idea on her. DD is comfortable with that arrangement but is worried it could cause a problem with the boss at work if she refuses.

 

[Chickassan]

Well jeeze, girl would be exhausted, stressed and on the road in that state too! Not good.
Plus if anything happened you know who lady would point at, not gran or pepaw.
Maybe it would be worth trying to tell crazy lady that she needs someone trained in infant and senior care due to liability issues. Sounds a little cold but people are nuts now.

You bet yer boobies I’m mad about this. Because she’s damned if she does and she’s damned if she doesn’t. This woman is partially responsible for my kids review and determining if she’ll get a raise or not.
I’m already worried that if she says no, or heck, if she says yes, suddenly she might not get as many hours as she needs at work to make her rent.
...know what I mean?...

 

[Suzi18]

You bet yer boobies I’m mad about this. Because she’s damned if she does and she’s damned if she doesn’t. This woman is partially responsible for my kids review and determining if she’ll get a raise or not.
I’m already worried that if she says no, or heck, if she says yes, suddenly she might not get as many hours as she needs at work to make her rent.
...know what I mean?...

This woman has really put your DD in a difficult position. Is she the type of person that would take advantage or is she really just clueless?

 

[Redhead Rae]

No. You don’t want coal Rae.
Not in a house with two babies.

I wasn't considering it. What I really want is a wood stove, but I don't know if I can get that right away. We have PLENTY of woods on our 35 acres.

I'm thinking what we'll do (if the builder will let us) is have propane cook stoves and get unvented propane gas fire places for backup heat and we'll have propane tanks that we will refill ourselves.

 

[staceyj]

I would suggest your DD go to HR. It's all confidential.
Just say she wants it on record what her and her boss originally talked about and how she now sprung this new idea on her. DD is comfortable with that arrangement but is worried it could cause a problem with the boss at work if she refuses.

Not a bad idea. Except HR is via telephone in calif.
but still not a bad idea.

I’m collecting alllllll my sqwatchy friends suggestions on this matter and presenting it to dd.