Questions for Setter4 - Cremation - You MUST be respectful!!!

[mama3chix]

Thank you Setter4, and everyone else, you all have great questions, My husband passed away 7 years ago and he was cremated, the cemetery wanted $1500 to bury him in a regular plot, $1200 for a nitch, that is a lot of money to come up with after a sudden death, So I called around and found a cemetery that has a scatter ground, which happened to be the same cemetery his father is at, I took the ashes there, the director took me out to the grounds and I scattered my husband in a very peaceful surrounding, he has a plaque with his picture on it and he name, I know that he would be pleased where he is.

 

[ruth]

Wow, what an interesting and informative topic to find, especially on a chicken forum. Thanks for all the info. I, for one, do plan to be cremated after all usable organs have been donated.

I would like to add a side note to all those that think cremation is "weird", "gross", "scary", fill in the adjective - have you ever read what takes place in embalming? If so, you would NEVER want to be embalmed.

I had to read a short story in my first college English class about what takes place during an embalming - decided I NEVER, EVER want that done to my body. I want my usable organs donated so they can continue to serve others. Take my organs, skin, eyes, whatever - and then burn the rest and scatter the ashes in the woods I love so much.

I know where my soul and spirit are going and they don't need this human vessel.

 

[Lunachick]

Very well put Ruth.

 

[justusnak]

Wow, what a great thread. I know several of us have recently lost loved ones....and this has made me think of my own demise. I have informed the family..I want to be cremated...and my ashes spread here on the farm. We just burried my mother in September. No plans were made prior. What an AWFULL experience, on top of loseing her. I REFUSE to do this to MY children...and will have everything in place soon. Thanks for getting this thread going, and for everyone being so respectfull.

 

[HennysMom]

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Ruth - I have to disagree with you on this. Just because one chooses to be buried vs. cremated does not mean one cannot donate organs, thats a pretty bold statement you're making - or at least it reads that way in how you've written it. Organ donation is made prior to being buried or embalmed or the organs are not viable....

I am an organ donor - and they would take all organs (including skin should I so choose) prior to embalming should I chose to be buried vs. cremated.

 

[adoptedbyachicken]

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Egg-sactly! Whatever is low cost and quick, simple way of disposing of the flesh, I'm not in there anymore anyway.

I did not know about pre-pay and pre-sign, I'll have to look into that option here in Canada. I guess since they have your money the price is locked in at today's rate?

 

[Tuffoldhen]

Well, I for one didn't know what the topic was when I opened it and I find it very distasteful especially to someone that just lost a baby sister and went thru alot with organ donation and cremation. This is a chicken site and things like this topic should be sacred. I don't be dropping by again on this one thats for sure.

Go find a funeral home site to post questions on.

 

[SunAngel]

My Aunt had my grandmother cremated 5 yrs ago now, and since her grandchildren were closest to her, they had her ashes split between 4 urns and we each got one. It sits on a shelf that I pass by often amongst some of her items I was able to get my hands on. I can not imagine her being buried somewhere, in a state far away and never being able to visit her grave. This way I have her as close to me as possible, even if its just a token.

Personally, I hate the dark and bugs and noway could I stand the thought of my body being buried, surrounded by both. Even if I won't know its there after I am gone. After organ donation, I will be (better be) cremated and my kids can either split my ashes up like my grandmothers, or they can sneak my ashes down to the ocean in their pocket and let me float away.

ETA: It seems that most of us chatting on this topic have lost someone and that is the point of discussing it. For some, being informed and able to talk about things like this helps a great deal. Specially with people we feel close to, even if its just through a chicken connection. I don't think I could wander into a chat room full of `strangers` (for lack of a better word) and feel like I was getting the same compassion and understanding.

 

[mrsengeseth]

Mom prepaid and pre planned all her cremation and such. She made specific and clear wishes that she did not want a funeral, but maybe a celebration of her life later, a few years after her death. After watching her go it occurred to me I am not so much afraid of the cremation...although there are a few "what if I FEEL it" worries...as I am afraid of autopsy. That scares the begeebers out of me.

Thanks so much though for this thread. I think EVERY question I had was already asked and explained so well!

I do have one though. Some people are buried with things...a special photo, a locket etc...if i wanted to be cremated with something...say my bible for instance, is that something that could be done? Or is it not allowed by most places?

 

[EweSheep]

Wow such useful information on this!

I know that cremation has been around for thousands of years so has body burials as well going back to the Eyptians which I think they probably started the embalming process.

I went to a funeral parlor muesuem in Springfield http://www.funeralmuseum.org/index-2.html and I found this so interesting! All the history all in one place made it worthwhile for a trip and its not far from Lincoln stuff. If you are planning on going there, go for it and be sure to check out all of the Lincoln places, like his home, courthouse, law office, wonderful resturaunts!

Thanks to Miss Prissy and Setter for starting this forum, its NEAT!

My hubby wanted to be in Scotland and I would not have any way of putting his ashes out in the Highland of Scotland where his heart has been longing to be there. I guess overseas custom wont allow bodies going international or shipped there.