We found out in May of this year that my mom has cancer(multiple myeloma) and she is doing chemo twice per week, plus a bone marrow transplant right before christmas. In order to help her and my dad, I take my mom to her treatments once a week, it's a long drive and we are there for HOURS. I am happy to help my mom, I don't want her going alone and my dad shouldn't have to do it all. He does have to work. But I have 3 kids, twins in second grade and a kindergartener. My dh is a fireman so he is gone a lot and I have a lot to do when it's just me. I am also a Brownie Leader for my twins and we are very involved in Scouts. I normally volunteer in the kids' classrooms, but I put that on hold to help my mom. So she is very irrational right now, although before this she was irrational, and we had a very heated conversation today about a sewing machine! She needed to take it to get serviced and the day she wanted to go, I am unavailable. So I offered to take it SOONER when I am free and she flipped out on me that I never have time and girl scouts takes up all my time. It's like she wants my entire life to stop and be at her beck and call, I should ignore my kids, ignore my house chores, dump my dh and just clear everything out of my life in case she wants something. Now, I may sound harsh, but you'd have to know my mom to really understand. Nothing is ever good enough, if I take her a gift, she calls it a "guilt present" instead of seeing it as trying to make her a tad bit happy. So she yelled and screamed at me today and then hung up on me. Mind you, I have 3 siblings, none of them help at all, just me. I am just frustrated that she doesn't see that I AM there. But I still have to take of my family too. Anyone else dealing with this? It's hard, it sucks and I have feelings too about her condition. But she can't be spoken to. I could just scream.