What do pregnant women like to here?

[seismic wonder2]

When she backs up DO NOT go "BEEP! BEEP! wide load comming through!"

With all the hormones she is very, VERY likely to "Dot" your eye.

(Don't ask)

 

[GwenFarms]

Definetly say something. Don't say nothing at all. I'm pg with my fourth right now and it really makes me feel like people don't care when they say nothing. If she has other children never say anything like "You working on a baseball team?", or "Don't ya know what causes that yet?" I HATE that. HATE it!!!! Tell her how pretty her baby bump is when she gets one. Don't treat her like she is breakable. I hate that too. I hate it when people make a fuss cause I'm toting a bag of feed, or riding my horse.

It's early yet it sounds like, so a simple "Congratulations, I heard the good news." , should start things our right.

 

[wegotchickens]

At 9 months into the 2nd child my now EX-h said, "Your belly hits the chair before your butt does!" and proceeded to laugh hard and long. This is never a wise move in front of a VERY pregnant woman...

If she seems like she wants to talk, but is bashful, ank her what she likes and dislikes about being pregnant.

You may have to avoid perfumes & lotions if you work closely with her. And empty the trash can frequently. I had a very sensitive nose while preggers and strong smells triggered nausea. To this day the smell of stale dishwater makes me gag!

 

[Crunchie]

It really got on my nerves when a particular co-worker constantly asked me, "are you excited???!!!" in a really high-pitched, whiney voice, 10 zillion times a day.

Um, it's my baby, of course I'm excited. What kind of question is that, anyway? One day, after replying "well, sure" for the 10 zillionth time, she says "oh, but you don't sound very excited." Well what do you want a 9-months-along, humongous, feet swollen pregnant lady to do?? Jump up and down and squeal like a 16-year old teenager whose team has just scored a touchdown???

Probably a simple "how are you feeling?" would do. If she initiates more conversation, great; if not, maybe safe to assume she's heard enough for the day!

I agree with GwenFarms. I loved it when people told me I was "cute" as a pregnant lady. I wasn't, but it was nice.

I also hated when people fussed over me, but that's just me and some people might like being fussed over. I did get a lot of odd looks at horse shows when I was riding about 7 1/2 months along...

 

[Harley's girl]

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I completely agree!!
I was not real comfortable with people touching my belly! I bought a book called "A clid is born" By: Lennart Nilsson I loved it. It has "real pics" Not drawn. It has pics month by month of your growing baby!!! I highly recommend this book. Google it or check it out in Amazon. I think you can preview the books there! And congratulate her!

 

[miss_thenorth]

Don't use the words--fat, --or glowing,radiant, etc. Don't treat her like she's got a virus, eg, how are you feeling today? That gets tiring everyday for nine months.

Be honest, and don't be afraid to ask questions if you are curious--just be tactful. I agree with the perfumes, lotions, etc. Smells are the worst for someone who has morning sickness.

 

[tricia]

As far as pregnancy.... just be supportive, offer sincere compliments, ask questions if you're curious...... it doesn't hurt anything. It's good sometimes too , to be able to vent.... pregnancy can be a real chore... takes a toll on the body, especially towards the end! We (women) tend to get pretty emotional in pregnancy... I'm sure she'll let you know how she's feeling about things I'm sure you'll be fine and unoffensive I always appreciated the people who were excited for me

I absolutely agree!!

The only time I didnt like people talking about my size was at the end of my second and third pregnancies. Even tho I knew it was my belly that was huge (not so much the rest of me) people would carry on and on how incredibly massive I was. When you are uncomfortable, huge, everything hurts and nothing fits, the last thing you need is people making a scene over your size. I didn't mind little comments, but hated when I was 7 months pregnant and had to hear - "Wow! Are you sure it isn't twins? Are you sure you aren't 9 months?" Just stick to a simple "Your baby sure is growing", or better yet, " You look great!!"

 

[Pinenot]

Don't talk about it everyday, unless she brings it up. That is your cue that it is ok to talk about it. If your going to go get something to drink or eat, ask her if she needs anything while your out.

 

[Anne]

Do not, do not, do NOT ask "so, have you gotten any morning sickness yet?" You will jinx her.

I always liked it when people simply asked, "so, how's the baby?" or "how's pregnancy so far?" because it gave me a chance to talk a little about whatever pregnancy-related theme I wanted.

 

[cheeptrick]

TRUE story...
Sister in Law was pregnant with her first child...I too at the same time. Everyone in her family kept saying...SHE'S SO BIG. It was awful...I felt so terrible for her. One pregnant person to the other I tried to listen and comfort her...she complained daily about her weight gain. I kept telling her YOU Are pregnant for goodness sakes...we all gain weight. Then she would start crying...tell me how great I looked...how skinny I was even while pregnant etc etc. It got so bad that I finally stopped talking to her...everytime we did speak she would bring UP MY weight and talk about how FAT she was!! Her whole family, Mother, Father, Grandparents talked behind her back about how FAT she got. It was sad to say the least...
Never did I talk about size with her...only the new gorgeous babies she and I both were about to have. Her weight gain looked normal and healthy to me...all PREGNANT people are different!!

Mother-In-Law calls me one day...point blank asks me about how her daughter is reacting to her weight gain. I give her the same reponse as always...that she is a gorgeous pregnant woman and that she had NO reason to be over sensitive about her weight and to please stop talking about how SKINNY I am in my pregnancy.

A day later...my sister in law calls...says...talks all about how big I've gotten...then one by one every family member calls and tells me how FAT I am...till the end of my pregancy. NICE!!

I give up...