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I love your reply
. Exccelent advice.
We can't choose our parents or children, yet they are, and they will always be part of us no mater what.
I had a similar relationship with my older sister for many years. She always treated me like a baby and had no confidence in me at all, it use to drive me crazy. Last year she had a car accident, I learn of it from a common friend who could not give me any details except that she was in the car with her teenager daughter. My sister is only an hour away from me and since I couldn't get anyone on the phone (cell or home), I jumped in my car and drove there with my heart rushing like a sonic train. I imagined the worst, and that hour of drive was a very long hour with many thought going through my mind. When I got there I learned that my sister was at work perfectly fine, and the accident was nothing more than bumping her car in her husband's car as she was backing out of the driveway.......
The lesson I learned from this was that is if something is to happen to the other person, all this anger that we feel right now will turn into guilt, and the guilt will hurt a lot more than the anger, specially when there is no one to answer back.
I still argue with my sister every now and then, but I love her and I know she loves me. And as strange as that might sound, I will rather have the headache of an argument any day, than the fear of casting out my sister to an unpredictable future, without trying to mend our relationship.
Your mother is not a young woman anymore, and the unpredictable can happen any time. You are more angry with her because you love her. It hurts a lot more when mean and thoughtless words are coming from someone we love, than if they would of come from someone we dont care for.
Vent out when you need
, we are on your side and we listen
, thats what friends are for
, and when you feel ready face your mother again, but dont cast her out. I believe it will hurt you more than you think.
Good luck,
Arianna