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staceyj said:
I believe in a womans right to choose to nurse or not.
I chose to.
Four times.
3 of 4 were really dedicated milk-drinkers lol.
Pretty sure lots of strangers caught a glimps or two of me with my "feeding apparatus exposed".

On baby #1, 2 1/2 weeks after he was born, DH's extra special super prickly and unwelcoming family invited us to a barbecue.
No other guests.
Just the parents.
His teenage sister.
His 25 yr old brother and his GF.
AND US.

Of course, just as the food was ready, that teesy tiny precious milk drinker woke up from his adorable slumber puckered up his face and wailed to be fed.
It seems that all my kids knew exactly when it was time to eat.

I was discrete. I went over to the porch steps. Got settled. Covered up with a blanket even though it was Memorial Day and almost 100 degrees.
We got started.

Then DH's mother screamed.
"Oh no you don't!
Not here in my backyard!
That is disgusting behavior. "

She called it that.
Behavior.

She led me hard by the arm to their basement and made me sit in a chair in a room with no windows.

Like a child being punished.

I was 22 yrs old. Practically a kid. Scared of her for sure.

Trying to be the very best new mother on the planet for my perfect newborn son.

I'd been taught to respect "adults".
Instead of telling her where to go, I stayed.
And cried.

When I came back up into the sunlight, dinner was over. Everything was put away.

MIL smiled in her smug way and led me over to the grill where she'd kept my steak "hot".

It was a black blob.

Wish my DH had had the kahunas to stick up for me
back then, but he was young too.

A few months later after dozens of phone calls begging us to go to a movie and let her babysit,
She poured a bottle of my painstakingly pumped breast milk down the sink and fed my child homemade formula (with molasses in it) while we were gone.

She was proud to tell us when we got back to their house to collect him.

That was the only time they ever babysat for us.

You don't leave your baby with someone you can't trust.

Whenever I see young mothers nursing I always smile at them. Give them a thumbs up...something.

Some silent, supportive, positive acknowledgment, That they have my full support and hope they never feel selfconscious about doing the natural thing for their child.
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I'm not going to say what I would have done but I have always been a say what's on my mind kinda guy. I was breastfed and so have all my kids.
 
:th:thWhat the crap???? That is crazy to me! Some people still have that mindset, but seems to be better now. Was she from that generation that mostly bottle fed the babies?
staceyj said:
I believe in a womans right to choose to nurse or not.
I chose to.
Four times.
3 of 4 were really dedicated milk-drinkers lol.
Pretty sure lots of strangers caught a glimps or two of me with my "feeding apparatus exposed".

On baby #1, 2 1/2 weeks after he was born, DH's extra special super prickly and unwelcoming family invited us to a barbecue.
No other guests.
Just the parents.
His teenage sister.
His 25 yr old brother and his GF.
AND US.

Of course, just as the food was ready, that teesy tiny precious milk drinker woke up from his adorable slumber puckered up his face and wailed to be fed.
It seems that all my kids knew exactly when it was time to eat.

I was discrete. I went over to the porch steps. Got settled. Covered up with a blanket even though it was Memorial Day and almost 100 degrees.
We got started.

Then DH's mother screamed.
"Oh no you don't!
Not here in my backyard!
That is disgusting behavior. "

She called it that.
Behavior.

She led me hard by the arm to their basement and made me sit in a chair in a room with no windows.

Like a child being punished.

I was 22 yrs old. Practically a kid. Scared of her for sure.

Trying to be the very best new mother on the planet for my perfect newborn son.

I'd been taught to respect "adults".
Instead of telling her where to go, I stayed.
And cried.

When I came back up into the sunlight, dinner was over. Everything was put away.

MIL smiled in her smug way and led me over to the grill where she'd kept my steak "hot".

It was a black blob.

Wish my DH had had the kahunas to stick up for me
back then, but he was young too.

A few months later after dozens of phone calls begging us to go to a movie and let her babysit,
She poured a bottle of my painstakingly pumped breast milk down the sink and fed my child homemade formula (with molasses in it) while we were gone.

She was proud to tell us when we got back to their house to collect him.

That was the only time they ever babysat for us.

You don't leave your baby with someone you can't trust.

Whenever I see young mothers nursing I always smile at them. Give them a thumbs up...something.

Some silent, supportive, positive acknowledgment, That they have my full support and hope they never feel selfconscious about doing the natural thing for their child.
Click to expand...
 
staceyj said:
I believe in a womans right to choose to nurse or not.
I chose to.
Four times.
3 of 4 were really dedicated milk-drinkers lol.
Pretty sure lots of strangers caught a glimps or two of me with my "feeding apparatus exposed".

On baby #1, 2 1/2 weeks after he was born, DH's extra special super prickly and unwelcoming family invited us to a barbecue.
No other guests.
Just the parents.
His teenage sister.
His 25 yr old brother and his GF.
AND US.

Of course, just as the food was ready, that teesy tiny precious milk drinker woke up from his adorable slumber puckered up his face and wailed to be fed.
It seems that all my kids knew exactly when it was time to eat.

I was discrete. I went over to the porch steps. Got settled. Covered up with a blanket even though it was Memorial Day and almost 100 degrees.
We got started.

Then DH's mother screamed.
"Oh no you don't!
Not here in my backyard!
That is disgusting behavior. "

She called it that.
Behavior.

She led me hard by the arm to their basement and made me sit in a chair in a room with no windows.

Like a child being punished.

I was 22 yrs old. Practically a kid. Scared of her for sure.

Trying to be the very best new mother on the planet for my perfect newborn son.

I'd been taught to respect "adults".
Instead of telling her where to go, I stayed.
And cried.

When I came back up into the sunlight, dinner was over. Everything was put away.

MIL smiled in her smug way and led me over to the grill where she'd kept my steak "hot".

It was a black blob.

Wish my DH had had the kahunas to stick up for me
back then, but he was young too.

A few months later after dozens of phone calls begging us to go to a movie and let her babysit,
She poured a bottle of my painstakingly pumped breast milk down the sink and fed my child homemade formula (with molasses in it) while we were gone.

She was proud to tell us when we got back to their house to collect him.

That was the only time they ever babysat for us.

You don't leave your baby with someone you can't trust.

Whenever I see young mothers nursing I always smile at them. Give them a thumbs up...something.

Some silent, supportive, positive acknowledgment, That they have my full support and hope they never feel selfconscious about doing the natural thing for their child.
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UGH, that is horrible. I don't blame you for restricting access to your children one bit. She sounds like a nightmare.

My mom's side of the family has an unbroken chain of breastfeeding, a rarity nowadays. My Mom-mom was very proud of it. She was a nurse during WWII and when she had my mom and uncles in the 50's she was pestered by all the doctors to switch to formula because it was the "scientific" thing to do. She resisted because she saw that EBF infants had fewer problems than "scientifically fed" infants.

Now we are finding out that there is a chain of good bacteria that is passed down through the maternal line that is lost when the breastfeeding chain is broken.

I'm also fortunate that my MIL (who lives with us) is supportive as well. Neither her, nor my mother went against my wishes not to feed him anything before he was 6 months old.
 
staceyj said:
I believe in a womans right to choose to nurse or not.
I chose to.
Four times.
3 of 4 were really dedicated milk-drinkers lol.
Pretty sure lots of strangers caught a glimps or two of me with my "feeding apparatus exposed".

On baby #1, 2 1/2 weeks after he was born, DH's extra special super prickly and unwelcoming family invited us to a barbecue.
No other guests.
Just the parents.
His teenage sister.
His 25 yr old brother and his GF.
AND US.

Of course, just as the food was ready, that teesy tiny precious milk drinker woke up from his adorable slumber puckered up his face and wailed to be fed.
It seems that all my kids knew exactly when it was time to eat.

I was discrete. I went over to the porch steps. Got settled. Covered up with a blanket even though it was Memorial Day and almost 100 degrees.
We got started.

Then DH's mother screamed.
"Oh no you don't!
Not here in my backyard!
That is disgusting behavior. "

She called it that.
Behavior.

She led me hard by the arm to their basement and made me sit in a chair in a room with no windows.

Like a child being punished.

I was 22 yrs old. Practically a kid. Scared of her for sure.

Trying to be the very best new mother on the planet for my perfect newborn son.

I'd been taught to respect "adults".
Instead of telling her where to go, I stayed.
And cried.

When I came back up into the sunlight, dinner was over. Everything was put away.

MIL smiled in her smug way and led me over to the grill where she'd kept my steak "hot".

It was a black blob.

Wish my DH had had the kahunas to stick up for me
back then, but he was young too.

A few months later after dozens of phone calls begging us to go to a movie and let her babysit,
She poured a bottle of my painstakingly pumped breast milk down the sink and fed my child homemade formula (with molasses in it) while we were gone.

She was proud to tell us when we got back to their house to collect him.

That was the only time they ever babysat for us.

You don't leave your baby with someone you can't trust.

Whenever I see young mothers nursing I always smile at them. Give them a thumbs up...something.

Some silent, supportive, positive acknowledgment, That they have my full support and hope they never feel selfconscious about doing the natural thing for their child.
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She should have been ashamed of herself! Seriously!! To treat anyone like that is disgraceful.

I know it is many years ago but i would like to give her a piece of my mind........ If I can only find it.
 
Redhead Rae said:
UGH, that is horrible. I don't blame you for restricting access to your children one bit. She sounds like a nightmare.

My mom's side of the family has an unbroken chain of breastfeeding, a rarity nowadays. My Mom-mom was very proud of it. She was a nurse during WWII and when she had my mom and uncles in the 50's she was pestered by all the doctors to switch to formula because it was the "scientific" thing to do. She resisted because she saw that EBF infants had fewer problems than "scientifically fed" infants.

Now we are finding out that there is a chain of good bacteria that is passed down through the maternal line that is lost when the breastfeeding chain is broken.

I'm also fortunate that my MIL (who lives with us) is supportive as well. Neither her, nor my mother went against my wishes not to feed him anything before he was 6 months old.
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I will be that kind of awesome grandmother too!

Also I didn't restrict access, I just said no to the babysitting pleas.
It didn't matter. 8 months later on the day of that baby's much delayed baptism ( because of family differences) she boycotted to emphasize her displeasure. Then banned us from "the family".
We didn't see her for 15 years.
By the time she was interested in being a grandmother, at least to that child, he was a teenager.
He had a fabulous relationship with his other grandmother.
He wasn't interested at all and had no need for another Grammy.
Neither was his brother.
The two little ones were more receptive to meeting her but never really developed anything even close to a relationship with her which is sad.
She died suddenly a little over a year ago.
We all felt sorry for my husband's loss but didn't feel any real personal loss at her passing.
 
21hens-incharge said:
She should have been ashamed of herself! Seriously!! To treat anyone like that is disgraceful.

I know it is many years ago but i would like to give her a piece of my mind........ If I can only find it.
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Oh I wished for YEARS that I'd spoken back.
 

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