They are nice, if exasperating at times. We would't really be buying the house down the lane "for them" but to 1) consolidate property on the lane within our family 2) to have more room in our house and 3) it's a nice piece of SE facing property that I would really like to turn into terraced gardens and orchards.Don't have more kids or don't buy the inlaws a house? It sounds like she has nice inlaws though.. mine hated me b/c I didn't let their son have an open marriage (but only open on his side)... I know, I'm a horrible wife.
I'm sorry your in-laws, and apparently your husband (ex now right?) were taters.