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FlyingNunFarm said:
No delivery. I actually feel a bit better. I’ll have to go out tomorrow and pick some meds up.

If I’m honest I’m having a hard time lately. My Mom and I, I thought, were really close. The old house I lived in with the ex had one bathroom, upstairs. My Mom is a larger lady with bad knees so I always understood when she didn’t visit. I wouldn’t want to go anywhere where I didn’t think I had easy access to a bathroom. But I moved, and she’s been to my house twice. Once after I bought it but didn’t even live in it yet. The other she stood in the driveway. She is at my sisters 3 days a week, 10 min from my house. I don’t want to sound jealous or anything. I know she’s there loving being a grandma but it is still hard. I’ve been sick over a week and when we talked I said I was out of medicine. She got off the phone with me to go to Walmart, on her way to my sisters. I just heard from her 10 hrs later, she was wondering why I called between jobs.

Typing it out it all seems so petty and stupid. But my feelings are still hurt.

Ok I’ll stop whining.
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:hugs

I am sorry Nunny.
It is rough when family doesn't act like family. :(

My own mom ........... Well.......we haven't even spoken since 2013.
I do remember the times it would have been nice to have mom be mom though. :hugs
 
You're feelings ate justified but maybe your mom doesn't even realize how she is making you feel. I kind of know how you feel. My mom was always so concerned when I was sick, even well into my adult years. If DH or I had a cold or flu she would bring soup or ginger ale and call every day to see how I was feeling. Well now she has dementia so if I tell her I'm sick she doesn't remember 10 minutes later. When I had carpal tunnel surgery I didn't even bother to tell her cuz she wouldn't remember. It makes me feel so sad that I don't have my "mom" anymore. She is still alive but she isn't the mom she used to be. I know it's not her fault but it hurts. Maybe you could tell your mom how you are feeling?
 
Thanks everyone. I know we should talk it's just hard. I don't want to come off sounding like I'm resentful my sister has a kid. (And another on the way btw) My mom could have had 10 kids and run an orphanage. She loves children and really is a fantastic Mom. I guess we both need adjusting to the new rules of Grammy and Auntie and what that did for our relationship.


Oh and...
 
FlyingNunFarm said:
Thanks everyone. I know we should talk it's just hard. I don't want to come off sounding like I'm resentful my sister has a kid. (And another on the way btw) My mom could have had 10 kids and run an orphanage. She loves children and really is a fantastic Mom. I guess we both need adjusting to the new rules of Grammy and Auntie and what that did for our relationship.


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Sorry about your family issues. It is always hard when a sibling is treated differently over something you can't control.

They look like they are feeling better!
 
FlyingNunFarm said:
No delivery. I actually feel a bit better. I’ll have to go out tomorrow and pick some meds up.

If I’m honest I’m having a hard time lately. My Mom and I, I thought, were really close. The old house I lived in with the ex had one bathroom, upstairs. My Mom is a larger lady with bad knees so I always understood when she didn’t visit. I wouldn’t want to go anywhere where I didn’t think I had easy access to a bathroom. But I moved, and she’s been to my house twice. Once after I bought it but didn’t even live in it yet. The other she stood in the driveway. She is at my sisters 3 days a week, 10 min from my house. I don’t want to sound jealous or anything. I know she’s there loving being a grandma but it is still hard. I’ve been sick over a week and when we talked I said I was out of medicine. She got off the phone with me to go to Walmart, on her way to my sisters. I just heard from her 10 hrs later, she was wondering why I called between jobs.

Typing it out it all seems so petty and stupid. But my feelings are still hurt.

Ok I’ll stop whining.
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:hugs
 
Ya know.....Nunny.....maybe ask mom to come over for coffee and muffins or something.
Make a thing of it like a celebration of life get together.......
Tell her while she is there and all is cheery that you would like her to come over more often.

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FlyingNunFarm said:
Thanks everyone. I know we should talk it's just hard. I don't want to come off sounding like I'm resentful my sister has a kid. (And another on the way btw) My mom could have had 10 kids and run an orphanage. She loves children and really is a fantastic Mom. I guess we both need adjusting to the new rules of Grammy and Auntie and what that did for our relationship.


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I love them!!!! I want to hug and kiss them!!!

Sounds like she is loving being a Grandma. Maybe she doesn’t realize you need her? Have you asked or just dropped hints? I only say this because sometimes it is expectations vs communication.

Being an Auntie is wonderful. I have 4 nieces and I have the only boy. Definitely take the time to bond with them as the grow. I love to text dorky aunt things to my nieces and always remind them that I am available if they find themselves in a situation they don’t feel calling their parents about.
 
Suzi18 said:
You're feelings ate justified but maybe your mom doesn't even realize how she is making you feel. I kind of know how you feel. My mom was always so concerned when I was sick, even well into my adult years. If DH or I had a cold or flu she would bring soup or ginger ale and call every day to see how I was feeling. Well now she has dementia so if I tell her I'm sick she doesn't remember 10 minutes later. When I had carpal tunnel surgery I didn't even bother to tell her cuz she wouldn't remember. It makes me feel so sad that I don't have my "mom" anymore. She is still alive but she isn't the mom she used to be. I know it's not her fault but it hurts. Maybe you could tell your mom how you are feeling?
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My Mom has Alzheimer's, but my Dad was always more into caring for us.
 

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