Poll!! Am I being unfairly mean??

[joebryant]

What's the problem? Tell your son and his family to move (period). You raised him; you are no longer responsible for him or his problems. You are not doing him or yourself a favor enabling him or his lazy wife. Put them all OUT and relax in the hot tub alone.

 

[Chickenmaven]

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I agree with Connie.

A friend of mine joked: "Age 30 is the new 18." That is sooo true and sooo not funny.

 

[CrazyChickMom]

They need to move! I try to remember in these tough situations that I am doing them a favor (I love them) so I can't hand them things. It's hard and I can't say that I've done it. I've tried. In asking them to leave is to help them mature. Just my take.....

 

[Shanay235]

Just another thought...............
If your DIL has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and is not complying with her treatment by taking meds, doctors visits, etc., that's a REALLY GOOD reason for a judge to grant your son custody.

 

[LaneKim]

My mother and I have been discussing this post this morning and as we browsed some more throught this section of the site and found this post wich we both agreed i should post the linkto here hope it helps...

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=193331

-lexi-

 

[shawnkfl]

"This thought has crossed my mind. Maybe today is a good day to start. She cleans her car out and just throws the garbage bags down out front instead of putting them in the dump trailor. Sounds like that will be my first project."

i would pick up the trash for her. and deposit it right back in her car. everywhere.

 

[redhen]

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Yup..that will start it..

 

[EweSheep]

Kick their (or hers) butts out of the door! I agree with JoeBryant here! No pay, no stay!

Enabling them is the worst offender you can do for the children. Time to go kids! Bye bye, mommy and daddy are finished raising you and time for you to spread your wings!

 

[onthespot]

I am in the process of scraping my sister loose. Thirty days ago I gave her thirty days notice. She has permanent disability and gets $1200/mo but refuses to pay rent. She has been here three years and barely will wash a dish or buy a bag of food. She sleeps all day and messes around online entertaining herself. She ususally has an Ipod stuck in her ears too so she is worthless if I call her to do something like turn on the porch light, or water the lawn... It has just gotten old... WAY old. Anyhow, today I asked her if she was moving out and I think she has found out that a bad credit score and no references is a hindrance. I wonder how tough she will find it to be with an eviction on top of that... I am just so SiCK of her sense of entitlement and all. She was very sick when she moved in, but she just ain't that sick any more, even though she still draws a check every month. She could hold a job, maybe not a high pay one, but she could drag home some money and she could wash a dish or wipe down the shower once or twice a month... but she won't. Adios, one way or another she is headed on a new adventure. I drove her by some nice looking apartments today that had a sign outside, "$99 moves you in" and "Free Wi-Fi for our Residents" She said she would go check it out.

You are NOT being mean. Draw the line any freaking where you want it and make her toe it. Your house, your rules. Otherwise, sayonara.

 

[birdnutz]

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Aready did that! Got me know where. Just twice the garbage. Got informed by my own son tonight " that I already pay for it, so why can't he have it for free?" I agree !! To the curb.. That is so hard for me to say. I'm crying as I say this. But tough love it has to be. The worst part. It might cost my marriage of 30 years. How does that strike you? I guess thats the way it has to be.