Fluffy Butt Acres: Stories of our flock

[RebeccaBoyd]

What about - and pardon I don't recall what she is - the resident budgie for some feathered comfort - or I suppose she is asleep too?

Happy has a routine, and by the time things calmed down she was already settled in her cage for the night. I also tend to not bother her in the evenings. With my brother's work schedule, the mornings and the evenings are his and her time. Especially the evenings. I can mess with her with him around in the mornings, but at nighttime she does not want to leave him. The few times he's cooked at night and she knows he is home and he hands her off to me, she's bitten me. Now when he is at work, or on his days off the afternoons the bird loves me and will abandon my brother to come play with me.

Happy is a black capped green conure.

 

[featherhead007]

She acted up the days leading up to and on Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving morning demanded to be taken to her house and left to die. My brother stepped in and she settled down for a few days. She is starting up again as Christmas is getting close. She has boycotted us the last several holidays. Last night she said she was going to a nursing home. I wish I had that on video as I would be making those phone calls myself. She needs one. Here is the thing though, we me and mom finally do snap and put her in one, she will never speak to either of us again. As much as I am ready for her to go, I am not ready for that.

That statement was too permanent. In a nursing Home, she would forget her family problems and want to see you again.

 

[RebeccaBoyd]

That statement was too permanent. In a nursing Home, she would forget her family problems and want to see you again.

I would like to think that. I also think maybe a month in one would let her see how good she has it here. A nursing home is not going to let her demand and choose every 5 course meal she wants. She will not be allowed to eat everything she wants, when she wants no matter how big of a fit she throws if you say no. I actually feel bad in a way for the staff when she goes to one. She fights with you over taking her medicine. Fights with you when you help her get a bath, half the time flat out refusing. They will not let that happen. I cannot tell you the times have been halfway through fixing her and the family a meal and she decide she does not want that. She will call what you are making crap, say she is not eating it she wants something else. If you do not fix it she will go off, and at times throw things. She is breaking us down. My brother actively avoids her for the most part. He has a temper and is deathly afraid he is going to say something to her he cannot take back. He is her favorite grandchild, and had a very close relationship with her. He does not recognize her anymore. My dad, he wants to say something to her but stays out of it at mom's request. Instead, he hides when he is home, with the horses.

 

[ManueB]

I would like to think that. I also think maybe a month in one would let her see how good she has it here. A nursing home is not going to let her demand and choose every 5 course meal she wants. She will not be allowed to eat everything she wants, when she wants no matter how big of a fit she throws if you say no. I actually feel bad in a way for the staff when she goes to one. She fights with you over taking her medicine. Fights with you when you help her get a bath, half the time flat out refusing. They will not let that happen. I cannot tell you the times have been halfway through fixing her and the family a meal and she decide she does not want that. She will call what you are making crap, say she is not eating it she wants something else. If you do not fix it she will go off, and at times throw things. She is breaking us down. My brother actively avoids her for the most part. He has a temper and is deathly afraid he is going to say something to her he cannot take back. He is her favorite grandchild, and had a very close relationship with her. He does not recognize her anymore. My dad, he wants to say something to her but stays out of it at mom's request. Instead, he hides when he is home, with the horses.

It's hard on everyone.
Health care is a job. It may be a difficult one but the relationships patients have with the nurses won't be as charged emotionally as with their family. Just like kids can act up with their parents and be very different at school.

There's no doubt I think that every single day your grandma spends in your house is a gift of love to her from all of you-- but it's a gift she can't acknowledge.
If it was possible, having her move for a short stay in a home would certainly allow all of you to take a break.
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I don't think I would have the strength to do it.

 

[Ponypoor]

Scary creatures are out at night!
I need to figure how it breached the electric fence.

Coyotes?

 

[Ponypoor]

Porch Time

The expanded porch seems to be a success.

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Nice! I need to do that here!

… or I mean there… hahaha!

 

[Ponypoor]

She acted up the days leading up to and on Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving morning demanded to be taken to her house and left to die. My brother stepped in and she settled down for a few days. She is starting up again as Christmas is getting close. She has boycotted us the last several holidays. Last night she said she was going to a nursing home. I wish I had that on video as I would be making those phone calls myself. She needs one. Here is the thing though, we me and mom finally do snap and put her in one, she will never speak to either of us again. As much as I am ready for her to go, I am not ready for that.

Oh I am so sad for this dilemma

Holidays just seem to make people sad… such a strange twist when that should so joyous, I sometimes think that all the joys of childhood are used up by the time we get to our senior years

 

[Ponypoor]

Happy has a routine, and by the time things calmed down she was already settled in her cage for the night. I also tend to not bother her in the evenings. With my brother's work schedule, the mornings and the evenings are his and her time. Especially the evenings. I can mess with her with him around in the mornings, but at nighttime she does not want to leave him. The few times he's cooked at night and she knows he is home and he hands her off to me, she's bitten me. Now when he is at work, or on his days off the afternoons the bird loves me and will abandon my brother to come play with me.

Happy is a black capped green conure.
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Hello Happy you’re looking awesome!

 

[Ponypoor]

Bedtime!
Whether they like it or not!

I checked in and they were in the alleyway when mum came to put them in early!

Don’t think they were very impressed!

 

[RebeccaBoyd]

Prime example of grandma's behavior. She has 8 brothers and sisters still living. Only 1 of her brothers will come visit her. He comes up a couple times a week. Today he no sooner then set down and got a cup of coffee when she started. His wife of almost 35 years died 2 years ago the day after thanksgiving. She informed him today that did he know that when they got married that she was 3 months pregnant with another mans child. Who say's something like that. When the person is not around to defend themselves. Not only that, she did not have her first baby until they were married 2 years.