Fluffy Butt Acres: Stories of our flock

[RoyalChick]

Ok, so in the 15 minutes it took me to make a pot of coffee and take it out to my dad, take those video's and pictures of the hooligans and get half of a cup of coffee drunk myself Grandma fell. When I went outside she was in the bed asleep. She had been sleeping for about 15 minutes so I expected her to nap for a good 2 hours like normal. I'm sitting between the stalls, and her bed is right beside the window where I'm at. If she got up and used her walker like she is supposed to I could hear her as the window was open. I hear nothing until there was a loud crash. Me and dad jump up and run inside and she is laying in the floor about 4 feet away from her bed on her side. I caught her rolling over from her back as I was running in. I swear to you, and she has the nerve to deny she fell. She got down to see what the cat is doing under her bed and the noise we heard was her pushing the computer chair out of the way. LIES LIES LIES!!! The computer chair is where it was left, on the opposite side of the living room. She got hateful when we tried to help her up, but her weak leg gave out and I had to catch her from falling again. I asked her if she hit her head and I'm trying to check for cuts and bruises when she demands I leave her alone and quit saying she fell when she did not. There is no visible bruises, but I expect to find a good one when we help her shower tonight. When mom got up from the nap she was taking due to a migraine and having to take a imatrex a hour ago she told her not to listen to us and that she did not fall. She is NOT listening to us, thinks she does not need her walker, or a cane and every chance she gets she does not use them. She is not going to quit until she does fall and break her hip or worse. When that happens she will have no choice but to go into a nursing home, which I almost think she now wants. The other day while helping her shower I forgot the shampoo she uses and asked her to stay put until I got back. I said the last thing we needed was a broken hip. She replied if that happens then she would just go into a home and have them serve her 3 meals a day and have to do nothing.

 

[ChicoryBlue]

“A man’s gotta know his limitations” (Clint Eastwood)

Would-be doctor (surgeon) to chicken: "You feelin' lucky, punk?"

 

[Ponypoor]

Ok, so in the 15 minutes it took me to make a pot of coffee and take it out to my dad, take those video's and pictures of the hooligans and get half of a cup of coffee drunk myself Grandma fell. When I went outside she was in the bed asleep. She had been sleeping for about 15 minutes so I expected her to nap for a good 2 hours like normal. I'm sitting between the stalls, and her bed is right beside the window where I'm at. If she got up and used her walker like she is supposed to I could hear her as the window was open. I hear nothing until there was a loud crash. Me and dad jump up and run inside and she is laying in the floor about 4 feet away from her bed on her side. I caught her rolling over from her back as I was running in. I swear to you, and she has the nerve to deny she fell. She got down to see what the cat is doing under her bed and the noise we heard was her pushing the computer chair out of the way. LIES LIES LIES!!! The computer chair is where it was left, on the opposite side of the living room. She got hateful when we tried to help her up, but her weak leg gave out and I had to catch her from falling again. I asked her if she hit her head and I'm trying to check for cuts and bruises when she demands I leave her alone and quit saying she fell when she did not. There is no visible bruises, but I expect to find a good one when we help her shower tonight. When mom got up from the nap she was taking due to a migraine and having to take a imatrex a hour ago she told her not to listen to us and that she did not fall. She is NOT listening to us, thinks she does not need her walker, or a cane and every chance she gets she does not use them. She is not going to quit until she does fall and break her hip or worse. When that happens she will have no choice but to go into a nursing home, which I almost think she now wants. The other day while helping her shower I forgot the shampoo she uses and asked her to stay put until I got back. I said the last thing we needed was a broken hip. She replied if that happens then she would just go into a home and have them serve her 3 meals a day and have to do nothing.

Oh Rebecca I am so sad to hear this

What a shock for you, and your parents. And I am sure your Gramma also. Denial is part and parcel of a reaction to stress and a shock.

Remember - you really cannot force your Gramma to use her Waller / cane, and in reality she likely just plain forgets to use it.

I wish I could snap my fingers and make it all like it was, or in some way better. Sometimes I just get so mad at 'life' and how unfair it seems to people at times.

Anyways I am giving you hugs and a shoulder to lean on, I am so glad you have a close family unit with you.

 

[Ponypoor]

Sorry, but I’m not one to see the bright side of things sometimes.

Yes sometimes hard not to feel sad.

 

[Ponypoor]

I traded Rocks-Ann in for Coco (she’s also a Rock) lots of snuggling here today.

I tried to snuggle whiskers but she gave me the stink eye, I think my stye on my eye was what did it

Which is still miserable...

 

[Ponypoor]

90000 wow!

Alex how was your day? Did u see Chaco, and get some fishing in?

I was thinking of you fishing today and there I was stuck at work... Not that I was much interested in outside stuff today, it was darn chilly!

 

[Ponypoor]

Ok all I can't read anymore my eye is miserable, everyone have a splendid evening/morning

 

[ChicoryBlue]

Ok, so in the 15 minutes it took me to make a pot of coffee and take it out to my dad, take those video's and pictures of the hooligans and get half of a cup of coffee drunk myself Grandma fell. When I went outside she was in the bed asleep. She had been sleeping for about 15 minutes so I expected her to nap for a good 2 hours like normal. I'm sitting between the stalls, and her bed is right beside the window where I'm at. If she got up and used her walker like she is supposed to I could hear her as the window was open. I hear nothing until there was a loud crash. Me and dad jump up and run inside and she is laying in the floor about 4 feet away from her bed on her side. I caught her rolling over from her back as I was running in. I swear to you, and she has the nerve to deny she fell. She got down to see what the cat is doing under her bed and the noise we heard was her pushing the computer chair out of the way. LIES LIES LIES!!! The computer chair is where it was left, on the opposite side of the living room. She got hateful when we tried to help her up, but her weak leg gave out and I had to catch her from falling again. I asked her if she hit her head and I'm trying to check for cuts and bruises when she demands I leave her alone and quit saying she fell when she did not. There is no visible bruises, but I expect to find a good one when we help her shower tonight. When mom got up from the nap she was taking due to a migraine and having to take a imatrex a hour ago she told her not to listen to us and that she did not fall. She is NOT listening to us, thinks she does not need her walker, or a cane and every chance she gets she does not use them. She is not going to quit until she does fall and break her hip or worse. When that happens she will have no choice but to go into a nursing home, which I almost think she now wants. The other day while helping her shower I forgot the shampoo she uses and asked her to stay put until I got back. I said the last thing we needed was a broken hip. She replied if that happens then she would just go into a home and have them serve her 3 meals a day and have to do nothing.

Hugs for you all.

She won't have all the chickens and egg hatching to entertain her or cuddle with.... (keeping to the positive: she's interested in the birds, they can't go to the home)

This can be motivating, IF she can keep it in mind, which is doubtful. There are sometimes finches in nursing homes, in our area the finches in the county home were breeding and residents got the birds in their rooms, on a rotating basis.

I kinda feel a nursing home is in the near future for her. (I might be wrong.)

Frankly it could very well be.

Oh Rebecca I am so sad to hear this

What a shock for you, and your parents. And I am sure your Gramma also. Denial is part and parcel of a reaction to stress and a shock.

Remember - you really cannot force your Gramma to use her Waller / cane, and in reality she likely just plain forgets to use it.

Yes, the denial is like wishing for it to not be the way it is. She has been independent and it is a big change, and her dementia prevents her from dealing realistically. My grandma claimed a burglar had broken in and hit her on the head when she fell (fell because of a stroke). The habit of not needing walking assistance is very hard to break.

She probably needs 24-hour companionship, someone eagle-eyed within a few steps of her. You might think about hiring an aide for some section of the day / night, if you can afford it, for respite. Rounding up friends to "visit" and "drop in" on a schedule you all secretly create can sometimes work (my close friend and granddaughter did this with their mother/grandmother, but she had a wide circle of people she'd known for years and years - sewing club, book club, gardening club). Otherwise you are on watch 24/7.

 

[GregnLety]

I need to visit Newfoundland someday. My hillbilly English vs Canadian hillbilly would make for lots of laughs

Sounds like an awesome time. Are you sure you're not from newfoundland

 

[featherhead007]

Alex how was your day? Did u see Chaco, and get some fishing in?

I was thinking of you fishing today and there I was stuck at work... Not that I was much interested in outside stuff today, it was darn chilly!

Today did not go as I had planned. I didn’t get to see her, didn’t go to the lake, or fishing (I bought some fish at the store yesterday and ate that) but, Arizona is doing better now and she didn’t die.